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I'm still here. I don't have the heart to give a real update right now...maybe tomorrow will be better. And no, I don't think I am a danger to myself (or anyone else) at this time. Thank you for your prayers, and...keep 'em coming for now, ok?

I'm pretty sure I'm scaring them... :-(

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Tell me that I can't leave them, and that even if I'm completely emotionally and mentally unhinged..that I can still help them somehow...? Trying to hit my knees, but the words won't come. Tomorrow is the day at church too. And yes, it really does need to happen this way. If you're a pray-er, pray that I'll retain some semblance of dignity, ok? This is going to be one of the hardest things I will ever do. Just keep breathing, right? Why does that sound like too much to ask?

If you ordered chocolate fondue in a restaurant, what things do you want to dip in the chocolate? Ideas: pineapple chunks strawberries banana chunks pound cake cinnamon croutons homemade marshmallows cheesecake bites Anyone want to add to my list?

I dunno though--I don't see it as a matter of a younger sibling vs. older sibling/ friend thing, but more as a never ever ever inviting yourself to a party simply because you've heard about it and decided you'd like to go, kwim?

Not a little rude, but very, VERY rude! Please don't teach your dd that if she's sad, then others must accommodate her desires. I wouldn't even give much discussion to it, I'd just say, "Dd, since you aren't going to the party, we'll have time to go ___________." Then I'd take her out to lunch or the park or something.

It's hard to know when an update would be appreciated. I think when you're in the midst of really hard times, and your troubles are so deep that there seems to be nothing but the pain--it's all about feeling self-centered because of that, and not assuming that other people are interested in hearing more.

What I'd prefer to do is download the copy to my tablet, because I need it, like, *yesterday*, but then also buy a used hardback copy from Amazon. Does that make it any less illegal? :001_unsure:

One of the textbooks I need for a class that has already started is no longer available as a kindle/ebook version on Amazon. Upon searching, I found that it's available from plentyofebooks.net for free, but it seems like it must be a scam? Anyone know about this? I guess it links to Rapidshare, but I don't know anything about that either.

I don't think the ped will, and I know my doc has not been accepting new patients for quite some time now. I may call and throw myself on her mercy, but even then, I see a female internal med, and I know ds would rather see a male doc. I might be overthinking this, but I find myself "stuck" on what to do about this.

Still sick, but just with fatigue and a horrible, wet cough. One of my sons is still pretty sick, and since it's been more than two weeks, I'm pretty sure it's time to take him to the doc. The problem is that I'm not sure where to take him. He's 18 now do the pediatrician won't see him, and it's notoriously difficult to find a family practice or general practice doc here. I guess urgent care would be the right place, but this is a young man who never goes to the doctor, and this might be the right time for him to ask about skin/acne problems, while he's already there for something more acute. I'd rather find a family doc for him, but not sure I have the motivation necessary to do the required "legwork". I really need to get him in though...

Humidifiers absolutely make my asthma worse--a lot worse. Then again, a really long, really hot steamy shower also makes it a lot worse.

Why don't you go to the bank today, get cash for the whole amount plus the late fee, and drop it off to him today? I'd also put a stop on the previous checks if they haven't cleared the bank yet, and make sure to get a receipt showing paid in full.

So, we live in a rural area, and all we have is sloooow internet service. (I think it's about 750kbps does that sound right?) I have a tablet that will stream Netflix via our wi-fi with no problem, no stopping to download more (buffering, is that what I mean?). When we try to stream Netflix via our Wii though, it stops for long periods of time before it can continue--think multiple 10 minute intermissions to make popcorn, etc. So...will a Roku work for us? I'm not sure I understand what a Roku is, and what it does, but my girls would like to keep their Wii in their room with their tiny tv, and I would like to be able to watch movies on the family room tv if possible.

Ha! Found it! It's Foolproof. Thanks though, Beth. :)

I don't remember much about it, but it was something like a group of friends who devise schemes for heists, but don't really carry them out...then someone steals one of their plans and either uses it, or makes them use it?

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We have been *so sick*. All of us came down with the same thing, at the same time: Fever/chills, headache, extreme body aches for 3-4 days, and then a horrible, wet-sounding cough that has hung on for almost two weeks and shows no signs of going away any time soon. One of my ds escaped it, but only because he was out of town for several weeks.

Ah, that's waaay to sensible. It's way more fun to ask here!

I have no authority upon which to base my answer, it's just the things that make me feel like I'm doing something constructive, lol! We use disinfectant wipes on the doorknobs when one of us is sick. Also the tv remote, if the sick one is using it. Because we have more than one bathroom, I usually have the sick one use one of the bathrooms, and the rest of us use the other until the flu is gone, at which time we go crazy disinfecting that bathroom. When the weather is nice enough, I like to air out the house when someone is sick. By nice I mean, is it at least 50 degrees outside, and can we bundle up in sweaters & blankets for a little while in order to get fresh air into the house. It just *feels* better to have fresh air in the house when someone is sick, kwim? I also tend to give the sick one a very large insulated water bottle to drink from, because I figure the less we all have to handle the cup/glass for refills, the better it'll be, and I assign a tissue box just for the sick one's use, so the rest of us don't end up touching the outside of the box where the sick one just had their hands on it. Hmm...that's all I can think of. I'm sure other people have more informed advice. With all of that said, 6 out of my 7 just had a horrendous flu, and it's been two weeks and we're all still suffering pretty thoroughly. Since we all started with symptoms on the same day, none of my flu-prevention measures even got a chance. :thumbdown:

Umm...I have been hiding out, lurking once in a while, because I have no good news to report, and I'm not sure what to say about that. Nothing has changed in terms of my personal situation, though things are definitely changing for me emotionally. Each day that goes by leaves me more able to see a life without my dh, and with a clearer idea of where I need to go from here. Facing what is (there's no sense in me denying it or calling it anything else) complete public humiliation has been, in the truest sense of the word, completely humbling. I know that people irl mean it kindly, but I'm already weary of them looking at me with pity and sadness on my behalf. In the past, I've said (here, and irl) that being offended is a choice. You can choose to let jerks get you down, or you can choose to rise above the fray, take a bit of a philosophical view of the situation, and choose not to be offended. Well, I think I've come to the conclusion that sadness is a bit the same way. Why should I give any other person the power to turn me into a broken, sad, and miserable version of the person I used to be? They can only do that if I let them. It's bad enough to have been betrayed and wronged, but even worse if I give away who I am and who I have been all my life, to...her? Him? I don't know exactly what's coming next (though we can all guess), or when, but what I do know is that regardless of what actually comes to pass in the outward trappings my life, I'm getting a little bit stronger every day. For now, I find myself satisfied with that, and I'm cutting myself some slack with regard to taking any permanent action about my marriage (or lack thereof). I can, after all, kick his @ss to the curb any time I'm darn good & ready, and not as a purely knee-jerk reaction to an emotional situation. So, what's my update? Not much, I guess, looking at it objectively. If you could see it from behind my eyes though, there's all manner of interesting changes going on. For now, that's good enough.

Tiramisu if you're up to it. Cheesecake if you're looking for ready-made. Panna cotta if you're looking for something that seems fancy but is really the easiest thing in the world to make. I have an orange panna cotta recipe that is to die for, but it would be easy to find a recipe for lemon panna cotta, or vanilla almond panna cotta sounds good. You could make it the day before, and did I mention, it's easy? You can do it. I promise.

Um...this changes everything. Not sure how I missed the new law, but thank you for cluing me in. I might have my answer right here. :thumbup1: