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1 hour ago, TechWife said:
Be wary of the “professional” fitters in department stores. I had one my band to be four inches smaller than I needed. She kept telling me what I was trying on was too big, so I tried one she picked out and it felt like it was cutting me in half!
I went to Dillard's to be fit because I need either a racerback or strapless for the dress for dd's wedding. They told me to try on a particular brand and style bra and when they found the right size, that would be my size. So we did that and they brought in other styles of the same brand in that size. None of them fit. It was the strangest "fitting" I've ever had.
On another note, why do stores only carry small band sizes? It seems stores only carry stock up to a 38. I ended up ordering from Amazon. We'll see how that goes.
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3 hours ago, wathe said:
This happens all the time.
You quickly learn to ask about medical conditions in at least 3 different ways when taking a history, and even then will miss some. People often say "no" when asked if they have any medical conditions, even when they clearly do. Then, when asked about medications, will produce a list of medications as long as my arm, with meds for at least 5 different chronic medical conditions. Which I will then guess at based on the meds, and the patient will then endorse. Or worse, when asked about meds, will say "Oh, yes, quite few," but not have brought them or be able to name them. Or will name medical conditions that they actually don't have (often occurs when pt uses medical vocabulary that means something different than the patient thinks it does - not blaming patients here, medical terminology can be complicated). All.the.time.
Always believe the patient. But also, patients (and families) sometimes say things that are objectively wrong. It's not always easy to find the balance.
My mIl did this when we went to the ER due to difficulty breathing when there was a nearby controlled burn. She told the medical staff she had no medical problems. Thankfully, someone here said to take all her meds with us, so I took them all in a bag. When I asked why she had so many prescriptions, mil downplayed each one. "Oh, that's only when I'm short of breath." or "That's just my water pill." or "That helps my heart." Even when we think we remember, sometimes we might not remember the medical condition, but only the effect/reason to take the medicine. I can't imagine how much more difficult it would be in an actual emergency in the air.
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40 minutes ago, City Mouse said:
If he has a will, or doesn’t have a will, his estate will have to go through probateI think this might depend on the state he lives in. Different states have different laws. In my state, with a $400,000 estate and a will, the estate didn't have to go through probate.
@Tap, it might be worth finding an attorney who is familiar with the laws in your states and can speak to your concerns specifically.
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Today I learned that if you hold a $2 bill, your face will melt.
It actually really frightens me how easily kids believe random stuff. I have a different 8yo student who watches TikTok and believes whatever they see.
This student was very serious about this being true, even when I told them I've held a $2 bill and my face didn't melt.
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Zombies. 11yo thread
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Our house will be in totality, but dd is getting married the prior Saturday in another state and we won't be back in time to see it. I'm kinda bummed about it because I was really excited to explain it/watch it with my class at school.
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5 hours ago, cintinative said:
ETA: i just saw you said she is in assisted living. Can you clarify--is she AL and also hospice? That's a new scenario for me.
I'm not the OP, but my MIL was on hospice in AL. The AL facility offered stepped up care, so as her needs increased, we used the higher levels of care. They allowed her to stay when she went on hospice. Eventually, we found a wonderful woman to stay with her overnight to help as needed. I was with her all day. We also looked into hiring a private nurse for a brief bit (in addition to the hospice nurse daily visits), but she passed before we found someone. I believe hospice also offered someone to come in to help with daily (or every other day) care.
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I tip my head (to the right I think.) My optometrist noticed me doing this during my appt. She said it's due to the prisms in my glasses.
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5 hours ago, Alte Veste Academy said:
I have one like Maize posted, but it’s Breville brand. Love it. My MIL has an air fryer and was marveling over the air fryer setting on our Smart Oven because we can put in two trays and food isn’t touching like in many kinds of air fryers, so the air circulates for things to get truly crispy on all sides.
This is what I have too. I love it! It's perfect for just 2 of us, so now I use the oven to store the cast iron pots.
I think it's a little loud, but it doesn't bother my dog at all.
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On 1/5/2024 at 8:07 PM, Melissa in Australia said:
Mine thinks when I am in a car going down the bumpy main road that I am running a marathon. It sends encouragement messages and adds thousand of steps 🤣😂🤣
I have a Garmin watch that thought I was running stairs during a flight take off. I got lots of stair runs that day! 😂😂
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We have a smart one and love it. Ours uses WiFi, though, which isn't what op is looking for. I use different codes for specific people and once needed to unlock the door from my phone because the person came at a different time than normal.
We use 6 digits for our code. I read somewhere that for our lock brand whatever digit code you set up between 4-8 is the longest code you can use. So if you set up the primary code with 4 digits, the other codes can't be longer than 4 digits without factory resetting the lock.
We've found the 8 AAA batteries last just about a year.
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7 hours ago, Forget-Me-Not said:
I get junk mail for a woman at my address. The weird thing is we built this house and the address literally didn’t exist before that.
We are the first owners of our house, too. Somehow, Enid "ourlastname" began receiving mail here. We have no idea how/what/who she is.
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30 minutes ago, Sneezyone said:
Even the 3-star DH works for doesn't regularly entertain with fine china. They have a staff and cooks and access to official service sets. Srsly. It's just not a thing anymore.
Overall, life is more casual and less fussy now and that's OK. I would not encourage them to make a registry and ask for things they can't use when they reach their destination. By the time they return, they may want and need different things.
Regardless of whether fluffernuts are ruffled, what they NEED is the flexibility to obtain items that may work with alternate power cords/plugs, and the financial resources to do the things that bring them joy during their down times. If you couch it that way to those who ask for suggestions, 8/10 people will have -0- issues because they want to support and aid the young couple and put them first, not enslave themselves to etiquette.
The bolded is what dd is trying to avoid. She would prefer items such as sheets for her mattress and towels.
I plan to answer questions about their registry the way you suggest in the second paragraph.
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51 minutes ago, KungFuPanda said:
I’d encourage your daughter not to stress about the timing of the household registry. People have until a year after the wedding to send a gift. A delay in posting a registry won’t matter. I’d have them do a cash registry where people can donate now for things like a honeymoon fund, the bike cases, the kennel, etc . . . a clear direction for cash donations. I’d also tell her to post somewhere that a household registry will be shared as soon as possible after receiving orders or a shipping address. People will understand and most people will probably choose the early/cash route. Those who don’t like that option can get in on the later registry.
The bolded is what I told her. She likes to have everything done on her timeline and some things can't be until she knows where she'll be going.
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17 minutes ago, elegantlion said:
the last wedding I attended had an online registry. The couple are both adults who combined households, they didn't need stuff. Their registry includes some household items but they had their honeymoon broken down into days and events. So your $50 paid for them to take the train or use toward a hotel. Knowing that this couple loves to travel, I would have rather spent money on that part of their life than more stuff or just a general cash fund. I'm not against cash and have done that, but I like the idea of knowing that they cash is going toward an experience.
After talking with her last night, this is what they're thinking to do. They will have honeymoon expenses and will need a dog kennel to fly their dog to them and hard sided cases to transport their bikes. Gifts could be sent to us, but they wouldn't see or open them for 3 years if they immediately move overseas.
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1 hour ago, Ginevra said:
My nephew and his wife were moving onto a sailing vessel for a long-term trip at sea. Their registry had only donation options, though you could pick like, “Contribute to the main sail” or “Contribute to food stores.” The wording was nice and said something like, “As we will be on a sailboat with 90 square feet of living space, we would most appreciate contributions towards our vessel for those inclined to give a gift.”
My dd also did not have a registry of stuff; she only had a donation button. It said something like, “When COVID is no longer an issue, we plan to take a trip to Italy. If you would like to contribute towards our dream honeymoon, this would be most appreciated.”
1 hour ago, Toocrazy!! said:The last few weddings I’ve been invited to had website registries with options to gift toward something- a couch, a mattress, a honeymoon, Airbnb cards, etc. I think people are much more understanding now that a lot of people getting married have a lot they need, or want less “stuff.” Most people want to give a gift of some sort and are happy to contribute.
Closer friends and family will probably ask, and you can lead them towards cash.These are what I was thinking she should do, though I like @bolt.'s idea of donating to a charity, too.
Thank you for all your thoughts and ideas.
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2 hours ago, Lecka said:
The added information sounds good!
I would think (?) she would have orders 2 months in advance? Probably? I understand nobody can say when orders will come or what the report date will be, but if it’s usually 2 months (or something) I would feel fine planning off of that, with an understanding it’s not 100%. And then just add that but assume you will have more information later.
She might have options with when she schedules transportation. Often the people in the transportation office are very kind and helpful.
Our AF experience tells us she should have advance notice. She's stuck on having something set up for the registry before invitations go out. However, everyone she's inviting either already knows the circumstances (friends) or has someone they can ask (family).
That's a good idea about transportation. Thank you.
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1 hour ago, scholastica said:
Often, the registry will allow gifts to be shipped directly somewhere. If they know for sure which items they can’t take, they can have them shipped to your address and you won’t have to drive them home from the wedding.
1 hour ago, BusyMom5 said:I have had family overseas and I would give the couple money to purchase household items in the country they land in. I think it's perfectly fine to say that's what is needed most- money towards household appliances they can use wherever they end up. They may even need kitchen cabinets- those are not standard everywhere;)
I'd items are purchased that can't be used, and include a gift receipt, return them. Don't feel guilty! I would not be storing stuff like that for years.
1 hour ago, KungFuPanda said:A lot of people don’t include registry information in mailed, paper invitations anyway. If they’re using a website, I’d find one that allows them to have a “coming soon” page or allows them to post that they don’t have and address for shipping NOW but will update in the future when they do. That way they can be set up for cash gifts right away and let people know they’ll update for physical gifts in the future if that’s a gifting preference.
They're using a website, so this would work well. I think she was thinking that if she's sending her invitations, she also needs to have her registry set. I think some of it is overthinking and panicking a bit about what needs to be done for the wedding while she training.
1 hour ago, footballmom said:I guess my answer to how to best communicate their situation and registry request / guidance would depend on how big the guest list is for the wedding.
They're expecting about 150 guests.
55 minutes ago, chiguirre said:Lecka brought up a lot of good points. My Navy dd is stationed OCONUS so we've dealt with some of this stuff.
The most important thing is that they try to get their paperwork in for colocation before they get their first duty stations assigned, otherwise they might end up on different continents. There's a lot of red tape to get colocated, so be prepared for a lot of running around to get things sorted out.
Sending things to an FPO costs the same as the US rate BUT it takes a long time. My dd's Christmas chocolate that I sent before Thanksgiving arrived for Easter last year. I could follow the tracking to see it go to Bahrain, back to Chicago, to Italy, back to Chicago before it finally got to dd in San Francisco. Amazon ships most items to an FPO, so that might be a way to go with their registry. I'd encourage people to give them cash or Amazon gift cards if they really don't want to do cash.
Good luck to the newlyweds. Dd has enjoyed her time OCONUS. I hope they do too.
We have lived OCONUS and had items shipped to our FPO. The Christmas gifts sent before Thanksgiving arrived mid summer. I hadn't considered sending items to the or having them shipped to her or us.
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1 hour ago, bolt. said:
Honestly, I love it when a couple who doesn't need gifts just says so, and doesn't offer to accept money as a substitute.
I think they should simply explain the situation and say something like, "As highly mobile members of the Navy, we have no need of any more belongings or household goods! Highly sentimental folks are welcome to send small objects of deep personal meaning directly to (DD's name)'s parent's address where they can be kept safe for us until we are in the United States again. But, really, everyone should simply come and enjoy the celebration. If you feel the need to honour the occasion with money, please select a charity to receive your generosity on our behalf."
I agree. I don't know if she's even considered that. I'll suggest it to her. I appreciate your wording.
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1 hour ago, Lecka said:
How much leave will they be allowed to take at the end of training? Would they want to request leave, and then be able to pack their items with their household goods?
Are their orders to this new location going to come to them as two singles? How do they know they are going to be assigned to the same location?
I think she should really ask at her training location. How long is it going to take to process the paperwork for them to be married. Are they just going to show up at the new duty station with a marriage certificate?
I think she will find out if she asks and people will be able to tell her.
My first choice would be for her to have her wedding items before she moves and get stuff into stuff she’s shipping or stuff she’s storing. It will make it easier when she finishes the overseas tour I think — I’m not sure, but I would think so.
If they are keeping private (?) long-term storage during the overseas tour, maybe they can add some items to that storage before they leave.
It might not be very expensive to just mail some boxes to an OCONUS address. It’s not expensive like it would normally be to ship overseas. That might work for a lot of smaller items. I think flat-rate USPS shipping boxes can be shipped OCONUS at the same rate as if within the US. I’m not sure but I think so.
People at her current location might be able to tell her how long that would be likely to take, too, if anyone has been stationed there before.
They don't know if they'll be able to take leave after training. If they do, they will likely move, then take leave for a honeymoon where ever they're stationed. However, it's equally possible that she won't receive leave and will immediately travel to her new duty station and begin working, possibly deploying immediately. Unfortunately, no one at her training is able to answer her questions at this point, in large part because any information given will be dependent on what drops for her class. No one knows that info yet.
Only dd is in the Navy. Paperwork getting him added before they leave won't be a problem.
Because the Navy is storing her long term items, I would be very surprised if she were able to add to it. It would simplify things if she could. I didn't consider shipping her gifts to her. That's a good idea. Thank you.
The problem right now is that she won't know where she's going until probably Feb., so she doesn't have anyone specific she can ask. Dh has some Navy contacts he's connecting her with.
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My oldest dd is getting married the beginning of April. She is in the Navy and will likely be moving overseas within a week of her wedding. Before she moved to her current training location, she and her fiancé sorted all their items into long term storage, short term storage to take overseas with them, and items they need at their current training location.
She is wondering how to handle their gift registry. Because they combined their households, they don't need many items. In addition, because they're hoping to move OCONUS, they would not be able to use or easily store items they are given. I suggested waiting until later this month when they should know where they'll be moving so she knows what they may need to store, but she's concerned about sending out invitations prior to having the registry figured out. (They're planning to send the invitations out the end of this month.) I also suggested asking for donations towards their honeymoon or towards purchasing items overseas once they arrive. The registry will allow guests to gift money towards a specific gift, so they could choose which items they would like to gift towards. She was concerned that some people would prefer to give them gifts that mean something personally to them, which is how she likes to give gifts.
If the items can't be stored while they're overseas, they'll likely come home with us to store. However, we won't have a lot of extra space to take things home with us. We live 13 hours away from where the wedding will be and have a small SUV we'll be driving with 4 adults, one of whom we'll be picking up en route from an international airport, so he may have more than normal luggage with him. There's also a small chance her 70 lb GSD will return with us until he's out of quarantine and can be shipped to them.
She is using a registry site, but we aren't sure how to word the registry so it doesn't sound like a money grab.
Any suggestions or thoughts?
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I found felted snowballs at the dollar store, so we had a snowball fight. We have a 2 story open floorplan with a loft area, so there were people upstairs throwing snowballs at people downstairs. It was lots of fun. It was also very short because the 2 dogs are ball fiends and didn't like being outside when we were throwing balls.
We've done something similar in the past with Nerf guns, but I was afraid one of the dogs would find a missed foam dart.
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2 hours ago, Heartstrings said:
Corporal punishment also happened at school and at my kids’ schools as well. I’m pretty sure it still does locally.
I teach in an EBD classroom. I have had a great grandparent guardian of a 9 yo boy tell me every time I saw him (weekly) that his great grandson needed a beating and I had his permission to give it. It's legal in my state. Each time GGP told me to spank him, I told him it's not something I would do. This child already struggles in school sue to unstable living conditions. He doesn't need a spanking. He needs someone who cares about him.
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We just renewed ours and it took about 3 weeks.
I realize you have all the things happening right now. I hope you're able to get Andrew's initial passport quickly today. We had a family member standing in line for the DMV while she was visiting because she couldn't get an appt during the time she was here. It's frustrating when a person isn't able to accomplish what they need in the time they have available.
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THIS is why I am a hoarder
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We bought High Sierra luggage and have been satisfied with it. It's not really expensive, but hold up well.
We looked there first because I took one of their shift side bags with me when I was an exchange student in high school 40 years ago and it's still my favorite suitcase to pack. (Though at this point, I wish it had wheels!)