Lord, have mercy...I will forever be remembered as the mom whose first post started such a long debate. !!
I think each Mom has her own idea of how/when children learn the big stuff. Whether we get this idea from formal education, our own experience, or what we've been informally told doesn't really matter. We're going to believe what we believe, until we believe otherwise!! And our beliefs will direct how we approach early education. So naturally, there will be very different approaches seen among us.
I know myself, and I am an "uber-planner" (love that term!). I love curriculum and lesson plans, not because I want to do sit-down-traditional school and want a program to script it for me. I love curriculum and lesson plans because I am a list maker from way back, a planner, a big-picture person. I like to have things laid out, so I can plan and ponder and research and gather.......and change my mind until I feel settled in my spirit about my choice. So will I do a Pre-K curriculum? Yea, I may....probably for phoncs, at the very least. Will I be a slave to it? No way.
Like yslek said, I do better with a plan. I'm used to teaching adults. I don't "naturally" think of all the teachable moments like some moms do. Having a curriculum/plan to guide ME is what I think will work best for ME. A framework....something to jiggle my memory while we go about our daily activities.