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  1. Ask at your Dental college or community college(dental hygienists training) or vocational high school.
  2. Yes, that's exactly in case in my state. Yes, we find it confusing too 🙂 I only mentioned it because for some families that financial information may help nudge the teen toward driving. Check with your car insurance company YMMV
  3. The reason we encourage our teen drivers to get their license at the end of the six months is due to the cost of car insurance. Insurance in this state "credits" the driver with "a good driving record" from the day they get their license. So, in our state, if your teen takes the test, gets his license and then never drives till he turns thirty, his cost for car insurance would be the exact same as my teen who turn the test and bought a car and drove every day until he turned thirty. Most teens start out paying just under $2,000/year for car insurance in this state. Getting their license asap helps towards good driving credits which drops the cost of car insurance each year. (Families can still make rules when teens get their license early.)
  4. We're on our third teen driver. Our family's goal is to have the teen drive every single day for 6 months in lots of different environments.
  5. Over the last year, we've bought 5 large-ish pieces of furniture. (Plus a patio set that was already outside.) Of the five pieces, only one was waiting at the bottom of the driveway. The other four pieces dh and I carried out to his truck.
  6. The area is a HCOL vacation destination. The cheapest event on that list is $40pp.
  7. Her dh has 20somethings from his first marriage and a grandkid. Sis & dh got married when the kids were six and eight. They had joint custody. So, they have had teens in their household.
  8. My sister is very aware of the rift because my mom filled everyone that would listen in on the details. After the rift, I was suddenly not invited to weddings, baby showers, birthdays etc., No one on my mother's side called and asked my anything. I was just suddenly left off the list. Someone threw my sister a baby shower in this state and I wasn't invited. At my dad's funeral, my brother's girlfriend says, "ohhh...so you're Susie..." It was so obvious that I had been talked about. For many, many years my sister avoided me. She's only started to see me because she wants her kid to meet my kids. I want to thank everyone for all the suggestions. I really do read and think about everything that's said.
  9. So, I've had no contact with my parents for about 8 years. Two year ago, my father passed. Dh and I and the kids attended the funeral. As we were leaving, my mother hissed a few unkind things into dh ear. Other than that, there was no "scene" at the funeral. My sister has lived out of state since she was eighteen. She now has a 4 year old. My sister has initiated contact and visited my home for an afternoon for the last two summers with the child but not her dh. (I'm not sure how often her dh is in this state) I believe that my sister and mother visit each other tons. My sister send a txt about her next visit with her dh and child. The txt reads, "We're doing cake and lunch for my dh's bday at mom's on XXX at 0:00pm if you guys can make it. I'm also doing an itinerary if any of you can make it to join us for any of it." She then adds a list of gocarts, museums, waterparks etc. for each day. I want to txt back, "Did you fall and hit your head?!" Honestly, it was good to see her for an afternoon once a year. Now, she's moved to expensive events, near my mother, and very likely my mother will be at all of these events and perhaps some of my mother's relatives that have taken my mother's side. Ugh., ugh, ugh. I'm leaning towards telling her that 1. my teens aren't interested in those events. 2. with teens' work schedules it's had to get them all together at the same time. 3. dh is not off from work that week. 4. all of the those events are outside our budget. 5. I'm NOT going anywhere near my mother without a million licensed therapist. Suggestions?
  10. I've have lived in a state where anyone can get a copy of my kid's birth certificates because dh and I were married at the time of birth. However, in that same state, I could not go pick up a copy of my nephew's birth certificate because his parents were unmarried at the time of his birth.
  11. Do you have a copy of your father's birth certificate? Correcting the death certificate might not be easy..... FIL lived out of state. Dh and his sister were in that state when FIL passed. Dh's step-sister signed "daughter" on the death certificate (and a bunch of other paperwork!) We needed to correct that because dh's sister (not step-sister) was the person on all of FIL's military paperwork. Death certificate person told me I needed a copy of step-sister's birth certificate to correct the mess. In that state only the people on the birth certificate can get a copy of a birth certificate. So, that would be step-sister, her father and her deceased mother (dh's deceased step-mother.)
  12. Yes, he's still a teen. Yes, that payment was our portion that we're paying. Yes, I did ask him to setup the payments this semester. I *thought* it was appropriate for him to manage all the merit/loans/cash payment deadlines because I did all of that at his age. However, I remember feeling overwhelmed. Thanks guys, I appreciate the perspective. I didn't realize that parents can/would/should help with all of that. I posted to see how other parents handled these things.
  13. I cannot tell if I'm helping my teen too much or too little. I would appreciate some advice. So, he lives at home and goes to the local university. Each semester is paid by a combination of his merit aid, his loan, and we make cash monthly payments. Each and every semester, he makes some sort of "financial error." (One semester he never signed his student loans) This spring semester, he set up our monthly payments with our credit credit. Mid-semester, the card had fraudulent activity. I asked ds to take the new card to the school and updated the information. I asked politely, multiple times over the semester. He never did. So now he cannot access his spring grades or register for the fall. Dh is planning to ride over to campus with ds and wait in the car while ds figures this out. This problem is fixable. But every semester if feels like he just misses getting into some sort of serious problem. He's bright and funny and sweet but he has the horrible knack for procrastinating. Should I have set-up the payments myself in January? Should I have done the card updated myself mid-semester? I went to college and my parents never helped with anything, so that's really coloring the way I see this problem. Help me put some perspective on this.
  14. I always learn something new on these boards. So in my state, you need to enter more personal information than just your name to access voting records. So, I couldn't just type in my neighbor Susie Smith and find out when she voted and her political party. But I can just lean over the table and see if see voted and her political party!!
  15. Not exactly what you're asking.....but if smiling and nodding doesn't work, I respond, "Over the course of my lifetime, I've voted for both parties." After that most people change the subject. And a weird story. I moved to this town as a registered Independent. I go to vote for the first time. At the table the poll worker asks my address. She turns the pages in a book and arrives at a page with my street name. She check me off. Here's the thing....I could read (upside down) all my neighbors names, their party and see if they've voted that day. She made no effort to tip or cover the book. I get to the the tiny, counter height, non-curtained semi-cubicle with my toddler. Worker lady advises me that toddler should not be in the weird cubicle. Big sigh. All this in a probably 25'x25' room. As I turn in my ballot, the other poll worker opens another book and checks me off the list. So, if I didn't get to read it the first time, I got a second chance!
  16. amyx4

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    For a public schooled 8th grader to play on the public high school team (Varsity or JV) the high school's athletic director requests a waiver through the state athletic association. I *think* waivers are given based on the enrollment size of the public school or the population of the town. It's not incredibly common. (Waivers are not given because of an athlete's skill.) If the district has an 8th grade waiver then the student can play all 4 years of high school. My state's athletic association website has all the rules listed. It's vast but searchable. Can you search your state?
  17. In my frig is a brisket wrapped in butcher paper. It's about 12-18 inches wide, probably 2" thick. I would like to cook it in the oven. (no smoker, no grill). I have spices, oils, etc and a meat thermometer. Can someone please speak to me slowly...in small words...what on earth do I do with this large, intimidating piece of meat?
  18. So ds turned in his Eagle proposal March 21. He gets an email April 26 saying that the proposal doesn't show enough hours or leadership. The email did mention that there's no standard for hours and the ultimate decision of showing leadership lies with the Troop. But.....please rewrite and resubmit your proposal. And oh ya, you're missing the financial page 17. He turned in page 7-10. How on earth is any reasonable human supposed to guess/assume that page 17 is also needed. He figured out the problem of hours/leadership. He kept writing "a" fence. When if fact it should say "elevenly-million-miles of fence." (He's not really building a fence) So it looked like he was just building one of something. Yesterday, he resubmitted pages 7-10. He needs to get the Beneficiaries signature tomorrow to submit page 17.
  19. I'm asking this very gently. Is there any chance that your father didn't do that for your brothers?
  20. What is homeschooling like in the area you are headed to? We landed where our homeschooled high school teens could play spots for the local high school. That was not on our "house hunting list" when our kids were younger. Turns out, it has been a wonderful experience. We do joke, that we should've bought a house closer to the high school, with all the back-and-forth driving for sports. 😉
  21. Sorry, I don't know anything nationally. However, do you have more than one community college in your state? We live between a couple of community colleges. When my now-college-aged son was in high school, we discovered that each of the community colleges handled tuition for dual enrollment differently. Sometimes, it was based on our income. Sometimes the gen-ed requirements were the only classes that had a tuition break. The best discount was the online classes but he didn't really like on-line classes. So, as soon as he could drive, he did drive for the free/reduced cost classes. Another dual enrolled student told him that the StateU had dual enrollment classes for free. They only let in 30 or so students and I never saw it published/ advertised anywhere.
  22. So my Scout drove about 40min/miles to turn in his Eagle Scout Project Proposal and the woman at the desk told him, "That doesn't get dropped off here." Thankfully, son did not drive home. Instead he called me from his car. I encouraged him to call his Scoutmaster. After some back and phone calls between the Scoutmaster and council, the women appears in the parking lot and agrees to take his Proposal. Rumor has it that the council is taking at least 6 weeks to return proposals. I swear Eagle Scout projects give me gray hair.
  23. We seem to have the worst luck with book lights. I just bought everyone a new one for Christmas and half of them are not working any more. Does anyone have a favorite brand or style? The kids like the kind that can clip to the book. Thanks
  24. This may not be helpful....I was gifted a beeswax candle from someone that raises bees for honey. Can you located a hive owner in your area?
  25. The payphone was gone by the time we sold the house because of cell phone usage.
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