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  1. 1 minute ago, Amira said:

    Actually, I felt like a several of these challenges were Utah- or US-based.  Dropping social media for me would be very isolating (although not as bad as our last country).  I also interact differently online, especially in settings that I can’t access in real life, including ones that are more available in the US.  

    A social media fast is very US-based.  I'm sure there are places where they don't even know what social media is or have never used it.  It's not dropping it forever, though.  Just 10 days and I feel like it's for *us.*  He talked about writing down your impressions and thoughts and feelings as you go along and how you are changed from being off social media.  Social media can be good, but more often it is bad if just because we are seeing the curated version of our friends lives and thinking we are just not as cool as they are.  I have a friend who said she won't be doing the 10-day fast because she did the 7-day along with the youth back in June.  She found that there is a lot of good on social media and she unfriended and unfollowed and recentered herself through that fast so that now it's an uplifting thing for her rather than something that pulls her down.  I really think she found the exact reason for it.  Particularly because you are in a rather unique situation, provided you already have a good balance for yourself where social media is concerned, a social media fast could be negative for you due to the isolation rather than positive due to the recentering and balancing my friend found.  As for me, I'll be doing it because I need it and I know I need it.

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  2. 4 minutes ago, Amira said:

    It’s been years since I’ve lived near a temple.  I think our assigned temple is in the UK.  Were other suggestions given for people who don’t live near a temple or can’t afford to go often, or who have other non-negotiable things that keep them from going? 

    He said to study about the temple and learn all you can about it.

    1 minute ago, maize said:

    Christian does include Christ's name though. It's even the term used to translate the Nephite term--it's what Mormon called himself ?

    It does, but it doesn't seem to anymore.  And Latter-day Christians would seriously give traditional Christians even more ammo against us I think.  President Nelson said to say we're members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, so I'm going with it, being a long mouthful and all.

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  3. 51 minutes ago, gardenmom5 said:

    currently -- my temple is closed for a new hvac . . . . it opens the day after thanksgiving.  we were going to try to go to another one (renovations hours away), but that requires overnight and our schedules just don't permit it .  My favorite time is weekday morning.

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    Our temple is also currently closed for extra renovations.  It'll open the second week of November I think.  He did say something about if you don't live near a temple to study more about the temple.  I was thinking since I definitely can't go to the temple for another month, I might do that.  I figure even those of us that regularly go could do to learn more.

    42 minutes ago, blondeviolin said:

    This is my only complaint. I feel the same way about “ministering.” The concept is great - loving how the Savior does. BUT, “who is your ministering brother? Your ministering sister?” Awkward. 

     

    I found it really awkward at first, but now it doesn't seem much different than home teacher or visiting teacher.  I've had to explain what home teacher or visiting teacher means to many people.  I wonder if ministering brother or sister would actually make more sense to some evangelical types.

    41 minutes ago, MeaganS said:

    Agreed. Maybe Latter-day Christians? 

     

    That still leaves out Jesus Christ's name and including His name seems to be the whole point.  Guess we just have to get used to the whole mouthful of our name.

    6 minutes ago, gardenmom5 said:

    awkward was telling my brand new rs pres that I needed a new "ministering sister" becasue I was having debilitating health problems and I would never ever call mine for so much as a lift to a dr appointment if dh couldn't take me. (let alone anything else)   . . . . my ministering sister . . . was her own sister-in-law. 

    awkward . . .

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    Oh, man.  That would definitely be awkward!

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  4. 1 minute ago, prairiewindmomma said:

    Elder Bowen’s talk right now....His talk and a number of others lately have all been referencing the specific phrase “gathering scattered Israel”. Obviously, it’s a core doctrinal point, but the specificity of that phrase along with “the Lord hastening his work” and references to the second coming seem to point to a fundamental shift... (Obviously, it’s not a doomsday message, and highlights the reality that someday we will all meet God and should be prepared spiritually to do so...but it’s a noticeable shift.) 

    Has anyone else noticed this?

    Yes!  I jokingly set one of the Conference Candy words for this session as anything related to the Second Coming... and they've gotten quite a bit of candy because of it.  They've gotten more from that than the other word I picked (scriptures).  It really does seem to be more common.  We had Stake Conference two weeks ago and Elder Maynes came (he's a Seventy) and he started the adult session by saying how the prophet is keeping up a pace to usher in the second coming.  I don't remember hearing references to gathering Israel, hastening the work, etc. quite so often.

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  5. 1 hour ago, amiesmom said:

    If you haven't seen it already, they updated the app with the new Come Follow Me curriculum for home and Sunday School and primary. It looks really good, I'm excited to start using it. 

    The home and individuals one looks absolutely amazing.

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  6. 4 hours ago, prairiewindmomma said:

    Butter—is the bishop’s son in the MTC ward choir? On a closeup it looked like him. Or he has a doppelgänger out there...

    So I was just telling Jamie and Ani that you recognized him and they're like, "He's not the bishop's kid anymore..." I totally forgot lol  The bishop was released a couple weeks ago, right at the 5 year point since we became a ward.  Now we have Bishop Fisher!

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  7. I'm already reading the Book of Mormon currently.  I've been doing one chapter a day and am up to 2 Nephi 5.  I figured up that based on the number of days left in the year and the number of chapters I have left, I need to increase my reading to an average of 2 1/4 chapters a day.  Sad to say that'll be easy given the time freed up by not going on Facebook or Twitter.  I spend *far* too much time on those and I know it.

    I started reading the Illustrated Book of Mormon to my younger two boys a couple weeks ago.  It's 8 volumes.  We're a bit more than halfway through the first volume.  We decided we'll read a little more each night and try to finish that by the end of the year, too.

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  8. Just now, prairiewindmomma said:

    I do it a few times a year. It is interesting. The youth were asked to do it for only a week. 

     

    I noticed that our fast was longer.

    Interestingly, I've been thinking about doing one myself because, um, political things have been too much recently. So I'll be doing it.

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  9. 6 minutes ago, prairiewindmomma said:

    Our stake is broadcasting at the stake center only and serving cookies afterwards but I didn’t feel like changing out of my yoga pants or leaving the couch. I just don’t have the energy to “people” today.

    I'm sitting on the couch watching from my own house.  It's all good ?

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  10. 9 minutes ago, prairiewindmomma said:

    Thanks! We’ve been gone from the ward long enough that we are out of the loop of who all is serving (& where) , but we all jumped up and said, “That’s _____!” 

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    He's going to be serving in Honduras right where the Kimballs are living which is kind of crazy.

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  11. 51 minutes ago, maize said:

    I'm so excited about the new 2 hour church schedule--

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    I've been a nursery leader for over a year now so I was really hoping for two hour church.  I love the babies, but I feel worn out like I've run a marathon every Sunday after church.  50 minutes of nursery will be so nice.  Also, if it means we don't feed them a snack (and I assume we won't), it'll save so much money.  I just recently bought $50 worth of snacks and we hope it'll last 6-8 weeks and we only have 10-12 kids any given Sunday!  They eat a *lot* at snack time.

    We also recently took Adrian off his ADD meds because of an insurance/pediatrician issue and discovered he was having some side effects we didn't realize he was having because they happened so gradually.  It's turned out good that we had to take him off the Adderall, but two hours of primary is HARD for him on medication.  He was having a lot of trouble controlling himself by the end of church this past Sunday.  50 minutes of primary is going to be so much better for him.  He has gotten to the point (even on meds) where he says he hates church and I really don't like hearing that from him and I know it's because it's just so long for him to focus.  I really hope shorter primary will help kids like him.

    35 minutes ago, maize said:

    I appreciated the reminder that Family Home Evening did not have to be on Monday night.

     

    Of necessity, we have had Family Home Evening on Sundays.  My oldest son works full time as a taekwondo instructor so Sunday works best for us.

    I'm pretty down with this homeschool church thing.  I've been using Scripture Study for Latter-day Saint Families: Doctrine and Covenants with my 10 and 12 year old boys in school this year and it's been amazing for all of us.  I love learning with them.

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  12. One Sunday during church my husband was rubbing my youngest son's head and neck and discovered a huge lump.  Freaked us out.  Called the doctor the next morning and they got us right in.  The doctor was pretty sure it was just a swollen lymph node (actually three - there were two smaller lumps right near the big one) and prescribed antibiotics and told us to come back if the lump wasn't down in a week.  He said his son got a swollen lymph node around the same age and they never did figure out why.  He had to have surgery to remove it because after a year it was still the same.  It was benign and just a weird thing that sometimes happens.  In my son's case, the next day he spiked a temperature and we were under orders to always get his throat swabbed if he had an unexplained temperature and, sure enough, he had strep (he never complained of a sore throat ever so that's why spiking a temperature was always our clue to see if he had strep yet again).  Of course, he was already on antibiotics so he just finished that course and by the end of it, the lumps were completely gone.  Hopefully, your lump is a similar oddity and you were fighting/coming down with something, too.

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  13. 27 minutes ago, plansrme said:

    Just FYI, I don’t think people expect to bring gifts to a 50th birthday party. 

     

    We threw a 50th birthday party for my mom more than 20 years ago and everyone brought gifts, so I'm not sure that's universal unless you specify...

  14. I turned 40 a couple weeks ago and my friend convinced me to throw my own party.  I had a taekwondo party at the school where my son teaches (which means my 16yo son ran the party; my friend who convinced me to do it was the program director at the time).  It was super fun.  I did say no gifts, but if guests wanted they could bring donations of diapers and other necessities for me to take to the Center for Refugee Services.  Throw your own party!

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  15. I finished reading Out of the Blue by Gretta Mulrooney.  It was horrible to the very end.  Where it just... ended.  The characters were seriously the most selfish people ever.  So in addition to the one couple having an affair, the woman's husband also had an affair at the clinic where he went to get sober.  He slept with his therapist just because he could and she was willing.  Then it turns out this other guy (who I think is her uncle, but I'm not super clear) had an affair with her mom (who is dead now) and got her mom pregnant, but her mom miscarried.  And then the man's wife flipped out and tried to stab the woman.  And so the woman decided to go back to London where she was from and just basically start a new life.  Because, somehow, that would magically make it all better and the man could go back to his wife and daughter.  Horrid book.

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  16. 9 minutes ago, Eliana said:

    @Butter  Wishing you a speedy recovery from the queasies. 

    Re: the kids engaged in resistance work: I am amazed at how the very qualities that cause challenges for teens are the ones that enable them to dream and dare...and make changes, in themselves and the world around them.

    What is the title of the (potentially) pro-adultery book?  That's a slant I try to avoid.  I am generally a follow your heart, find joy in your life kind of person, but I have significant buttons around betrayal and dishonesty in close relationships and authors who try to romanticize or justify deceit and betrayal bother me greatly.  (Ones that show more complexity and/or the fallout are different for me, it's the oversimplification combined with the narcissism of tromping over other people's needs and feelings to fulfill one's own desires and seeing nothing wrong with that.)

     

    Thanks!  I am feeling a lot better today.  Of course now Ani has it and Cameron has been running a fever since last night but not nausea/vomiting/diarrhea for him.

    Out of the Blue by Gretta Mulrooney.  Adultery has definitely happened now (2/3 through).  There has been some minor feeling bad about having sex while both are married to other people, but they were high school sweethearts and parted ways because they were immature so that makes it somehow okay?  He asked her to marry him.  She replied they were both still married.  He said they could get married whenever the time was right.  It really feels like the book is saying since they used to be in love and one is married to an alcoholic and the other just isn't happy with his wife, it means what they are doing is just fine.

    7 minutes ago, Jane in NC said:

    Another fan of the shallot!

     

    I love shallots.  I am allergic to red onions (which I also love, sadly), but I can eat shallots no problem.  So I often will have shallots in things in place of red onions.

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  17. I woke up with a stomach bug.  Ugh.  But I made myself much happier (though no less nauseated) by shopping on Amazon for swing dresses and leggings.  Three new outfits coming soon.

    I'm reading the book I got from the book exchange.  It's about schoolboys who defied Hitler in Denmark during WW2.  Their bravery, and possibly idiocy, astounds me.  I kind of feel like only teenagers would've done what they did.

    I'm also reading a book that I'm just not sure about.  I kind of feel like it's saying adultery is perfectly okay if you aren't happy in your marriage.  I'm not sure where this is going to go and I'm more than halfway done.  It's so slow moving.  It's the last book from spelling out birthstones last year for December.

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