Wow, what a fascinating thread! And while this topic can sometimes become heated, I think everyone here has handled it with grace. For those who are earnestly trying to understand Calvinism, I highly recommend The Five Points of Calvinism by Edwin H. Palmer. The ladies Bible study at my church studied this book last year, and we all found it very helpful, even those who had grown up in the Reformed faith. It is not a long book, but very thorough in backing everything up with Scripture. I even have an extra copy I'd be happy to give away. I'm still trying to figure out this message board, so it would probably be better for you to visit my blog and click on the "Email Me" button if you're interested in the copy. :)