With my m/c in 2009, i m/c at home. I was already bleeding when i went to ER and found out the baby didnt have a HB and then 3d later m/c. I had labor pains, pressure like in labor and my baby came out and we buried the baby- the dr didnt do testing because we didnt ask for it to be done. I WOULD do it all again the same way, no matter how far along i was.
I think you need to do what YOU feel is right. We can tell you 20 different experiences but that doesnt mean its right for YOU. We all go through a m/c differently and we all grieve differently. Even the way you m/c, can effect the way you grieve. :grouphug: