Yolanda in Mass
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My son is looking to take calculus over the summer to satisfy a college req and get it over with at home rather than at school. He's a college freshman this year. Can anyone recommend any on-line options we can explore? This would have to be approved by his college so needs to be college level and reputable. Thanks!
Yolanda
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Same here! Just said goodbye to my younger son. It was nice to hear him say how much he loved even the "smell" of home. Stayed home mostly and told a friend at church that he's around peers all the time at school so would rather just chill with family when home. :001_smile: Only 17 more days till semester end!
Hugs to those missing their kiddos.
Yolanda
PS - To Chris in VA: I can totally relate to the "tension thing"! My ds21 also gives us much to angst about.
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I'm looking to acquire and upgrade MS Office skills and am looking for quality on-line courses. I found ed2go.com and am wondering if anyone has any experience with them, good or bad? If you can recommend something else, please do!
Thanks,
Yolanda
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Is your dd doc a psychiatrist familiar with Vyvanse dosing or a GP used to Ritalin and Adderall? My ds has been on both Vyvanse (which he loves) and Adderall IR and his doc, a psychiatrist, told him the dosing of Vyvanse is roughly double that of the Adderall. He was on 10 or 15 mg of Adderall IR and was given 30mg of Vyvanse to start.
I would not hesitate to call your doctor. As for another script, I too live in a highly regulated state, but whenever my ds has had a new med or change in dose (which has happened a LOT in the last year) I've had no problems getting the prescription filled. Unfortunately, our insurance doesn't cover Vyvanse at all and the coupon is good for only 1 free month of meds in our state as opposed to 50% off for 6 months.
As a side note - although my ds loves the consistency of Vyvanse and lack of sharp drop off (as opposed to Adderall), it runs his body very ragged so that he is much more tired and his sleep requirements are much higher when on this med.
Yolanda
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This is a good opportunity for you to start letting go. I'm becoming an expert in that arena and I know how hard it is, believe me! I would definitely not speak to the other young man's mom. I would recommend that she, too, stay out of it, but that's not what you're asking. You might give your son permission to not have to room with this young man by saying, "Don't feel you have to room with XX just because his mom thinks it's a good idea or because you already know him. This is a great opportunity to make new friends and lots of kids don't room with people they already know." Yeah, there's a risk that a different roommate won't work out, but this is an opportunity for your son to grow if it doesn't. If he decides to go ahead and room with him, so be it. It's his decision and he has to live with the consequences, good or bad. It's not the end of the world either way. Really. ;)
All the best,
Yolanda
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Glad to hear your dd is okay. That's wonderful that your dd's school told you what they were doing and why. My son was transported to the ER last year and they did not call us, would not tell us why he was transported when he called us from the ER, and did not arrange for anyone to go with him or arrange for his return. Pretty awful experience for all involved.
Yolanda
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It doesn't sound like this is the case with the OP, but I agree with Black Midori that some kids are simply not ready or college is not for them. My ds is 21 and has done 3 semesters of cc, 10 weeks of Bible school and 10 wks of a university. We are done funding any more (cc was fine, it's the other stuff that was a waste of money) until he is completely and totally vested in the process. He is now working full time earning some much needed money, learning some responsibility, growing up, and figuring out what he's going to do with the rest of his life. He is also learning that with no skills, the job market really stinks so he's going to have to step it up at some point. :)
Yolanda
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My ds is attending Messiah College, Grantham PA (about 4 hours east of Grove City College). Although their tuition is higher than a lot of Christian schools, they offer many scholarships which bring cost way down. My ds received scholarship $ which has brought total costs to less than 50%. Not even a state school can match those costs.
Yolanda
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Thank you all for your very thoughtful responses. I told my ds about his grandmother's rapidly deteriorating condition just a little while ago. I did gently explain that it was entirely up to him whether to come home for a visit or, more likely, the funeral service. He told me that he will not be able to make it home due to his workload, exams in particular. I told him that we completely supported whatever decision he made and that the funeral service was for the living, not his grandma.
He was able to spend time with her right before leaving for school so that is a blessing. She is now unconscious due to heavy medication so two-way communication is no longer possible. We do know, however, that she may be able to hear us. Again, thank you all for responding and providing different perspectives.
Grace and peace to all of you,
Yolanda
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As someone posted, it is my hope and prayer that their beliefs and behavior reflect the morals that have been taught at home. I can not make them believe a certain way nor behave a certain way. I can be there for them to advise them and, of course, to love them, but they are adults in their own right and I can't control them. May you have the wisdom and peace needed as you enter this phase of parenting.
Yolanda
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My ds is a freshman 400 miles away from home. His grandmother was diagnosed with terminal cancer about 8 months ago and he saw her health decline rapidly over the last few weeks before he left, so this is not totally unexpected. Sadly, it appears she now has days left. We're torn with: (a) telling him anything at all and just waiting till she passes to tell him, and (b) bringing him home for the funeral when the time comes. He has his plate full with school work and although I'm sure his profs will excuse him, we all know how difficult it is to make up for time lost. Traveling to and from will cost him time, in addition to time spent at home.
I know I saw a post about a related matter but I couldn't find it. What are some of your thoughts on this?
Yolanda
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DD is the type--has always been the type--who likes to compartmentalize her life. She treats school as a job, and academics as a part of the job she enjoys very much. She prefers to go to class, pay 100% attention in the classroom (no socializing), leave the classroom and campus, and study on more neutral territory--a coffee shop, the beach, a park, her bedroom, by the pool, etc. She generally has friends who are outside of the classroom and involved in activities and sports like sailing, hiking, dance, etc. not found on campus. For her to be enmeshed in campus activities and have her life revolving around campus makes her feel very "stale" [her words].
As a homeschooled child she has dealt with so many people of different backgrounds and ages that now, being stuck in a group of peers who are all so similar, she feels suffocated.
You know your dd very well! I just had to post that one of the most under appreciated benefits of homeschooling is how well we get to know our kids and how well our kids get to know themselves. One of the many gifts of homeschooling! I believe that it is this self-knowledge that enables our kids to appear more mature than their peers. I am always amazed at how well my kids know themselves - sometimes better than I know myself.
Yolanda
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This may not be the type of success story you are looking for, but the lesson for me was that I had to step out of the way and let dd find her own success. I'm really proud of her, and I learned a lot about unconditional love along the way,
My 21yos is following a similar path and that is also the lesson I am still learning. Yes, we may know best, but parents need to let go and let them fail, if necessary. Since we have stepped back and let go, we have seen some growth - baby steps - but still growth. They have to want it, not because it pleases Mom and Dad, but because it's what they want for themselves. No one prepared us for this oh-so-difficult phase of parenting!
Yolanda
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In two and half weeks, my husband and I will be taking our youngest on the 7 hour trip from MA to PA. After the one day orientation for parents we plan on visiting Civil War sites in the area, then I'll cry all the way home!
Yolanda
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I used it for my older son in 9th grade. The pro's: It covers the mechanics that need to be reviewed in a systematic way with plenty of practice exercises. You can pick and choose the areas that need attention as each topic can be done as a stand-alone. Cons: Unless you are confident in your ability to teach writing, the writing instruction is not comprehensive enough nor is there enough practice. The book is laid out so that the 1st few chapters cover writing, the balance of the book (about 3/4) is devoted to the mechanics of writing. Never figured out how it was supposed to be used as the teacher's guide was WAY too busy and wordy for me!
In summary - the non-writing portion of the book is excellent but try to find older editions as the book is severely overpriced and the older editions are virtually the same, just a different cover. Use something else for writing.
Yolanda
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Oh, for Pete's sake! Don't worry about what some girl does or doesn't do for school or how she behaves and how it "reflects on homeschooling". There are over one and a half million homeschoolers now. Are we going to judge how they choose to homeschool and "represent homeschoolers"? Although I may not agree with someone else's style of homeschooling, I will not criticize another homeschooler as they have the same right as I do to choose HOW to homeschool their children. And a newsflash - kids need to know how to deal with kids from non-homeschooling, non-church walks of life in an accepting manner or they will not learn important social skills.
Yolanda
PS - Who gets to decide what "weird" is?
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I would agree that you need to call each school to find the up-to-date policy. That's the only way to be certain.
Yolanda
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Yes, and I don't think the reasons for this are entirely educational. College is partly a credentialing scam, and colleges would prefer that the only way to get the credential be to hand them tens of thousands of dollars.
:iagree: I mean really...$50k/year for some of these most definitely non-top tier schools is absolutely absurd.
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I am often guilty of using acronyms for curriculum, and I know it is certainly easier at times, but I cringe when I see too many.
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I'm usually pretty good at acronyms, but this one escapes me. Gracias!
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Drop it! It's not the end of the world to have one "W" on a transcript, especially if you have good grades otherwise.
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Write at Home gets my vote!
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Given what you've said about her history, combined with her erratic performance on psychometric testing, I really would give the LD idea a second look. If she does have LDs, including sensory processing and executive function issues, giving her an extra year won't address the problem *unless* you are using that extra year to address the LDs. Kids with LDs don't grow out of them, though they can learn to compensate some over time. She might seem to be doing better because she will be being compared to kids in a lower grade, but the problems will remain and if not addressed will likely come to a head again in the future.
:iagree:I know how maddeningly frustrating conflicting results from psychologists/psychiatrists can be, but with the continuing problems dd is having, you might want to give the LD idea a much closer look. Yes, some kids definitely mature later, and, yes, we don't want to be slaves to grades, but we must not ignore other more serious learning issues our children may have. They do not go away, they only get worse as the work load increases in amount and complexity.
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Isn't the "life goal" supposed to belong to the person pursuing it, not the parents?
What are you going to do if your child decides that a career in hospitality/food services/etc is exactly what he or she WANTS?
I'm not the one who posted the "Starbucks" comments, but I think they are referring to a dead-end job, not necessarily a career in food services. Otherwise, I certainly agree with you that it is the child/young adult who must decide what their "life goal" is. Hopefully, they will listen to the counsel of adults who know them and care.
Yolanda
On-line options for summer college courses
in The College Board
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I just went to the link and it looks like these courses are not offered on-line; they're only offered as classroom courses. Too bad. I'll keep looking. Thanks anyway.
Yolanda