Why does the court system have to take so long in a divorce? Jerks doing bad things just get to keep on doing them longer until you can finally get them into court! Why is it always raining when it is my day to take the dog out to poop? Selling our house ..... nuff said there. People who feel it is ok to lecture me on life choices. I am over 50 and do NOT want to be lectured!

Just recently my sister and I had a yard sale. We had a TON of stuff from my mother, who passed away. We had dish sets and glasses and decorative items, two sets of golf clubs, cupboards and hutches (yes, plural), clothing, books -- all the stuff that usually goes fast. For some reason no one was buying anything! They would poke around and then maybe buy one thing. We had things priced within yard-sale reasonableness, but no bites. Finally we hit on the idea of saying to people "We are clearing out my mother's house. She just passed away. Everything is FREE, but if you would like to give a donation to help offset costs that would be fine." All of a sudden people would pick up a set of dishes, say they wanted them and then give $10 - $20 dollars! People would feel bad about just taking stuff and would overcompensate I guess. I am sure some people took stuff and just left but most were quite friendly and way more generous than if they bought it at the labeled price. In the end we got rid of everything (yay! no loading up the car to go to the dump). Once people hear "free" they start to look at things differently and are more willing to take stuff they normally wouldn't. Then they would feel good about giving $1, $2, $5 or $10 for stuff because it was their choice what to give.

My boss is retiring after 30 years, although I have only worked 2 years for him. We got him a gift from his alma mater. He is really proud of where he graduated from. There are usually some really nice gifts from the University's store. Maybe that could be an option. We got a mirror with a picture of the campus and had something nice inscribed on it.

The whole story is very tragic. A while ago I read an article on him -- his father was a huge influence in his life. According to reports his father instilled a good work ethic and sports ethic in him. When his father passed away everything went to ruin .... his mother remarried a guy who abused her (and if I am remembering correctly she married her niece's boyfriend). The family became fractured. Drugs starting being prominent in their house, etc. I think he lost his way once his father died and his mother went off the deep end. So many lives wasted.

We will be using the equity in the house to pay off our parent loans for the girls' college, then splitting anything left. It would be nice to get a chunk of money out of the sale of the house, and we have a good amount of equity, but at this point I would just rather the damn thing sell. I need to be done with him.

He is supposed to be paying me temporary support as of the end of March. He hasn't paid a dime. He says he cannot afford to pay anything until the house sells. The house was supposed to go on the market LAST spring but he threw a hissy fit when our daughters found out about his affair and he decided to dig his heels in and not get the house ready. I have filed a contempt order for the payments he has not made so we are waiting on a date for that. Yeah, I think he is afraid of finding a place on his own. I think he is unsure what his next step will be. He also hates that his daughters are no longer speaking to him because he messed this whole situation up big time but he does not have the character to try and fix it. He hates being held accountable. Last time I saw him he look awful. The waves of anger coming off of him were palpable.

I personally think the house is overpriced. They said they would re-look at the price in 30 days. Also, it is a LOT of house to take care of . The landscaping, the upkeep, etc., will probably scare a lot of people (husbands haha) away. But, it seems to me that people should at least be going through it. I sent that email about an hour ago. If I don't receive a response by late this afternoon I am going to call them. This is ridiculous.

.I am sitting here at work seriously trying to hold it together. I feel like I am going to just start screaming and not be able to stop. I too want this over so badly. The real kick is HE wanted the divorce. HE had the affair. I have done everything to expedite this process and he is just making this so much harder than necessary.

The market here is supposed to be very good. And the sooner the house sells the sooner my STBX has no excuse not to start paying me alimony (right now he is in contempt for not paying me) I am just going to stay on them. I wouldn't mind so much that there hasn't been a lot of activity - that can sometimes happen. It's just the absolute lack of communication. And then when I do ask I get very short responses. I don't think so, not when you have the potential to get commission on an 800K+ house.

I co-signed all the paperwork so my name is definitely on there.

So the house went on the market two weeks ago. My STBX picked the realtor. She happens to be someone who used to be a very close, common friend of ours - let's just call her Mary. When everything went to hell sides were definitely picked, and she picked my STBX. Fine. Whatever. As long as the house sells. The first weekend they had an open house. I emailed Mary's assistant (it's just less awkward that way) about feedback and received a pretty detailed account. Then ..... nothing for two weeks. Silence. So I emailed this weekend for an update. Again, nothing. Emailed again. I get a one sentence email that says "as far as I know there has been no activity last week." So I email again and say "Is that normal to have no activity on a house that just went on the market?" to which I get another terse response : "It had activity its first week on the market. Not much since." Really??? So I sent her this (I've changed some of the names haha): Dear Mary's assistant ~ I know this is an odd situation with the divorce pending between STBX and I. Or perhaps this is a situation that you have run into a lot in your business. For me this is the first time going through a divorce while selling a house. As with any house on the market, the owners are always wanting to sell it as quickly as possible for the best price. In our case, there is extra pressure to sell as it will help finalize the divorce proceedings. What I am requesting from you and Mary is continuous and up-to-date feedback on the status of the house, including any and all offers no matter how low. I would also assume that, as the house is new on the market, there is some type of marketing plan for it so that it does not just sit with no activity. Will it be listed in any newspapers? Will there be another open house scheduled? Is the house being made available for easy showings? What is the plan when interest slows down on the house? I am assuming that STBX is getting more detailed feedback and is in on redeveloping different strategies as time goes on. I am requesting that I am in that loop also. I am assuming STBX is not getting only one sentence updates that he has to request. The house is in both our names and as such we both should be in on all the same information. If there is no plan to react to the house having no activity then I need to be in on that also. Is it because of the time of the year and no other houses are seeing activity? Is there too much competition? What can we do to drum up some interest? I look to you and Mary to know best how to sell the house, but I am asking that I be consulted with, updated , and have an established part in the partnership that is necessary between an owner and the realtor. I appreciate your help in this matter. Thank you ~ I am just sick to my stomach over these stupid games. I hate hate hate this. If I have to ramp up the bitch factor I will, but I just want to say to my stupid STBX "ain't you tired?!"

Had our first open house this weekend. People came through both days even though Saturday was a rainy, sleety mess. We got the usual mix of good and bad feedback. Getting the bad feedback makes me so anxious! It's only been on the market for a week but right away I start fretting that the house will never sell. I hate selling a house! People come through and examine every little thing - as I do when I am the buyer - but it just makes me nervous that there will never be anyone happy enough with the house.

Perhaps she is at the wrong college for her. My youngest is very outgoing and never had any real problems making friends. Her first semester at college was a disaster. The college was a "suitcase school" where most people went home on the weekends so there was no real opportunity to do things on the weekends when most bonding takes place. Also, the type of girls that were there did not mesh with her type at all. It was a relatively large university, about 12,000 people, but even that large a university will get a feel and a vibe to it that permeates the social scene. After one semester she changed schools and is now very, very happy. It seems like a drastic thing to - changing schools - but I could not imagine her enduring 4 years there. And freshman year is a good indicator of how it is going to go. Everyone is new. Everyone is looking to make friends. If there is no connection being made it usually does not get better in future years when everyone has made their friend groups.

I'm not sure if I find the actual pat-down disturbing. What is disturbing is that we live in a world where this is now necessary. There are places in the world where children are being used as bomb carriers just because they are children. So the fact that the boy is young .... you just can't assume anything these days. And I have seen other videos of people being subjected to very thorough pat downs, but I think that I personally would not take offense to it. It would make me feel safer knowing that the flight I was on was being so closely scrutinized. Who would have ever thought that planes could be hijacked with box cutters? For every procedure we put in place, bad guys come up with a way around it.

If my house was on the market in the town I work in the price would be closer to one million. So much depends on the zip code! The town where the house is is a very nice town, it is just 20 minutes further outside of Boston than the more expensive towns. That makes a difference in the price. The commute can be hell. Also, it is in a very large subdivision with other houses for sale so there is some competition there. The price is probably a bit low but I want a fast sale. We have enough equity and it is time I have my life back!

Lots of cranberry bogs! That is a beautiful area

I moved out a year ago. My husband still lives there but I think he spends most of his time at his new chickies house. We have been slowly clearing and decluttering everything. Everything is pretty much out by now.

It was the builder's home so he tricked the house out completely. It has beautiful stone walls and the landscaping always has something in bloom. There is a back walkway is lined with about 10 hydrangea bushes and gorgeous flowering trees in the front. We had taken pictures one spring just in case we sold in the winter so we could at least showcase the landscaping. The house should make some family very happy.

About 30 minutes outside of Boston on the South Shore (so it's about 30 minutes from Cape Cod - great location) Right now it is priced at $879,000

SOLD! haha :hurray: :lol:

Fingers crossed that it sells FAST! https://cdn.cbhomes.com/s3/mediasvc-prd/properties/b6aeeADcd7F1496-72135988.jpg?preset=trim https://cdn.cbhomes.com/s3/mediasvc-prd/properties/0e83c1Db13E8473-72135988.jpg?preset=trim https://cdn.cbhomes.com/s3/mediasvc-prd/properties/1384f1E75867472-72135988.jpg?preset=trim https://cdn.cbhomes.com/s3/mediasvc-prd/properties/e2e36238b9B344F-72135988.jpg?preset=trim https://1cdn.cbhomes.com/s3/mediasvc-prd/properties/d1094658204840E-72135988.jpg?preset=trim https://1cdn.cbhomes.com/s3/mediasvc-prd/properties/7adf0D46293e44E-72135988.jpg?preset=trim https://cdn.cbhomes.com/s3/mediasvc-prd/properties/7b1f931bd629490-72135988.jpg?preset=trim https://1cdn.cbhomes.com/s3/mediasvc-prd/properties/bf19944c050e467-72135988.jpg?preset=trim https://1cdn.cbhomes.com/s3/mediasvc-prd/properties/59ce7DD5ed04460-72135988.jpg?preset=trim https://cdn.cbhomes.com/s3/mediasvc-prd/properties/7ea11CAbbe124eD-72135988.jpg?preset=trim

Nope. Never used one and never will. When I was little my mother used hers all the time, but every time she did she would yell "It's like a bomb!! It could explode at any time!! It could literally kill you!" My mother loved to terrify her kids. I have never been comfortable around pressure cookers. I also fear the threat of spontaneous combustion, or somehow slipping into the 4th dimension where no one would ever be able to find me, or hearing a bell ring and thinking the devil is near ...... My mother was not a source of comfort haha

Catwoman ~ I do hear what you are saying and in some ways I agree. I do not want to make any choices out of vindictiveness or bitterness. I do, however, have to protect myself financially. If he is willing to negotiate a fair deal that allows me to live a reasonable lifestyle then I won't have a problem letting the house go. I only put it on the negotiation table when I realized he was going to fight me for every last dime. Getting a portion of the house may allow me to retire at a reasonable age, or allow me to live somewhere I feel safe. I have to at least keep it as a negotiation until I know what I will be receiving. I won't be nasty about it, but believe me, if he had his way he would leave me with nothing. I have to fight back with all the resources I can.

I deleted that post for privacy. I still plan on using it for a negotiation tactic and perhaps benefit from it. After all these years what's his is mine too.

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