Well, I try to have everything done by the time my husband comes home. He works long hours and I want the time he's home to be our, not stressed time. When the house is cluttered and things still need to be done, I'm stressed too.
My kids are young though and we don't have as much schoolwork to do.
I like the idea of listing everything you do in a average day and asking his opinion on what can be done to improve. This way it's not "us vs. them" kind of thing, but working as a team. And maybe a little attitude adjustment for him as well. ;)