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  1. 8 hours ago, Halftime Hope said:

    Whoooo-eeee!  I resisted the urge, you can, too!  But you can send his graduation announcement, along with a nice photo of him in cap and gown!  🙂 Mark it "No gifts, please, but we welcome you to share the joy of graduations and new horizons!" so they are clear it is not a request. 

    Great idea! And for me (last kiddo is doing all online community college for senior year) it's grown kids moving back in, with dh and I both working from home....so polar fleece pants with business shirts, LOL. And yes, we may have to pay for faster internet access with 3 of us online all the day long.

  2. 8 hours ago, Halftime Hope said:

    Now that I've been officially told I'm not a "good fit" for my job, and I should start looking for a new one (by my current manager), because of the exec I work for who has never been a good fit for anyone he works with--my manager included--I'm going to have to try Linked In.   Mine is a sad situation, but you really can't change who people are, so it's just as well if I move on.  

    Sigh, I hate it in life when you put in years of time and effort on something you cared about and then it goes sour, so you memories of it are ruined.  That's such a bummer. 




    Sounds like you can find a more pleasant work situation, for sure. DH got the professional membership to LinkedIn and has used it extensively, especially the past 3 months or so, getting up the nerve to contact people he worked with 20-30 years ago and ask if there were opportunities at their present firms, checking companies with job listings to see if he knew anyone there, etc.

    I hope you do find something better!! My daughter lost her job due to Covid shutdown and moved back in with us last May. She's found a much better job at a much more pleasant place where she is much appreciated...the only interview she had, they hired her and they've already given her one raise. I hope you find something like That!!

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  3. I am thinking of divesting myself of books, not purchasing more, but I couldn't resist this one for Thanksgiving (see below) since I love poetry and I have two out of four who love watercolors. AND SINCE DH HAS A JOB OFFER in hand, I can now shop for books for Christmas, LOL. And can be most heartily thankful this Thanksgiving Day!! I am currently reading Sally Clarkson's "The Life-Giving Table," which fits right in with the theme of thankfulness and valuing family connections.

    For dragons, two suggestions. Naomi Novik's series beginning with His Majesty's Dragon, and also Rachel Aaron's series beginning with Nice Dragons Finish Last. Fun stuff!

    The Lost Spells, by Robert MacFarlane and Jackie Morris - 





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    On Monday dh will call with a few questions/clarifications, schedule a drug test and (hopefully) sign on the dotted line!! Hurrah, and the best Thanksgiving EVER! Working from home, almost the same salary, a field dh is familiar with, a family-owned and solidly established company. Now we need to set up a home office for dh.

    LinkedIn is the bomb. Friends who coach you on LinkedIn are super, and we've had an amazing prayer team and generous friends (y'all included) with us through this 10-month (!!) job search.

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  5. We are *cautiously* hopeful that there will be an offer letter before Thanksgiving. WHAT a blessing this would be!

    This is a company where dh applied and then found through linkedin that a former co-worker was a manager there; when he reached out to his friend, it turned out he was the hiring manager for the position! We know they've been calling dh's references, and then the hiring manager called to let us know they'd heard good things and were putting together an offer. We expect it to start in January, but are so hoping for something to bolster our spirits this week!!

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  6. On 11/18/2020 at 12:10 PM, Dreamergal said:

    @Robin M Sorry about your DH's cast. Hope he feels better soon and the pain med helps.

    One of my favorite historical fiction authors is Julia Quinn and one of her most enjoyable series is Bridgerton which is the story of eight siblings who are the children of a Viscount and are named from A-H. There is also a society gossip columnist called Lady Whistledown who is anonymous and rather notorious. A very enjoyable read. Now Netflix and Shonda Rhimes have come up with a series, with Lady Whistledown voiced by Julie Andrews.  Starts on Christmas Day, 2020

    The Books


    The trailer




    Adding this author to my library wish list!

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  7. Sympathies on your husband's fracture, Robin. My dh managed to break his wrist several years ago @ a 4H christmas party....leaving the ice to get his cake. So late on a Sunday, we got to drive around to 2-3 different clinics to find one that had a dr. available to set it. And then I had to drive his daily commute for him until the cast came off.

    I have been working my way through the Inspector Rutledge series by Charles Todd (English post WW1 detective, returning to work but still has secret ptsd/shell shock that manifests as a critiquing voice in his head). Well written, thoughtful, and I'm quite enjoying them. Unfortunately, my library doesn't have them all and so I am skipping around a bit as they become available on Overdrive.

    Also very much enjoying Laurie R. King's Mary Russel & Sherlock Holmes series, which I believe were recommended here. Yes, Holmes gets married late in life to a highly self-sufficient woman who investigates right along with him and gives him a run for his money. The last one I read was set in India with a grown-up Kim having disappeared into Tibet and needing to be found. Great Game references abounded...quite fun.

    DH got to a *fourth* interview this week, after 3 months of talking to a company, and then they said no thank you. Ahhhh, at least there are some other faint possibilities he can pursue and he won't have to rent a room M-F. Trying to look on the bright side can get quite wearing, but we hang in there. I have been working and our team got some very positive feedback for a bid we were helping to prepare....so that may lead to yet more work. Hurrah on that.

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  8. Every interview is a learning experience! Just getting one is a victory for you!!

    I have been applying for technical writing jobs (my B4Kids job) since February, have gotten 2 interviews and both were based in the midwest while I live in the SF Bay area. Our salary expectations were miles apart and they wrote me off after I was honest with them....and I didn't even give them my higher rate. Luckily an old friend is now consulting and needed my services and he pays my higher rate because of experience in a particular market he serves. Hours are *extremely* variable, but we're fortunate to have a great working relationship (all remote) and it's been a real godsend.

    So, if this guy is a jerk, just use the interview experience. I wouldl also suggest having a professional or a friend or two review your resume and suggest updates/reformatting/how to reframe your skills. In my husband's job hunt, he has gotten great benefit from being coached how to use LinkedIn's professional membership for more effective networking. Just something to consider.

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  9. I do appreciate the thoughts and good wishes from everyone and the company suggestions, etc. DH has gotten some mentoring in making better use of LinkedIn and this has led to some new possibilities. He should be having a 3rd interview for a job in the Silicon Valley area, was contacted about a possibility in Phoenix, and got in touch with a former manager which has led to a job possibility that would be working from home w/some travel. That's the one we're wishing on....he should be able to talk to the guy in person early next week.

    I've held up pretty well, I think, and I clocked nearly 30 hours of work last week, but I am anticipating the holidays will mean pretty much zero income. And with that and all the possibilities that have evaporated over the past months, plus the argument I had with my oldest over "who's a racist" and "chant the slogan" (which I do not do), I have had a very rough day. I have to be back in the saddle tomorrow for a proposal review and team meeting, so I've just got to get over this and get on with it. DH and I really seem to be on a seesaw - he's up, I'm down and vice versa. Ahhhhhhh....waiting for breakthrough is hard!!

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  10. I have 3 20-somethings and a high school senior. My oldest moved back in with us due to covid unemployment, after living in our old home town, now 9 hours away, for 10 years....since she was a freshman in college. That's been a bit of an adjustment (especially the boyfriend being long distance), but generally good and she found a job up here that she loves and they value her (masks required! 1 covid scare). Child #2 is in an apartment locally and comes over for dinner once/week. He's been building yurts in trees (really) and revising zipline courses and has had minimal work stoppage for covid, some for fires and smoke, and is starting his own business, so doing well. Child #3 is still living @ home and the business she was working for as a caregiver went bankrupt a few months ago and stiffed her on wages. She is going to take a CNA class and then look for a better job.

    Child #4 and I were both very sad when we had to leave our homeschool group due to cost (dh was let go early March, just as shutdown started), but all her classes are at CC anyway and online. She's taking 10 units and doing very well, altho' she thinks they're overusing TED talks to make up for less in-class time, LOL. She has 2 friends that she hangs out with regularly, even weekend sleepovers, but both those families are pretty careful too. She didn't get to go to camp, as that was the week the oldest had a co-worker come down with covid and we decided not to risk infecting others. And her dreams of working art camp as a paid helper never came to pass either. She's advertised herself to do senior photos, though, and found a couple of clients, so at least some income. We had to postpone to driver's license...no $ to pay for insurance until dh finds work. But I think she's coping better with coviid restrictions than with the prospect of having to move, depending on what job dh does/doesn't find.

  11. 9 hours ago, Ausmumof3 said:

    Wow!  Fantastic news!  Getting containment without rain is a pretty big achievement.  

    It is! Firefighters are our heroes! It's helped so much that (at least so far) this year we haven't had the very strong off-shore winds that pushed the fires so hard in 2017 and 2019, and we've had cooler weather too. But there are still a couple of monster fires in the state...containment is rising on those too.

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  12. DH is still looking....anything local with benefits, anything in his field / skill set / market experience anywhere in the US.

    I have a contract for 80 hours of writing...starting some market research for a competitive report and red team editing on a proposal, hoping for a LOT more from this company once that is done. Sending out some p/t remote writing job applications.

    Unemployed dd had a tooth/root canal abcess and is going to need a new crown, but the antibiotic worked so we can put it off for awhile.

    Little things keep us going, but I have a real estate agent coming Friday to evaluate house for sale, hoping not to do that until March so youngest can finish her senior year @ CC for free.

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  13. We were pretty on-edge up until today, friends had to evacuate and one's mother-in-law who lived up the hill lost her home. We had some pretty smoky days! But containment is up to 30% and most of the evacuation orders in Sonoma County are lifted. Napa County is still fighting hard but Calistoga got to go back home today. Praying for Thurs/Fri forecast of rain to come true!!

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  14. I certainly hope it was a pilot! Now that I know there are several books already, the development of a series sounds quite possible. I think Sherlock was quiet because he didn't want to give Enola away to Mycroft. I rather liked his quiet, knowing smiles and I am glad to know that Mycroft will not be in charge of that young lady in future.

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  15. I have been having a lot of fun with Donna Andrews' fluffy mystery series, which was recommended here. It makes a good distraction from fire news, bad air, and keeping the windows shut in triple degree heat with no a/c....oh, and the seemingly eternal job search. I don't know how dh keeps going! Hopeful news, we are over 25% containment now and the sky is blue....only a little smoky and the weather is cooling nicely.

    My technical writing web site went live last night, thanks to ds's help and dd's logo design skills. If you know anyone who might be in need of business, proposals, or biometrics writing or want writing coaching for their kids, please pm me! So far I've had one client and he liked my work and I had fun doing his rewrites. My reading this coming week is going to be all non-fiction, about copy writing, social media marketing, content writing & etc. as I try to expand my skills.

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  16. @Negin - I am a bit late getting back on the topic of Iran, but that information about # of expats certainly rings true. My dad was there for a year on his own, more or less, and then my mom and younger sister joined him for about 6 months before their sudden return. Most of their friends there were expats, and my dad especially liked the Brits they met. They left the 20-something "kid" crew in charge of their house (brave!) and then when they returned w/24 hours notice AND my mom was ill, well, it was a bit of a fire drill!

    I harvested basil today, so much to cut that I had to wrap it in a bath towel to bring it in, then rinse it all thoroughly to remove the last remnants of smoke and ash from the fires. We can't make actual pesto due to oldest dd's allergies, so we are going to try something with white beans in lieu of nuts. The recipe dd wants to try is a strawberry basil cocktail....I wish.

    I have been on a John Ringo kick...military SF stuff, the latest series with a so-called zombie plague, eerily reminiscent of early pandemic fears. And my husband wonders why I know so much about weapons, LOL! I like the books he writes himself much better than the ones that are sharing his "world" with other co-creators. Next, I am reading a couple of Liaden books in anticipation of the release of the new book, Trader's Leap by Sharon Lee and Steve Miller.

    Thanks to all the language discussions, I just ordered a new testament in French/English...that will be SUCH a stretch since I haven't used the language much since I lived on a "French-only" dorm in college. But sil is French Canadian and she and  my bro are now living in Montreal. Maybe I can use the enticement of visiting them to keep me reading!

    You guys help me keep my brain awake! In between way-too-many resume submissions -- dh and I are tracking our resume # in a bit of a competition. Gotta do something to keep the months of job-hunting from dragging.

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  17. @Negin -- my dad was a contractor in Iran when they were building up to revolution. He was helping with analysis and system design for public safety communications and recordkeeping. They left in June after the government tried to get the contractor to fire him so they could rehire him, but he said no. Had expat friends who were there up until armed revolution began. Such a sad, difficult time.

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  18. 23 hours ago, square_25 said:

    Lots of our local unschoolers do a bunch of random homeschool classes and spend very little time on academics or on skills other than Minecraft. They don't read much if at all. They aren't learning much of anything. 

    We also have some local unschoolers who are doing a fantastic job. But they are in the minority. 

    I read one book by Rebecca Rupp on how she did unschooling and decided it would be too much for me! She did huge amounts of research and worksheets designed to help her kids collate information on the topics they had chosen. But reading her at least helped me give my kids some grace for Friday parkdays and reading-only weeks or stretching math out so we finished it in July. And yes, there were days when we counted cyberchase and a history documentary as "school" -- but not too many! -- and Saturday field trips also counted as school days.

    As someone else said above, there was always a year or so of the teen years (different for each kid) that was really rough. In two of those cases, I decided to let go...so one kid went straight to CC/commuted early with Dad/rode the bus home, and one kid was in a charter where she met weekly with the teacher and got all her assignments from her, and we didn't pursue a college prep path for her. The other two girls mostly worked through their tough year with a little extra patience and a lot of kleenex (for both of us). Right now the youngest is dual enrollment online for all her school this year, so I can go back to freelance writing online. She has "class" 3 hours/week carrying 10 units, but is working on assignments pretty much 10-5 M-Th and checking back for things she missed on Saturday. Number of hours of "school" -- depends on how you count it.

  19. DH has an interview today and another next week, both with companies in the same industry he's worked in for the past 10 years. Praying he is impressive and presents himself as THE GUY to hire!

    The company I freelance for has put in a quote that may lead to a *lot* of work....once we get vetted and approved, which is another month down the road (sigh). When it comes through I may well be quite busy, but it's still "wait" for now.

    DD whose company went bankrupt has registered for her CNA course, which starts the end of the month and which is through the community college, so she should be able to pay for it with college savings $.

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  20. I've been having a blast this week with three fantasy books by Rachel Hartman: Seraphina, Shadow Scale, and Tess of the Road.

    Vaguely late medieval with dragons who can look like humans if they wish, saints with special powers (who turn out to be half dragon), and multiple cultures and creatures. Well written, much about the difference between cold logic (the dragons) and feeling (humans and....other critters) and lots about social expectations and what happens when you outgrow them or never fit them to begin with.

    I watched the new Netflix short series "Unorthodox" and was fascinated, so found the book at the library for my kindle. That and Finding Dorothy (recommended here, I think) are on the list for next week.

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  21. On 9/7/2020 at 3:29 PM, Hilltopmom said:

    Dd, 17 struggles with everything academic due to learning disabilities and ability. She is currently a ps senior also attending vo tech for Early Childhood education. She’s working on her CDA through vo tech.
    She would like to teach preschool or possibly do something else in the Human Services field (she’s very interested in psychology or counseling but won’t pursue a BA/MS anytime soon- that may be out of her reach, academically). She’s amazing with kids and her dream job is year round camp counselor, lol.

    She will probably take some classes in education & human services at the CC after graduation to see how that goes but she’ll need to be a very part time student. She does want to do that. But may not get through the math requirement.

    It’s highly likely she will find a job at a daycare or preschool (I have local connections after years of working in many as a preschool special Ed teacher). She knows the pay is minimum wage Without health insurance and we fully expect to support her for years to come. 

    In this season of “all the seniors are applying to college”, I could just use some stories about the kids who are not or did not take that route.


    @Lori D. I think there was a thread like this a few years ago but I can’t find it. Any chance you could work your search magic for me? I’d really appreciate it 🙂

    I can empathize with the migraines issue. My dd who finds school the most difficult also has multiple migraines a week. She took a Parks & Rec lifeguard certification class at age 16 and went to work at the local senior center (NOT the big city pool, too overwhelming) and really fell in love with working with seniors. She continued to lifeguard and began looking for other work with seniors/disabled. Through a friend's referral she got started working with in-home health care, both individual clients and group homes. It doesn't pay terribly well either, but she can up her earning potential if she takes a Certified Nurse Assistant class (about a month f/t), so that's what we're looking into now. Luckily the local community college offers this so we think we can use her college fund to pay for it. She may also look at being a case manager but that's less patient contact, which means less of what she likes about the work.

    I think lifeguarding and learning to teach swim lessons would be a great sideline for your daughter. It can fit right into working with kids and provide a 2nd income stream (most lifeguarding and teaching is a 4-hour day, mornings or evenings but sometimes there are agencies that match teachers up with private clients, which pays better but you have to buy some toys & equipment). Anyway, just a thought. CPR certification, which comes with lifeguard training, is also a plus for childcare.

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