for me, it means prying my fingers up one at a time, and letting go of the anger/hatred/hurt.... and trusting that God will do that for me, too. i keep picturing that God has this wonderful gift for me, and is standing right there, trying to give it to me, and that i can't accept i until i open my hands by letting go of whatever it is i am hanging on to. it is letting the person/feeling go free... and really, what i am doing is freeing myself...