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  1. 27 minutes ago, mindinggaps said:

    I don't know anything about TMS, but just wanted to reach out and offer my support. We're also struggling with OCD. My 7 year old daughter was diagnosed earlier this year and has suffered quite a bit. Right now we're treating with a fairly high dosage of Prozac and ERP. I am by no means an expert buy just wanted to pass on best wishes. There have been a few folks here with OCD children that have been super helpful and supportive to me. It's made a big difference.

    Hi there, so sorry you're going through that too! Are you familiar with Natasha Daniels? Her videos and FB group have been really helpful. It's a pretty sucky journey!

  2. Peter Pan, I love the way you think.

    So here's what we've done. She developed OCD about a year ago, though we can now think of smaller signs of it longer ago than that, but it really exploded a year ago. Since then, she has started ERP therapy (the gold standard) with NOCD (online therapists). She has tried Prozac, Zoloft, Viibryd, and Cymbalta. High doses, since that's what's typically needed for OCD. The Prozac and Zoloft were before we did the gene sight test, which showed those two in the yellow column, so that's why we tried the Viibryd, which was pretty horrible, so now the Cymbalta. Our doctor has been hesitant to try fluvoxamine because of side effects, but I have asked. In February we traveled to Houston to work with Dr. Chad Brandt who does the Bergen Method for OCD - a 4 day intense treatment. It was great. It was like we had our daughter back. For about 2 months. Then OCD started creeping back and it's back full force now, plus some depression because she feels like nothing works. 

    She didn't have Covid when the symptoms started, but she has had it. What SSRIs help with brain inflammation? Where would I go and what would we ask for for the genetic testing? We did visit a functional medicine doctor but it's so much $$$$. We've thought about homeopathy too but I don't know what I think about that. 

    The really good thing is, while her OCD is severe on the YBOCS, she is still able to have a life. She goes to school (though her grades have slipped), she does things with friends, etc. It's mostly around the house where she can't function much.  I'm afraid of her world getting smaller if we don't get it under control though.

    Oh and we do have a vacation coming up in a week. We're going to a beach and she's very excited. I think she'll be good on vacation. I think she'll be the same when we get back home though.

    There is another TMS clinic we have a consultation with. I think they have a doctor actually there, whereas this first one didn't! 

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  3. We went to a clinic today and they did a free demo session on her.
    It was weird. They "map" her first. So they do a pulse on her brain until her toe is made to move. It took forever and he said it really never takes that long and that kind of indicates how bad the OCD is ☹️
    They finally thought they saw a twitch (Miss 16 and I don't really agree) so they went ahead and did the treatment in the spot they thought was best. She said it didn't hurt but does have a headache now. Also being the all-knowing, coolest 16 year old around, she thinks the whole thing is dumb and won't work.
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  4. I appreciate your advice and hearing your experience!

    Another thing I wonder is if we should focus on the OCD or the depression first. The OCD came first, about a year ago. The depression is new, and I think it's because OCD seems so hopeless 😞

  5. Thank you! We have found two clinics near us who will do it for a 16 year old. I'm not sure yet if insurance will cover it. One of the clinics uses Brainsway and the doctor there says it works the best because it goes deeper. The other clinic, I think it actually has a Brainsway one too, but says that it's really the number of pulses that makes the difference. This clinic also has an option to do 5 very long days in a row of multiple treatments. While it would be amazing to be done sooner, is that going to just be way too much for a 16 year old??

    I didn't realize that the effects wore off. That's too bad. Does your insurance keep covering the other sessions?

    Most things I read are either really positive or just "it didn't work," but I did find a FB group that has members who claim they were permanently damaged in one way or another by TMS. Do you have any thoughts on that? I can deal with it just not working but permanent damage is another story.

     

  6. Hi,

    I have seen a few threads here that mention TMS. Has anyone done it for OCD? I'm looking into it for my 16 year old daughter. Her primary diagnosis is OCD but she's also depressed. I'm just starting to research and it's pretty overwhelming! I'd love to hear anyone's experiences.

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  7. Ok you have given me some things to think about!

    A few more questions. I'm thinking alternate dates now. Late May maybe? Or early August, which might be better if we want more beach activity.

    Nantucket has been a dream destination for me for years. But is there enough to keep our family entertained for ... how many days do you think? I have three 16 year olds. Or would it really be better to stay on "The Cape" (see how cool I am now...) and ferry over for a day. And then we could see other things like Martha's Vineyard one day too....

  8. Hey!

    Has anyone ever taken a vacation to Nantucket? We live in the midwest and love a roadtrip so we'd drive up that way and then probably take a ferry?? I'm looking at hotels and they are so expensive and I can't find very many VRBOs actually on the island. I'm looking at going over the 4th of July so maybe that's a busy time. Some VRBO options come up in like Cape Cod though... So I'm wondering if it would make sense to stay there and then just day trip to Nantucket? I have no idea how practical that is. Does anyone know about that area? What sorts of things are there to do in that general area?

  9. I want to plan a trip to Hawaii, but I have no idea where to even start. It would be 2 adults and 3 15 year olds. I'd love any tips at all that anyone might have. Where to start? Where to stay? What to do? Tips on saving $$!

  10. I need some advice. We started dog sitting 2 years ago through Rover.com. The kids and I are home all day and love dogs so we thought we'd love it, and we do. We all play with the dogs, take them out, and clean up after them. When we started, we talked about how we would divide the money. We thought about using it for the fun things we do in the summer, having them save up for big things they might want, etc.  We ended up just deciding to split it evenly between the kids and then DH and I. 

    Well it turns out, that is a LOT of money for 12 year olds. I have one daughter who just sticks it all into her savings account. The other two pretty much fritter it away on things like clothes or virtual things in video games. One did save up for a hover board. 

    They are required to divide what they earn into spend/save/give categories. 

    As an adult, the things I watch them spend so much money on bugs me, but I try to remember that it is money that they earned and they are still putting some away. On the other hand, when they started this they did not have cell phones. Now they do. I wonder if they should use some of their money for things like that. Also they all want to go to church camp this summer and that's about $500 per kid. Is it wrong to use their money for that? (They are balking at that).

    I just feel that we need to revamp this whole thing. What do you guys think? And how can I say it to them in a way that makes them understand that the money is still going to them?

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  11. Sorry for the really delayed response, but thank you for the replies, and the confidence boost. Yes, part of why I want to send them is because I always doubt that I'm doing a good enough job. But also, I think they'd all really enjoy going to high school. Parts of it anyway. I do also worry so much about other parts of it. 

    And yes, I am open to doing different things with each kiddo. I'd keep one or two home if they wanted. It wouldn't be my top choice but I'd do it. 🙂

    As always, you guys bring up great points and things I haven't considered! THANK YOU!

     

  12. My son (7th grade, just turned 13) is flying pretty easily through Video Text Algebra. He recently saw his public school friend's pre-algebra work. He worked through some of the problems "for fun" and had some trouble, but understood quickly once we explained just a couple of things. He always understands things quickly. 

    But now he's kind of worried that he didn't already know how to do pre-algebra problems when he's a good ways through VT. Do you think they just cover things in a slightly different order? 

  13. My kids are in 7th grade this year. I'm 99% sure that I will send them to public high school. I'd be ok homeschooling them again next year for 8th grade but I would also be fine sending them for 8th grade. I have one out of three that actually wants to go to 8th grade, one who does not, and one who is wishy washy. 

    On one hand I think it could be good "practice" before entering high school. On the other hand, middle school is a tough age and it might be hard to go into 8th grade as a new kid.

  14. My kids turn 13 this month. Triplets - 2 girls, 1 boy.

    My son is "gifted" and goes to the SAGE program once a week through our public school district. He says he hates it but can't tell me why. There is a Facebook group with lots of articles and info on the emotional needs of gifted kids, and some of them resonate so that's why I'm mentioning his giftedness. 

    I also feel like it could totally just be being a 13 year old kid. He's SO grumpy. He doesn't tolerate any silliness from his sisters and gets so mad at them. Maybe he just feels like the odd one out? The only boy, the "smart" one. He also delights in acting like a second dad to them - bossing them around and scolding them. He loves correcting them. It's like he only speaks when it's to say something negative. "Actually... bla bla..." I've talked about doing negative things (such as teasing), neutral things (basically just doing nothing), and doing positive things (like helping someone or saying something nice to them). Obviously negative things are bad, neutral is "whatever" and positives are actually nice and kind. I've told him he needs to work on actually doing positive acts and he simply seems incapable.

    He seems very insecure about himself but I don't know why. He's smart but not weird. He's super sporty and one of the best on his baseball team. He gets along with all the boys on the team just fine. He has buddies that he does things with. He's cute. (He does think he's fat). He often calls himself weird and unsocialized. 

    He's very repetitive when there is something he wants. Their bday is coming up and he wants a Nintendo Switch and he mentions it constantly. CONSTANTLY. He wants to go skiing this spring and it's the same thing. It's like he thinks there's power in repetition. 

    He has a very hard time finding fun. He loves bouncing a ball against the garage and catching it. He loves playing catch. But only with my husband or me. Sadly for him there are no other kids in our cul-de-sac and his sisters are really not very good at playing catch. There is a boy that used to be on his baseball team who lives a good walk away and I often encourage him to see if he wants to play but he says no. He says he's not a very good ball player. 

    I just sent the kids outside for "recess" and the girls are playing volleyball and he's throwing his ball against the garage. He came in because "it's not fun to play alone." I told him to play with the girls (he's good at volleyball) but he said he wanted to play catch and they don't want to. So to me it's like, play what you want and be alone or play something else and be with people. Personally I'd bend a little and play something that is maybe not my top choice but that I still enjoy and be with people. Ok so he just joined them and already he's hit a ball into one girl's face. Probably not on purpose but he also rarely sees any fault in himself and apologizes.

    The kids have been playing the Wii a lot lately and he prefers Mario Baseball and the girls prefer Mario World. All 3 can play both of those games and all 3 kids like both games though and the girls often do play Mario Baseball with him, but then when they ask him to play Mario World, he doesn't want to. He just wants to do what he wants, with whom he wants, and when he wants.

    He often declines going to his very best friend's house because he prefers what they do at our house. I think on one hand it's nice to have the confidence to say you don't want to do something but on the other hand his friend might like having him there for a change.

    I'm not saying that he should never get to pick the activity with his sisters or friends. Obviously there should be some give and take.

    So I don't know. Does this just seem like sullen teen stuff or what?

  15. My kids turn 13 this month. Triplets - 2 girls, 1 boy.

    My son is "gifted" and goes to the SAGE program once a week through our public school district. He says he hates it but can't tell me why. There is a Facebook group with lots of articles and info on the emotional needs of gifted kids, and some of them resonate so that's why I'm mentioning his giftedness. 

    I also feel like it could totally just be being a 13 year old kid. He's SO grumpy. He doesn't tolerate any silliness from his sisters and gets so mad at them. Maybe he just feels like the odd one out? The only boy, the "smart" one. He also delights in acting like a second dad to them - bossing them around and scolding them. I've talked about doing negative things (such as teasing), neutral things (basically just doing nothing), and doing positive things (like helping someone or saying something nice to them). Obviously negative things are bad, neutral is "whatever" and positives are actually nice and kind. I've told him he needs to work on actually doing positive acts and he simply seems incapable.

    He seems very insecure about himself but I don't know why. He's smart but not weird. He's super sporty and one of the best on his baseball team. He gets along with all the boys on the team just fine. He has buddies that he does things with. He's cute. (He does think he's fat). He often calls himself weird and unsocialized. 

    He's very repetitive when there is something he wants. Their bday is coming up and he wants a Nintendo Switch and he mentions it constantly. CONSTANTLY. He wants to go skiing this spring and it's the same thing. It's like he thinks there's power in repetition. 

    He has a very hard time finding fun. He loves bouncing a ball against the garage and catching it. He loves playing catch. But only with my husband or me. Sadly for him there are no other kids in our cul-de-sac and his sisters are really not very good at playing catch. There is a boy that used to be on his baseball team who lives a good walk away and I often encourage him to see if he wants to play but he says no. He says he's not a very good ball player. 

    I just sent the kids outside for "recess" and the girls are playing volleyball and he's throwing his ball against the garage. He came in because "it's not fun to play alone." I told him to play with the girls (he's good at volleyball) but he said he wanted to play catch and they don't want to. So to me it's like, play what you want and be alone or play something else and be with people. Personally I'd bend a little and play something that is maybe not my top choice but that I still enjoy and be with people. Ok so he just joined them and already he's hit a ball into one girl's face. Probably not on purpose but he also rarely sees any fault in himself and apologizes.

    The kids have been playing the Wii a lot lately and he prefers Mario Baseball and the girls prefer Mario World. All 3 can play both of those games and all 3 kids like both games though and the girls often do play Mario Baseball with him, but then when they ask him to play Mario World, he doesn't want to. He just wants to do what he wants, with whom he wants, and when he wants.

    He often declines going to his very best friend's house because he prefers what they do at our house. I think on one hand it's nice to have the confidence to say you don't want to do something but on the other hand his friend might like having him there for a change.

    I'm not saying that he should never get to pick the activity with his sisters or friends. Obviously there should be some give and take.

    So I don't know. Does this just seem like sullen teen stuff or what?

  16. I enjoy grammar and teaching it but the kids are going crazy with it. We use Grammar for the Well Trained Mind. We decided last year to take 2 years to go through it. I can't imagine doing that whole book in one year. We also skip the diagramming. (gasp... I know).

    I'm finding myself just really glossing over certain lessons. Then other lessons seem way more relevant and valuable. Like things like commas, correct verb usage, etc. 

    And some things I am wondering how much I need to be concerned about if they don't retain it. Like if you can word something right but not know what it's called, is that ok? For example: Indicative: He LEAVES at noon. Subjunctive: It's important that he LEAVE at noon. Obviously you want to use the right grammar, but is it important that we know that one is indicative and one is subjunctive? Things like past participles as adverbs... do we really need to know?

    My kids will likely go to public high school in 2 years so I really do want to know what they will need to know.

    Thanks. If there is a curriculum that might be a little less intense, please recommend!

  17. We're on lesson 76 of Grammar for the Well-Trained Mind.

    I thought we understood but the exercises are confusing us. 

    Are we right that: 

    Non-restrictive clauses can be removed from the sentence without changing the meaning of the sentence or making it sound weird. You use commas in a sentence like this.

    Restrictive clauses can't be removed from the sentence because it does change the meaning or sounds weird. You do not use commas. 

    ??

    In exercise 76C one of the sentences is: For although Fionn loved Goll, he did not like him.

    My kids and I feel like if you just said, "For although Fionn loved Goll," then you're left with a weird sentence, so you need, "he did not like him." So if you need that clause, then you shouldn't need a comma? But the book says you do. And aside from the rules that I think I'm understanding in the book, it does seem like a sentence that needs a comma. So we're confused.

    Edited because I just saw some clarification on the above example on the website.

    Another confusing one was this sentence: There is an eerie feeling abroad, which I do not like. The book says you don't need the comma, which would make it a restrictive clause, which means that it NEEDS "which I do not like." But the kids and I think, "there is an eerie feeling abroad" sounds fine on its own. 

    Are we just all messed up??

  18. 1 hour ago, EKS said:

    That said, the Saxon people have indicated that if the student needs to do fewer problems that it is preferable to do all practice problems and then every other review set rather than odds/evens.

    Just curious where you find information like this. 

    Thanks!

  19. We're doing Saxon for the first time this year. 8/7 with my 12 year old girls. I think I remember reading that a lot of people do just the odds or evens but I see that you're actually "supposed" to do them all. So for now we are doing them all. 

    Do you have your kids correct all of the problems they get wrong? Maybe just if they get lower than a certain grade?

    How do you do things?

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