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  1. I didn't get that impression at all. August 6 is the anniversary of a significant historical event, and one that I believe should be recognized, remembered and discussed.



    August 6, 1890 was the first execution by electric chair which was a horrible event and took two throws of the switch and eight minutes for william Kemmler, a convicted murderer, to die. Also a significant historical event.

  2. Maybe you could have a baby shower with the understanding that all the gifts would be donated to a worthy cause. Surely there is a woman/child organization that could benefit from new baby items? Or even a foster care organization that places infants. That way, the ladies would get the party they desire, you'd get to know everyone, and someone who really needs it will benefit from their (and your) generosity.


    ETA: Olympic beach volleyball is not a sport. It's a photo op.


    Not getting into the swimming thing, but I must interject to say that beach volleyball is, indeed a sport. How do I know? The litmus test: Can you drink beer while performing this activity and still perform it well? The answer for beach volleyball (esp competitive, pro & Olympic) is no. Therefore, it must be a sport. :D

  4. I didn't mean to suggest it was strictly European. However, when I see swimmers (no scuba divers) in the middle of the extremely crowded parking lot at Waimea Bay in the middle of the summer (as opposed to during surf season, that's a whole other thing) instead of in the large changing rooms, it has been my experience that judging by their look and dress they seem to be mostly European. ;)


    Oh yeah, I didn't think you were implying it is strictly a European thing. I was really just try to reinforce to myself that I'm not a freak for being what many consider to be immodest. There are actually whole groups of people who share my immodesty! I am being assimilated into the culture around me, though. It has been a long time since I shed any clothing in public. Course, it has also been a long time since I've been diving.

  5. In Europe there were mixed days, ladies-only days and men-only days at the baths (due to nakedness, not because of non-mixed swimming as described here). I know Muslim countries often have separate pools for men and women. I'm not sure how this works in the US?


    We do mixed swimming. We spend lots of time on the beach. We see LOADS of scantily clad men and women. There are usually quite a lot of naked babies and topless toddlers. Sometimes, we see people changing in the parking lot (usually Europeans).


    It is a cultural thing, I guess. And the culture of not attaching sexuality to bare flesh is not strictly European. Dh and I used to be avid SCUBA divers (pre-kids). We thought nothing of changing out of wetsuits and/or wet swimsuits, down to our alltogether, and into dry shorts & shirt in a parking lot full of other divers and miscellaneous other people. We might throw open the car door and change behind it, but more so we could reach our dry stuff on the seat than for modesty. Everyone did this. Nobody gawked at anybody. I know when dh went diving without me, he didn't change his habits, nor did I when I was with a group of divers w/o dh present. No big deal in that culture. Neither of us is European.


    And kind of off topic, but this conversation reminds me of that Seinfeld episode when Jerry had the nudist girlfriend. Not all naked is good naked. Not all naked is sexy naked.

  6. Flowers in the Attic was popular when I was in fifth grade in 1979/1980. I read it and a couple of its sequels as they came out. Not only did they not scar me for life, I can't even remember what they were about. Of course, this was 30 years ago!


    I read them too, and don't think I'm scarred. I'd write more, but I have to go put rat poison in the powdered sugar on the donuts I give to the rats that in my attic. If you hear any strange noise from up there, rest assured it is just rats, not children. :D


    Okay, I remember the books and maybe they warped me if not scarred me (or maybe its a chicken/egg thing with the warping of me and the books)

  7. I clean my counters or declutter a chronically cluttered space. After coffee, of course. I'm crabby while decluttering, but as soon as I see the perfect expanse of a clear counter, a nicely arranged bills and letter box, or an alphabetized cabinet of DVDs, my crabbiness evaporates.


    If I'm not up to decluttering, I stand in front of the refrigerator and stare at the door. I purposely bought a stainless refrigerator that magnets will not stick to so the door is always uncluttered.


    Psychoanalyze that! :D

  8. I let my kids read whatever they want.


    As a child I was allowed to read whatever I wanted. I read most of what a lot of folks on here would consider "bad" or "twaddle" (however I think Sweet Valley High was after my time because I never heard of that series). I also read a lot of classics. Read Little Women before I was in high school and then went on to read most of the rest of Louisa May Alcott's books. To this day I can't help finding and reading every book every written by an author if I happen upon one I liked. I was a voracious reader - still am. I immersed myself in the books to the point of ignoring all else - still do. I read very quickly so was able to read many, many books - still do.


    So, with all this trash and some classics, I grew up to major in English Lit, which was a delight to my book loving self, but a disaster when it came to choosing a college major that would actually provide some monetary support for my future.


    Twaddle is in the eye of the beholder and may or may not have anything to do with determining a child's literary future. As you can see from the posts here, many who were not introduced to the classics until adulthood still managed to mature into thoughtful, intelligent people. We can probably find someone who was introduced to classics at a young age and grew up to be an adult who only reads the comics in the newspaper. It is not the books that make the difference, it is the total environment, the child's innate nature, etc. Of course, my opinion only and all those disclaimers.


    ETA: I still read a fair amount of what I'm sure would be considered by some to be twaddle. I prefer to call them "Beach Reads" and pretend I'm at the beach!

  9. Our chiropractor always looks at my kid's leg discrepancies (as well as other things) before adjusting their backs. After chiropractic treatment their legs are magically matched.


    "magically" is the correct word. Leg length discrepancies are a very common chiropractic ruse.


    Please do not read into this that I think nobody has a real, documented leg length discrepancy or that all chiropractors are shysters who received their degrees in strip malls.

  10. Does anyone actually keep gloves in the glove box anymore? I remember my grandmother taking her driving gloves out of the glove box ever time she got in the car; all she kept in there were driving gloves and a map of Albuquerque.


    that's funny. One of my kids recently asked why it is called a glove box and the only thing I could say is, "I guess everyone used to keep gloves in the car and needed a place to stash them."

  11. There are some people that have people in their past that are toxic, trouble making, or even dangerous. People that are going through certain legal issues also will remove or limit their internet presence for a time to protect their interests and to keep from creating further legal issues for themselves. I've been stalked on the internet before and contacted when we had specifically told the person to never contact any of us again.

    oh, that makes sense. gotcha.

  12. Answers from a liberal Christian. Conservative is not the only way to believe. ;)



    If there is a God, why when I pray and wait I get no response? (example: "I have prayed for God to make my faith strong and He hasn't done it.")



    Timeframes on prayer are complicated. I believe in God and prayer, but there have been times when my prayers seemed to go unanswered. Later, sometimes a lot later, I've seen them answered. Often those times the answers are not what I'd expect. I have, at times, recorded my prayers and answers and this has helped deepen my faith.


    Some people meditate, get in touch with their higher self, get centered, get quiet. I believe these are all forms of prayer.


    There are other spiritual disciplines that you might want to learn about: fasting, mindfulness, solitude, etc.



    If there is a God, why can't he give proof besides the bible?



    I believe there is proof. I believe *I* am proof; I have been recovered from alcohohism for 19 years, from the moment I asked for his help and followed the instructions from people on earth who I believe he guided.


    There is provable history from the Bible.





    Have you ever felt close to him or felt his presence? If so, what were the circumstances? If not, it could be that you haven't had situations in which his presence was "loud" enough for you.


    It's also ok, normal and expected that people wonder. Many people go through months or years of not "feeling" God.






    I believe God created whatever science is behind this universe. I don't believe that Creationism is the only way to be a Christian. In fact, I believe that Creationism includes some pseudo-science.


    There are many, many Christians who believe the Bible is true but not literal. They therefore believe that the creation story is a metaphor.





    I believe we *are* born knowing. As we grow and develop, we separate and have to learn, study, research and develop a vocabulary for knowing him. I also think we need to recognize our need for him.




    I believe God calls us, woos us, wants us not for his own glory (he doesn't need it). He wants us for our own good. He wants connection with us because his guidance, love and wisdom helps our life on earth. I believe that Christianity is 100% true. I also believe that other spiritual settings are true. I don't embrace exclusionary doctrine the way some Christians do. I believe many world religions have God - they call him by a different name.


    For me, it would be a cruel, mocking, cynical, sick God who excluded people from his kingdom and communion because of their geography, culture, or experience.



    How do we know our God is the right God?


    See above.


    How can I trust the Bible 100%?



    I believe that the Bible is True, truth, and trustworthy. I just don't believe it is a literal story from start to finish. I don't need Jonah to have been swallowed by a fish to know "obey God" is truth.






    I believe he has, many millions of times. What gets confusing, even to me sometimes, is when I see evidence that is contrary to what I believe God wants. I see poverty, famine, molestation, violence, drugs. I believe that is free-will and that God is crying for those choices.


    Joanne, your answers are very articulate and have really made me think. Thank you for expressing your views here.


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