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AKshanmar

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  1. Really... ? I would leave them on the shelf, and keep thinking I should do something about them. Oh wait, that wasn't the answer you were looking for! When I am in the right mood, I can throw things away... that is probably what you should really do.
  2. Down to earth people just make the world a better place! Glad you had a nice evening!
  3. When using Singapore, your first step is to always use a bar graph like Kate demonstrated above. Fill in the information you have, and the solution starts to fall into place. I am such a visual learner, I know I learned more, teaching my kids with this program, than I did in College Calculus!
  4. We worked through some rough times with my husband's parents... lots of forgiveness... but worth it. I appreciate the encouragement, as we have had a hard week with my brother and SIL. Ugh! Always good to see light at the end of the tunnel!
  5. My youngest was very much that way. Like others have said, directly answer her questions, but handle it casually. As a 15 old now, her faith is very important to her and she understands it very well, because she put a lot of thought and effort into it.
  6. Whew! I had my phone actually stolen a few months ago. It was so upsetting! Glad your story ended better!
  7. BTW... I have no idea why there is a "?" at the end of my post. Sorry!
  8. You have gotten some great support here to do what YOU need to do for YOUR family. We were mostly classical homeschoolers when the kids were young, with a pretty strict schedule. However, I am friends with folks who are very active in the unschooling realm, and I can completely appreciate the benefit of that avenue. I watched one friend have AMAZING success with her two oldest unschooling. But then she had to completely change paths when her youngest couldn't read at all by 5th grade. Perhaps he would have decided he wanted to learn to read in 6th or 7th grade, but all aspects of his life were being affected by his inability. Maybe this avenue will open up to you again, but for now, enjoy your more structured journey?
  9. We have some rather "poor" gift givers in our extended family. They mean well, but I have no idea what they were thinking half the time. My MIL's love language IS NOT gift giving. She would give the kids the weirdest things, and my FIL picks out really expensive things, that nobody likes. My SIL's love language IS gift giving. So she would buy the kids a million gifts, and who cared if they were really any thing they wanted. Oddly enough, both MIL & SIL gave the kids baby board books for Easter one year when they were between the ages of 7 - 12). My dad tries really hard, but usually misses the boat. My mom lets the kids tell her what she wants, so that works! ANYWAY, we used to practice what to say when you got a gift you didn't like. I would throw out insane gift options, and they would come up with something nice to say. That way, when they actually received a gift that they never wanted, they were so excited to "play the game". "What if you got a sweater, 5 sizes too big"...... "Oh, I can keep it for years." "...a used dishrag?".... "Oh, it is so soft". "...a moldy hunk of cheese?"..."Uh...wow! How unexpected" (not too creative there). We don't need to play this anymore... but it was a great tension buster!
  10. KIds go to sleep that early? I know, I know, I some how created a mutated version. When my oldest were, 2 & 3 I kind of gave up on bedtimes. They had to stay in their room and I went to bed. My kids NEVER woke me up at 6:00 am, like I hear kids are supposed to do.... Never. So when the Fed-Ex guy came at 9:45, they would have answered the door. Should that be on the confessions post?
  11. Oh, I did that last week. I was working full time, away from home. So, blah! I did discover vingerette is wonderful for a sore throat however. Feel better soon!
  12. OH, you poor thing! After the first one, we learn to do without sleep, but it sure makes it hard! My fourth one was given to me to make me humble. She wanted to be held at all times... I wish slings had been more common then, because that was what she wanted. However, I certainly wasn't allowed to do anything while I was holding her. Also, according to her, nursing was ONLY for food, not for comfort. With my other three, if they fussed... "have a snack, baby". But with her, ummm.... no. Also, according to her, babies are not rocked to sleep, they must be walked to sleep, for hours. If she ever actually fell asleep, I must continue to rock my whole body, even after having put the baby down, in the exact same motion as I left the room, or she would immediatly wake up. Really. For over a year. She had terrible asthma, so if I let her cry, she would have an asthma attack. The only other way she would ever go to sleep was sitting in her bouncy chair, next to a RUNNING shower. But to comfort the OP.... this too shall pass. She will be 15 on Sunday! She still only sleeps about 5 hours a day, but other than that she is mostly delightful. (I should note, that she came right after number 3 who believed in 5 hour naps, after being rocked for 15 seconds, and 12 hour nights. She was a real shock after that bliss.)
  13. Well, just for fun...I'll throw my house in, to skew the averages. 10,000 sf! OK, but it pays for itself as it is a B&B. It is an old remodeled dairy barn. We have six guests rooms, which can sleep up to 28 people. Our part of the house is just under 2000sf. We have 3 bedrooms for 6 of us, although the 2 oldest are gone now. Living in a cold climate, extra space is always nice, as you can't just send the kids out all of the time. We were also very happy when we lived in our 30 foot motorhome... You can peak at our B&B at www.pioneerridge.com
  14. Their customer service is superb! You can always call them.
  15. Well, my family is definately living proof that there ARE learning styles. I am VERY visual. I can't understand it unless I read it. I take notes, and then can remember things based on having written them down. My kids were 5-12 when we started homeschooling. I had them read and take notes... and then spent a lot of time being disgusted that they seemed to have absorbed, well, nothing. They couldn't sit still. I can't focus if I am doing anything else, so I was sure this was a problem and tried to squelch it. This went on the first 2 years. At a homeschool conference, I listened to a spectacular speaker, whose name I can't remember. His most memorable quote to me, was about and interaction with his wife, when she told him to be still and listen to her. His answer was "I can't hear you when I am still." He recommended a quick learning style test at the website www.howtolearn.com. All six of us took the test. I was 85%visual. My husband and the 4 kids were all basically 40%auditory and 40%kinestetic (why isn't the spell check working for me!?) I have to say, that I actually cried. How would I teach them?! But, I changed things up. We had a gym bar in the living room, and rolling chairs. I read and read and read to them, while they did this and that. I tried to encourage things that didn't drive me crazy, like coloring & knitting. But we had the BEST year. They were LEARNING! That was my experience. That being said, at 5 it is hard to determine learning style...I would just do what you are doing, and go from there.
  16. Wow, I must be getting old! I really don't remember any comments that ticked me off when my kids were little, and the oldest was 5 when #4 was born. I really don't take offense at much anyway. Also 4 is not at all an odd number of kids up here in Alaska. Hands full? Yeah, they were, so no offense there! Mine were a rowdy bunch.
  17. I agree with you....My dh Loves hockey. I can enjoy it, but if I had my choice, I would stay home and read a book! But my relationship is more important... so off to the game I go. A lot of the time it is me doing things that are important to him, but, he cares more, and I am a people pleaser. So I do those things. It adds depth to our relationship, that would be lost if I chose "me" over "us".
  18. LOL... I don't think this applies to us! We fall in the "opposites attract" category! We were 20 & 22 when we married, and we just celebrated our 22nd anniversary. Intelligence... I don't know either of our IQ's... but he has a curious mix of brilliance that doesn't always fit reality, but sometimes exceeds it. I am really smart, but I can't remember anything that I know. (Ha ha ha... really). Energy...Oh boy... If I had the energy he has, there would be an explosion. He once told me that he "envied my ability to do nothing". I really don't know what that was.... Social... pretty equal. I'm more extroverted than he is. He finds people to slow most of the time. But if I manage to get him there, he usually enjoys himself. But I don't mind just staying home. Cultural... somewhat similar. Dad's both came from farming families, and tried to raise themselves above it. My mom was wealthy and educated. His mom, just educated. Morals... our faith is the basis of our relationship, and what has held us together for 22 years. We often approach it from different directions, but it is the most important thing.
  19. Well, at least when you get pregnant, labor will be a breeze, because you are suffering about the same level right now! (OK, that was completely pointless, but I was trying to find something positive.) I would definately go to a Obgyn. They will know what to check for. Cysts, endorometriosis.... I always had bad periods, but after my 4th child, I developed a fibroid tumor (which most likely is not your case, because you are way to young), but I remember thinking that if I didn't know it was just cramps, I would be in the hospital. (and really, it is as bad as childbirth) I had a delightful hysterectomy (The joy!) but, again, that doesn't apply to you yet, but see the obgyn! Good luck!
  20. Ditto on what Patty Joanna said. I actually usually get my covers off of amazon. You can get them for one or two dollars most of the time. Then I just switch around. I like it a little tacky, so it doesn't slip off things. I'm too cheap to buy an otterbox.
  21. LOL... we own a bed & breakfast! We never eat breakfast! I cook all summer, and he cooks for our weekend groups during the winter. I usually get him coffee however, but that is because the coffee machine is in the guest area, and in the winter, all our guests our women at retreats, and he is frightened of them! :coolgleamA:
  22. LOL! I SOOOO agree. Shipping is such a huge issue up here in Alaska, and we are still a part of the US. UGH. I once had a limited amount of money to spend on an order, which I spent a long time putting all together, to stay within budget. I had looked for the small print, that said "continental US only" regarding the free shipping, but it only showed up, when I hit submit. $30 for a $100 order. No thanks. Sigh.
  23. I inherited my dd's bear paws, and I LOVE them! I usually dress pretty formally, but I sure wish I could wear them all the time. We've probably had them 5 years. I've even run them through the washer.
  24. We took a fun little trip through the San Juan Islands, staying somewhere new every night, traveling by ferry, ending up in Edmonton & Victoria. It was off season, but we really enjoyed it. Another time we drove south into Ensenada, Mexico. We found a quaint little place, and relaxed. One time we rented a house boat in Seattle, and then just hung out in the city. Another time, hubby suprised me with an anniversery trip to Vail. Again, off season, so things are cheaper. I thought I was spending one night in Anchorage, instead I got on a plane! I had given my mom one day of lesson plans. She was sure I was going to kill my husband, but other than being slightly shocking, and then having to deal with the slightly odd wardrobe he had packed me, it was great! Of course $2500 would barely get us out of Alaska, the way tickets are now!
  25. I agree with the "limited consequence" option. I would work his emotions a bit, a little guilt trip. Remind him that things he posts on fb are public. We once fired a employee over a post he made on FB, so it can have long term effects!
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