I'm not trying to be difficult, I promise. It's just that I worried how other Christians would judge me when they found out my past and that I was married before. I was so relieved when I had multiple people tell me that they believed that my ex broke our marriage covenant long before we physically split up. God requires husbands to treat their wives well. When they repeatedly refuse, they are breaking their marriage covenant. I know that God hates divorce. I think that he hates his children being abused more. In fact, I think I sinned by staying for 2 years after my son was born. That was wrong. My son also needs a real daddy. I don't think God wants to refuse my son that.

I know that you are a nurse, but nurses serve in many capacities. Have you sat by a loved one's bed day and night after day and night as their body stiffens painfully from dehydration/starvation? If you have pneumonia, at least you can have IV pain meds to take away your awareness of any suffering. Have you ever watched a slow, slow death without that? I just did. When you are so dehydrated that your blood is shunted to your main organs, putting a few morphine drops in one's mouth doesn't take away pain. Trust me on that.

You don't think that someone repeatedly trying to kill his spouse breaks the marriage covenant?

I don't know why you're thankful for that. My grandmother's death was horrific. She died truly, inhumanely suffering.

I would take pneumonia over starvation (and I've had pneumonia so bad I had a collapsed lobe and I just watched my grandma starve herself to death). I suppose that's up to personal preference though.

She was about to die anyway. What did she have to lose?

Ha! I didn't see your sigline. :tongue_smilie: I'm glad you got a happy middle!

:grouphug: I'm glad you had a happy ending, Luna.

IIRC, the parents wanted to at least *try* to feed her by mouth and he refused to even let them.

Well, he also wanted to starve her.

I read of a high powered CEO who left his job to take care of his wife with Alzheimer's. People couldn't understand why he would do that. One person told him, "She doesn't even know who you are." And he said, "But I know who she is."

My friend's older brother lives somewhere rural in Alaska and posted on Facebook that it's -50 where he is. So I posted that it's 128 degrees warmer where I am! That's a huge spread, isn't it? I can't imagine being in weather that's 128 degrees colder than here right now. LOL

I don't want to address the situation in the article directly. I'm not done digesting it in my head. But my grandma nursed my grandpa for 30 years. She married a whole, healthy man. Then when two of her kids were little and my dad was in college, he got sick and became a quadriplegic. She wasn't the greatest person in world, as she had some major personality issues, but she was an amazing wife. Personally, I want to be *that* kind of wife. It's not about my happiness. It's about a commitment, a life-long loving commitment. And I won't get married until I mean that kind of commitment by my vows.

Sugar is sugar. Sorry. :( Even if you get something unrefined with extra nutrients in it, it'll still act like sugar in your body. However, I'd do sugar any day before artificial sweeteners. Everything in moderation, right? I say don't be afraid of it, just have it once a week or so.

Awwwww Why can't I ever see the cool google stuff? It's always the normal google for me.

Eat it by itself! And next time try smoked gouda! Even better!

Also, I watched a nursery worker *lie* to a parent about their child calming down. He cried the *whole* time. The worker assured her that he calmed down right away and was happy the whole time. That was about it for me with that nursery. The kid was even crying when the parent walked in. The lie didn't even make any sense because the parent could see that the child was *not* fine.

I left my son with my dad once and with my dad and exh once and at the nursery at church once. He did not get better after I left. He cried and cried and cried the whole time. He was exhausted and miserable when I got back. Not every kid gets magically better after a couple minutes. Now, at 7, my son has spent a week away with my parents a few times. I'm so glad I waiting for him timing because I'm telling you he'd have been traumatized otherwise. Now he's fully confident and comfortable being away. FTR, I used to cry when my mom would leave and then stop after she left. Was I okay? No. I just wasn't comfortable crying in front of people that I was not close to. I didn't feel *any* better. I just kept my emotions inside.

We're cold here a lot since whole house heating just isn't done here. My mom bought me a big fluffy terrycloth robe when I was last in the States! It has made life so much better for me. It's like a blanket that I can wear around everywhere. The terrycloth traps a lot of air and makes me so nice and warm. The fabric is thick enough that I can fold the sleeves up and inward when I do the dishes or anything else in the kitchen. They stay dry and clean! I got it in white so that I can bleach it whenever I drop anything on it. I totally recommend trying it.

Yep. Except when I was bit 3 times by a stray litter of puppies here, my insurance company said I had to go to the States * immediately* and get my first vaccine and immunoglobulin. I delayed it a day trying to get the shots here, but when that didn't work and my insurance company called back to see if I had been successful, they freaked out on me. So we drove up in the middle of the night.

When the JWs disfellowship a person, they it announce from the stage. Generally, the person is in the audience. But, you know, they need to tell the congregation who they can't speak to anymore, right?:glare: I am happy that I never have to watch that again.

I would be uncomfortable with that, too. When my son had feeding problems nobody ever asked me to leave him alone with them. Thankfully, surgery eventually fixed all his issues.

If I recall, what I said was in response to someone saying that early Christians discouraged Christmas, which I am pretty sure is untrue. I don't recall exactly, though, and I'm too tired to go back through the thread.

If you do a little bit of research, you will understand. Many people are uneducated about RAD and just don't understand. It's not just wood. It's parenting a child who will go out of their way to ruin anything and everything precious to you. There is far more, and far worse, to it than that, but that's why the wood is a big deal.