Clarifying you are talking about Vancouver BC …not Vancouver WA which is the city that borders Portland OR.

I saw a counselor before asking dh for a divorce. I told her the reason I was there was I wanted a person who was completely independent of us as couple to give me an honest view point. I wanted to know if my marital concerns were legit or if I was throwing a pity party and needed to be told to get over myself. I went to maybe half s dozen sessions before she completely validated my concerns and asked me why I had stayed so long. She did what I asked and helped me talk thru somethings that I knew I was justifying but was also trying hard not to wallow in self pity. For instance xh traveled for work so my schedule was 100% independent of him being home. His schedule did not revolve around anyone else but his work typical M-F job. I worked weekends and a couple weekdays so I had weekdays off for dds appointments and therapy. Xhs best friends had zero kids and traveled lot. He was always invited to tag along just paying for food. Because he traveled for work, he had tons of miles to pay for flights etc. This made travel really cheap. He would take several long weekends a year and 1-2 week long vacations. I didn’t go on vacations for years. My vacations off from work… were crammed with extra appointments, house projects etc and dd still had school/sports etc during the week. Since he was gone for work , there wasn’t anyone home to care for her if I took off during the week . My friends were busy raising kids so they could get away for dinner but not a weekend. If I did take a full weekend off when he was home to be with dd, I would have been by myself and paid for 100% on my own. He was always gone, so I spent a lot of time alone already so that wasn’t a novelty to me. I would justify that the imbalance wasn’t fair but just due to opportunity. It wouldn’t make sense to pressure xh to skip opportunities just to sit home and do nothing. He has depression and sitting home meant sleeping the weekend away. The only reason for a pity party was I wasn’t able to take any vacations…. But he could fit in 20+ days away a year because it didn’t disrupt my schedule at all. Hawaii, road trips, week long sailing trips, California more times than I can count etc. I had less help when he was gone, but that was it. If he didn’t take the vacations I likely still wouldn’t have gone anywhere. Does that make it more fair????? He was gone 60+ days in 3 years, I was gone 3 days.

To fill our common size F150 truck, it costs about $130. Bigger trucks can take even more fuel. A large RV could easily cost $200-400. A $200 hold is unfortunate....but really isn't surprising.

This is me too! I was tired of settling for a worn out marriage just because I got pregnant at 22 and married out of obligation. I asked for the divorce and never regretted it.....for even one second. Seriously, I was soooo much happier starting the day I decided it was over and never looked back. Divorced during COVID. Everyone commented on how happy I looked ! I didn't plan on dating again, and was looking forward to being single for.ev.er! I wanted to just be me for a change. My two older kids were adults and 100% independent. DD17 was 14/15 so old enough that she could make her own choices and I didn't have to worry about split households. I changed jobs, and due to WFH, I forced myself to reach out to people I knew, to avoid shutting down socially, I reconnected with an old family friend from my teens and quite unexpectedly fell in love. Oops. LOL We are very happy and I love the feeling of being an equal in a relationship, instead of a wife/mom/maid. XH and I are good friends and still chat sometimes (due to sharing dd17). I have absolutely zero interest in him, but it is really nice to be able to maintain a friendship since we were together almost 30 years.

When the kids were little, I kept common cough/cold items on hand all the time. Even if that meant storing an unopened box to keep it on hand for nighttime illnesses. Once they could take adult doses, I stopped keeping a back up supply. There was pretty much always an open box/bottle of common items on hand, plus the mishmash of things like Midol or diarrhea meds for my youngest. I toss between 1-2 years expired. Some meds do go bad. Aspirin is one of them. Otc meds aren’t so expensive that I can’t replace them. I do have a bag of expired prescriptions but most just need to go to the disposal site. I keep extra inhalers, steroids and antibiotics. But again, I generally toss with 2 years. I always keep extra fresh rescue inhalers for asthma and epipens. Not messing around with expired ones of those!

You could just leave a minimal amount in savings at the bank and move your main account to online. Remove your phone number snd just leave email as a contact method. Have you tried calling the bank to let them know what is going on? Is it possible that it is a scammer trying to get your info? If it is legit, the bank needs to know the marketing method is over the top! If no one complains, they don’t know it is a problem.

One of my neighbors has this sticker ☹️his other stickers are just as gross. I try to avoid his house on my walks. Don’t need nastiness in my head when I’m just going on a stroll

I am good at taking a lot of cr@p from people and still pushing thru and getting my job done. I have no problem setting boundaries when needed, but I am bit more forgiving, especially to people who need a bit of extra help, that other people seem to be. My threshold for what sends me over the edge is wayyyy higher than most people. I am a bit of a perfectionist so jobs that need a high level of accuracy, is where I typically excel. IRL I am a pharmacy technician, so these traits serve me well.

At that age…I gave candy bars. I hate plastic trinkets. Usually Rollos or skittles because they were easy for them to share with a sibling if they wanted. Little kids got something like a Hot Wheel or balsa wood plane.

I hope you don't need any of it. That you can walk in and it is resolved super easy.....And he actually pays you!!!! Wishing you tons of luck! And a judge who appreciates your preparedness and rules in your favor!

I have never heard of chili crisp! Will definitely add this to my list. Looks sooo yummy! Thank you!!!

Thank you for the recommendation! I am definitely looking into the Master Classes

Ummmm. Got a divorce lol

This same kid, who you are having to wrangle in......would have been a phenomenal warrior 200 years ago! It is so interesting to me, how we forget that our world was inhabited for centuries by humans that hunted and gathered, fought animals with hand held weapons. Taking down game in close proximity and developed skills to fight in hand to hand combat. But only a few centuries later, we expect all of these awesome traits, to have faded away to intellectual evolution. For kids all sitting in neat rows in classrooms, delving into intellectual pursuits. Nope, not buying it!! There is a huge number of people in our world who are natural fighters and that determination, aggression and drive needs to go somewhere! Organized sports is where they find that niches of people like them, and can safely express some of those traits.

Wow. I guess I am in the minority here, but when I watched the video of the blowup, I was left wondering....really? That was what the hoopla is all about. Throw tomatoes all you want at me, but really, that was only a bid deal because it was televised. I am sure that is nothing but a minor blip to the coach. Seriously, he coaches professional male football athletes for a career!! This is very, very minor in the scheme of blowups that have come his way. Seriously, my autistic daughter has way more significant blow ups on a regular basis than that! Her teachers deal with more than this on a daily basis at her therapeutic day school. DD is 5 inches taller and 3x my weight at, 6ft 410lbs, so if you think I am downplaying bases on size, I am not.

I ordered a few new cookbooks! HAHAH my version of a few LOL. I will pair those with some free online classes for a few months and then start looking for fee based classes!! I am hopefully going to try at least 2-5 completely new recipes a week. I am going to look for ones that involve new technique and see how much I enjoy the more focused learning. If I keep it up and enjoy it.....I am going to look for a more formal learning. I spend 3 days each week at my boyfriends house. He plays video games or has his own interests. I clean, cook and waste time online. Doing little projects and nothing much aside from that. It is the natural progression of kids moving out, but I need to find something to do!!! I am soooo bored LOL except when I am cooking. He never minds me spending his $$$ money on food, so it is a good fit for me wanting to learn to expand my cooking skills! 😁 These are the Cookbooks I bought so far Julia's Kitchen Wisdom Make it Japanese A Very Chinese Cookbook: 100 Recipes from China and Not China (But Still Really Chinese) Basics with Babish: Recipes for Screwing Up, Trying Again, and Hitting It Out of the Park Ever-Green Vietnamese: Super-Fresh Recipes, Starring Plants from Land and SeaAsada: The Art of Mexican-Style Grilling The Food of Sichuan Hardcover – Illustrated, October 15, 2019 My Mexico City Kitchen: Recipes and Convictions Six Seasons: A New Way with Vegetables

I am fussy about knives and pans. Own way to many of both 😁. I just sharpened all my knives yesterday because I hate a dull knife!

That is a great idea! I have learned a lot from cookbooks by ATK or similar. But to read a specific chef would be new to me. I have never read or used one of her cookbooks, so that would be a good place to start. Since I WFH, I sometimes have a bit of downtime between calls (3-15minutes scattered throughout the day) but am still stuck at my desk. Reading would be a good way to fill some of that time. I usually listen to short podcasts, comedians or short videos. I have avoided books because it is hard for me to go in and out of story. But a cookbook....wouldn't be a problem.

The combinations that are not expected, is part of what I would love to explore! Boyfriend and were just talking about that. Even at a Michelin Star restaurant… it is still the pretty much the same food we can all buy and prepare. It is in the preparation and combination of ingredients that makes the difference! I will never be that level, but I think it will be fun to enjoy the process of learning 🍰🧁🌮🥙🍱🍲

I completely agree about trying to cook along with other people. I do the same as you. Take notes and then do it on my own 🙂

I am a decent casual cook. Self trained, nothing too fancy. I am bored most weekends and since I work from home, I don't have the distraction that comes from going back and forth to work everyday. I am looking for something to do with my free time. I am thinking about taking cooking classes. In person or online, not sure yet. Just want something to expand my brain a bit. Thinking about taking classes from other cultures. Maybe Chinese or Japanese? Any advise or suggestions on how to find something worth the money? or free ones on line that are worth the time and investment (buying different foods/ingredients/tools)? I am completely open to different cultures too! Really like fresh veggies, grilled meats and grains. I don't mind fat/carb heavy meals on occasion, just don't want it to be the focus.

I don't think that anyone who is going to drive obnoxiously, honk unnecessarily or flip someone off.....will care at all about a Student Driver sticker. My kids learned to drive in a large city and honestly, the jerks were few and far in-between. Not enough to get worked up about and those couple of people, would have acted the same either way.

7 layer salad is the one with lettuce etc listed above. 7 layer dip is the Mexican style witg guac and salsa. My boyfriend’s family makes the salad for big events like Thanksgiving. Im not a fan, but it is mainly because they use mayo for the dressing, 🤢and I don’t want salad when there are so many more delicious things to eat.

Look on marketplace. If you have kids over 18 check to see if they qualify for their own plans or even state insurance. My adult son paid under $20 month for his insurance due to subsidies.

You can keep a dependent on your insurance until 26. Married, single, student or not doesn’t matter. My daughter is on my medical plain. She is married and her husband is active duty Air Force. She is double covered. Federal insurance will always be payor of last resort, so my insurance is primary and Tricare is secondary. Dental may or may not extend to 26. It is plan specific.