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  1. Turns out it is my fault. I got a call from one of the moms that attended the tea and didn't stay overnight at the hotel. She said the mom told all the moms that she wanted my daughter to come but she was afraid I would want to come with the other moms to the tea. She said I don't dress nice enough and since I am overweight, the pictures wouldn't look good. I am not a slob or anything, I am just more of a Land's End girl and she and her circle of friends are much more trendy. The mom felt really bad about it and wanted me to know that she didn't take part. I think I will just tell DD that the mom doesn't like me. I don't think I want to go into the weight thing with DD.
  2. This mom is big into events and she always sends out invitations or uses the event invite on facebook. She is also one to always follow up and arrange all the details, such as transportation. This experience doesn't really fit with all the other party experiences I have had with her, if DD was truly invited. It does fit with a few playdate experiences, we have had. She will often talk about getting the girls together or having DD over when she has other kids over, and then will have a few of the other kids in the group over without DD. I never let that bother me, in the past, because I just figured something came up...nothing had been set in stone, so it wasn't like my daughter had then been excluded. My gut tells me she was left out. I could be wrong, but I tend to trust my instincts. I knew her daughter's birthday is a week into the month, but truthfully, until I looked up the old post last night, I hadn't remembered that she had mentioned the actual date. As far as showing my daughter the pictures, I didn't mean to. I was sitting at my desk in the kitchen and opened my facebook and there was a picture of the group sitting at the tea party table at American Girl, with a caption Happy Birthday. I was talking to my DH at the time and I didn't even notice it. My daughter noticed it first and pointed it out to me. I didn't show her all the other pictures she posted like swimming at the hotel, eating dinner last night, and hanging out in the hotel room. She and the other moms posted quite a few pictures last night. I am not so worried about how to deal with the Mom. I don't have a need to chase her down or give her an earfull or anything like that. After a good night's sleep, I can shrug it off. I am worried about my daughter though. We have moved a lot because of DH's job. She really wants roots and I think she always feels on the fringe when it comes to groups of kids. I don't know what it is like to always be the new girl. My parents lived in the same house for over 40 years and the kids in my neighborhood were like family to me. I know my DD craves that kind of circle of friends, so she is taking this really hard. I just need to use wisdom in how I talk to her about it.
  3. I thought about it being lost in the mail, but then I woud figure she would have messaged me or called to see if we were coming since we hadn't RSVP'd and she needed a final count. I looked up what she wrote on facebook and she had said that my daughter was invited to the party, gave the date and time and then said she would message me details. She later messaged me for our PO Box so she could mail us the invitation. There is a slight chance it was lost, but I am thinking we were passed over. It might have been the daughter that didn't want my daughter to come. At first I was hurt and then mad and in that moment, you think of all the ways you can show her...but truthfully I don't care about that. I am mostly just concerned about my daughter. As a military family, we have moved a lot and she already has trouble settling in and feeling a part of things in a new place. She felt like this little girl was one of her best friends and it has really thrown her for a loop to be left out of the party. These girls are all 8. Well, my daughter will be 8 at the end of the month. She also told me that she doesn't want to have a birthday party because she is afraid none of these kids will come.
  4. The store is a little too far away to make a quick shopping trip, or I would suggest that to my daughter. I will ask her tomorrow if she wants to keep the card or give it to her friend. I am afraid if we give it to the girl, it will look snarky...like we are trying to send a message that we know we were left out or something.
  5. This summer, the mother of one of my daughter's friends told me that they were planning to have an American Girl Party in September for their daughter. It is a big affair, complete with a night in a hotel in Los Angeles and a party at the LA American Girl Store. She told me what hotel they were planning to stay in and said that my daughter was invited. A few days after that, she messaged me on Facebook asking for our P.O. Box so that she could send my daughter an invitation. The girl's birthday is next week, but the party was today. I found out the party was today, because the mom has been posting pictures on Facebook all day. We never got an invite. My daughter saw the pictures and knows that she was left out and she is very sad about it. She had been very excited about this party. We had even ordered a gift card from the American Girl website in a fairly large amount, to give the girl for her birthday. My daughter is extremely sad about this. I don't think it is the fact that she missed the fun or even going to the American Girl store. I think it is that she was passed over. She said that she feels like the girl didn't think she was good enough to be invited. She is also upset because she said that she wanted her friend to spend her gift card while she was at the store and if she had known she wasn't invited, she would have given it to her this past week so that at least she could take it to the store. I asked her if she wants to take it to her next week or mail it to her. Her answer was a shrug and an, "I guess." I know that parties are expensive. I know that you can only invite a certain number of kids. I understand having to make choices about who you invite, but I don't understand verbally inviting someone, asking for their address to send them an official invite and then not doing it. Had she not said we were going to get an invite, I wouldn't have thought twice about it when she posted the pictures. I feel really bad for my daughter. I don't really know what to do about it. Everything I tried to say to her didn't really sooth her. Any words of wisdom on how to deal with this?
  6. As children, my sister and I loved the cartoon version. We found it super funny when the beaver talks about the sons of Adam and the daughters of Eve sitting on the throne at Cair Paravel. He sort of had trouble saying the sound of the letter "S" and it came out as a "SH". We would giggle about that for hours. LOL
  7. When we cleaned out my Dad's house, we found my old Operation game from the 70's. The buzz it makes when the kids touch the sides drives me nuts. LOL We also found mastermind, Othello, Stay Alive, and Yatzee score pads written on in my 7 year old handwriting. :)
  8. Thank you so much! I am leaning toward Va, simply because we could live closer to Dh's work.
  9. This is our first year homeschooling. We live in California, but my husband just heard that he might be transferred to his company headquarters in Alexandria, VA by years end. We were not expecting this. California is pretty homeschool friendly. I simply had to withdraw my daughter from PS and in October I file an affidavit declaring we are a private school and then I keep all her attendance and grade records. I don't have to show them to anyone or turn them in anywhere. I would need them if we chose to enroll her somewhere else. As a homeschooling family, which area of DC would you choose to live in? Virginia or Maryland? Is one state better to deal with over the other, when it comes to homeschooling? Or would DC itself be a viable option?
  10. I have that canner. I waterbath fruit, like peaches, pears, apples, ect. I also waterbath jams and jellies. I pressure can corn, grean beans, and potatoes. Whenever potatoes are on sale I buy them and can them. Recently, 10 pound bags were 99 cents so I bought 10 of them and made up a lot of quarts of diced potatoes. This winter, I can heat them and mash them up with a little milk and butter and have mashed potatoes faster than making them from scratch and much tastier than making instant. Whenever we make chili, we double the recipe and then I can up a few quarts the next day. Great to have them on hand when you need a quick dinner.
  11. I think I am just not so passive as I get older, but again If you are bold enough to do something like this for all the world to see, I am going to be bold enough to say something about it. I am not an in your face type of person and for the most part, I keep my opinions to myself. That said, I am not afraid to call out someone when their words or behavior puts themselves out there for judgement. It wouldn't be my intent to embarrass her, but I am not going to let my fear of her being embarrassed keep me from calling her on her disgusting behavior. I figure, that if you don't want to be embarrassed by someone telling you that it is gross to pee in the kiddie pool, then don't pee in the kiddie pool.
  12. My daughter does her warm ups and stretches every other day, but she wants to do it. I don't make her. Her brother usually warms up with her and he does have some practice rings and a practice mushroom here at the house. He works with those a couple of times a week, but my husband is also one of his coaches, so he isn't unsupervised when he practices. Every so often we push back the furniture in the livingroom and work on handstands and a few of the floor exercise elements...not the whole routine though. :) They love it when we do this. I guess there is something exciting about the livingroom furniture being out of place. LOL
  13. I would have had to say something... I wouldn't have been able to help myself...If you are bold enough to pee in the kids pool, I am gonna be bold enough to call you out on it. LOL At our last house, in Pennsylvania, we had a pool. Last summer my son was three. One day we were swimming and he climbed out of the pool and ran out to the grass outside the pool gate and whipped his boy out and started peeing on my flowers. I was a bit shocked and asked him what he was doing. He told me he was peeing on the pee on me bush. Sure enough, he was "watering" my peonies.
  14. It is too hot to cook here. I fried up some bacon early this morning and I plan to grill some boneless chicken breasts on the BBQ, melt a slice of cheese on them once they are cooked, and slap them (with the bacon) on some croissants that I picked up on the day old bread rack.
  15. I am in the same boat...I just got new ink for my HP printer (21 & 22) and the color is gone after about 30 pages. That is just wrong.
  16. We moved out here last September. Dh works at Ft. Irwin. We are getting used to Helecopters flying over with spotlights glaring in the middle of the night. When we first moved in, our neighbor introduced herself by saying, "Welcome to the high desert...the body dumping capital of the world."
  17. Let's take the creepy aspect out for a moment. Even without the whole sexual worries, what he did was wrong. 1. You don't take kids in your car without their parent's permission. Since the kids were on a church mission trip, he put the church at a huge liability risk. If he had crashed with your kids in the car, can you imagine the lawsuits that would have been brought against the church? If I were the pastor, I would want to know about this. Did any other leaders know that he took the kids out in his car? If so, they need better training, too. If they didn't know the kids were gone for that period of time, they need to step down from being leaders, because that is a frightening lack of supervision. 2. You don't contact kids, leaving their parents out of the loop. The pastor needs to know this as well, because his action could breed a mistrust of the church or youth program. It is pretty inappropriate for teachers, youth leaders, and other authority figures to have a casual relationship with kids. Facebook, texting, and emails should be more of a group announcement type of thing, not a personal exchange. Group texting everyone a reminder that Bible study is at 6 tomorrow is much different than having a conversation by text with a kid or inviting kids somewhere without clearing it with their parents. 3. A youth leader should never pursue a relationship with a youth group member that is outside the circle of the church. Inviting kids to an outing that isn't sponsored by the church isn't a good idea, even when you take the sexual preditor aspect out of it. It sets up favoritism issues and bad feelings from kids that weren't included. The pastor needs to know what is going on and until things are resolved to your satisfaction, I would be inclined to keep my son home from events.
  18. Thanks for all the encouragement. It went well. I also have a 3 and 4 year old, so I did a little preschool program for them. The 4 year old doesn't like me paying so much attention to his older sister, so that was a small issue. We started the day together with Circle Time. My daughter thought that was too kindergarten and asked if we could call it Morning Meeting instead. I told her we could do things in a pretty relaxed way, but she wants to structure her day as if she were at school. She even makes me ring my decorative dinner bell to call her in from "recess" when she takes a break out back. LOL I asked her what she wanted to wear her first day back to school and she said, "Pajamas!" Here are some pictures of "Morning Meeting" on our first day. The dog joined us, which thrilled my daughter. As she pointed out, "Bella couldn't come in my classroom if I were at school."
  19. We are going at the end of September and when we booked our hotel, they told us September is a really good month to come to the park. Any months that they run good military discounts tend to be good months to go. When they run the military discounts, I think that they are trying to make up for low attendance. We got an amazing military discount at the Disneyland Hotel, and they have a military ticket special that was recently extended through September.
  20. We do a lot of eggs. Because we are from Pittsburgh, we call them Dippy Eggs. (just another name for an egg with a runny yoke.) You have to have something to dip in dippy eggs. Bacon is the favorite dipping tool with link sausage running a close second. Toast triangles comes in third and in a pinch a slab of ham or sausage patties is acceptable. They prefer dipping finger foods. LOL They are always up for oatmeal or cereal. I tend to make oatmeal a lot in the winter. They like breakfast burritoes and scrambled egg quesadillas. My son and I are eating cold dinner leftovers. The rest of the family thinks we are nuts. The kids love it when we need to eat fast and they get biscuits and jelly. Dh is a fan of this breakfast as well, but his favorite breakfast is a "scramby" egg sandwich. That is just scrambled eggs on untoasted white bread that has been slathered with ketchup. Any breakfast is fine with me as long as it comes with coffee....hot and lots of it. :)
  21. We are starting school today. We decided to pull DD from public school for third grade, so this is our first experience homeschooling. She is very excited. I am a nervous wreck. I was a teacher. I spent ten years in the classroom before I became a stay at home mom. I know how to teach. Why am I so nervous? LOL
  22. I think having a shower for a second wedding is not the same as having a shower for a second or fifth baby. Many people see a baby shower as celebrating that baby, so they feel that it is ok to have one for each pregnancy. Maybe we should stop calling it a shower, so it doesn't seem to buck tradition. When it comes to weddings however, a second shower isn't needed to celebrate this marriage because you are having a wedding and a reception to do that very thing. A wedding that people will bring gifts to. So when you are getting married for the second or fifth time, and you don't need anything for your house, it is pretty tacky to throw a party, expecting gifts or cash, when you know that these same friends will be coming to your wedding to celebrate your marriage, while bringing yet another gift. It just seems greedy.
  23. I am a minister's daughter and a former CE director and what this woman is doing is wrong. She is manipulating you and using her "spiritual authority" to do it. The fact that she is lecturing you and trying to guilt you into taking on something you don't want to do, is a huge flag to me. I wouldn't want my kids involved in a program that is under her direction. I also don't think it is right for you to be alone with 16 kids...that is too many children for one person to watch and it is a bad situation waiting to happen. I would have no problem walking away and I would send a letter to the pastor explaining why.
  24. I will give you a silver lining...not much of one, but hey it is something. :) You are lucky that your DH is frustrated with her too. It would be ten times worse if you were constantly frustrated by her actions and he didn't get why! So as awful as this is for both of you, remember it could be worse! My boys are less than a year apart and their birthdays are 5 days apart. Right now they are 3 and 4 and have the same circle of friends, so we have one party that they share. I make them a special breakfast on their birthdays and they each also get to pick what we have for dinner on their day. When they get older I plan to alternate the party on a yearly basis. One year the older one gets a party and the younger one gets to have a friend spend the night and do something fun like a movie or bowling. Then the next year they trade around. That way I am not paying for 2 parties in the same month and they don't have to share their day.
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