Penn State Hazing death in The Chat Board Posted May 17, 2017 · Report reply But I feel like at this point I have made people so uncomfortable that potshots are being taken from any random direction - the poor throw trash everywhere too! how dare you imply students don't choose where to go to school! who can say what a "social norm" is, really? - so I will bow out. That poor kid is still dead, though. Apparently you took my questions personally. I did not intend to makes a "potshot." I was sincerely asking you to elaborate on what you said. You seem to care a lot about these issues, and they are important. I see this is as two issues, a question of what institutions and societies can do about an obvious problem on college campuses, and a question about the decisions individual families make. While we can share our ideas and have respectful discussions about how to make decisions regarding our own kids, ultimately I have to make my decisions and you have to make yours. I don't see the value of attacking each other's choices. But on some level, colleges, communities, and larger society need to respond to this problem on college campuses. We read about tragedies that result from impulsive and distructive behavior, much of which appears to be built around a party culture, and we want to see that culture change. I was asking questions about how much we can change and how to go about it.