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2 hours ago, Jean in Newcastle said:
Our shelter takes select shelter cats who had lived with dogs before (and thus weren’t terrified by them) and each new dog in for a highly supervised and leashed introduction as their assessment. A lot of dogs don’t pass but no cats are traumatized by the process.
Their cattery was a large room with lots of high places for the cats to go. There were a few cats in cages, but most of them were free roaming. There were a lot of kittens who were curious about the dogs. The dogs were held on a short leash until it was known how they reacted. The dog she really wanted had a very high prey drive. As soon as they saw that, the dog was taken out and a note was put in her file. The other dog they took in 3 times, once for dd to get see and twice for roommate to see, and while he was curious about them, he didn't try to chase the kittens approaching him. Dd and I were both impressed at what a great shelter it was.
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My dd was looking for a dog that had to be cat friendly because of roommate's cat. One shelter she visited would allow a staff member to take the dog in question into the cattery with the potential adoptor watching through the window. I thought that was such a great wat to see how the dog reacted.
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7 hours ago, madteaparty said:
This is the one I have. I don’t actually know what “airfrying” means but I thought it had something to do with airflow. So I guess what I’m asking is, does lining the mesh basket or placing it on a solid tray defeat the purpose of the airfrying? Does it matter if I can still make salmon in 9 min? Lol 🙂
My understanding is that air frying increases the airflow to be like super convection instead of regular convection. I haven't had any problems using the parchment paper in terms of speed of cooking, but clean up is significantly easier!
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@Calizzy, how did the last night go?
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I had the same problem, so I googled parchment paper. Google told me it would work, so I've been using it for the last couple of weeks. It works very well. Just make sure the parchment paper can handle the temps you're using.
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You could do as one of the houses we rented did: tape fabric to a rod. We never noticed in the 3 years we lived there that the "curtain" wasn't hung properly until ds drew on it with a sharpie and I was panicked trying to find an inexpensive replacement.
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Dh and I disagreed on whether we should force our teens to attend church. One felt very strongly that the Baptist Church we were attending was where we belonged. The other felt that the teens weren't getting anything out of the services (Sunday school for teens, followed by the church service itself) and wanted to find a better fit for the entire family instead of one person. What happened was one parent stopped attending, so the teens still at home also stopped attending, then the other parent stopped attending. To be fair, the 2 teens left at home frequently were unable to make the morning service due to work or band requirements, so it didn't feel at the time like they were giving up church due to disagreements, though they were good excuses to get out of it. One now adult would like to attend, but can't due to career requirements, one is considering returning because they're lonely in a different city and there was a common bond at church, and the third is an atheist. Two of them saw a lot of hypocrisy even before Covid which was then compounded by Covid.
I grew up in a household where my parents dropped me and my siblings off at Sunday school so they could work on their marriage. I don't remember my parents attending church during that time at all. It was a social hour, and didn't really include any religious training except prayer that I remember. I think that colored my expectation of church. Dh and I stepped away for many years, returning after out oldest was born and coincidentally enough leaving again when our kids were teens.
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Also, check to see if your area has enough appliance repair companies for the brand your looking for.
Everyone knows not to buy a Samsung, but when we needed repairs, there was one company in our city of 1.5 million people who were authorized to do Samsung repairs. It was a terrible company to work with if you were one of the lucky ones to get through and actually get an appt. Samsung won't sell parts to non authorized companies, so everyone was forced to go through them.
We bought a Bosch. Dh loves it. I'm not sure it's much better than our previous Samsung, though it is maintaining the temp. However, it's incredibly loud, very much the opposite of out Bosch dishwasher.
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Know the difference between counter depth and standard depth. We just replaced our 10yo Samsung with a Bosch. We thought we might want a counter depth, but even for only 2 people, it wasn't quite enough space for what we wanted.
We have a wall on one side and a counter on the other so we needed a door that didn't take up too much outside space when it was open. I'll
We ended up getting it at Lowes because I couldn't find a mom and pop appliance store that wasn't scratch and dent. We opened a credit account to purchase it because it gave a longer warranty and return window. While we were looking, we noticed many Whirlpool fridges had shelves missing. When a fridge was delivered, if a shelf was missing, the customer was told to get it from the display fridge at the store. We didn't want to deal with that hassle, so choose not to get a Whirlpool.
Home Depot has a reputation for being difficult to work with on warranty or replacement issues.
Different Lowes have different fridges on display, so call a store to see if they have what you want. We purchased it from our closest store, but saw it at a different place.
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1 hour ago, Ann.without.an.e said:
@Tree Frog I have a friend named Karen and she changed her name on social media and tells people to call her Ren because of the Karen remarks in general.
It's really too bad that mainstream names take on negative connotations. Dick is another name with a negative connotation.
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In our house, we make Chloe's Virus Killing Chicken Soup. I usually add more garlic with the veggies. I can never have enough garlic!
I hope your FIL recovers quickly! I might make some because we're on our second week of public school and a bunch of students are out already with Covid as are at least 3 teachers, all in my wing.
Cover with water or broth and cook until chicken falls apart. Strain out broth and chicken:
1 chicken
15-30 cloves of garlic, crushed
1 T salt
3-4 sprigs thyme
cayenne pepper, rosemary sprigs, and black pepper to taste
Cook in oil till onion is transparent. Add wine and simmer 3-4 min. Cover with broth from chicken, adding more broth as needed. Simmer veggies til tender.
1 lg onion
1 fennel bulb
1 thinly sliced leek
4-6 stalks of celery
1 large coarsely chopped red pepper
.5-1 lb coarsely chopped carrots
2 T ovile oil
.5 c shite wine, white grape juice, etc.
Add at some point
frozen green beans, parboiled
frozen peas
zucchini
flat leaf parsley, chopped
1-2 cans of chopped tomatoes with juice
any other veggies left in fridge
chicken
Can also add rice or noodles, but it's better to add these the second day since they absorb so much liquid.
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I've thought of a few things that rub me the wrong way. "OK, Boomer", as mentioned up thread, "Karen", "anyway", "whatever" are all very dismissive and pretty pompous. I don't hear "anyway" very often, but an adult member of my family says it when I've added something to the conversation and they want to go on speaking about whatever they want to talk about regardless of my contributions.
The person saying those things isn't open to hearing a different opinion or even considering that what the other person is saying has merit. It shuts down the conversation.
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10 minutes ago, maize said:
I think most teenagers would interpret "whatever" coming from a parent as a very rude dismissal of what they said.
It's not just teens who would interpret it as rude. I've been told this by another adult and find it very rude.
Heart, I'm sorry it's so difficult. The experience I have with divorce caused me not to speak to my mom for 5 years beginning when I was about 18. She continued to keep the door open and sent me birthday and Christmas cards and gifts. I don't think my mom probably ever expected to have a relationship with me, but 5 years later we began again. It's what allowed the relationship to eventually mostly heal. Despite the pain, think long range. I'm sorry you're in this position.
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12 minutes ago, Ann.without.an.e said:
you’d be so pretty if
I got some of this, too. Even as an adult, I've been told, "I wish you would lose some weight. Then you'd be _______" (whatever she felt was important at the time.)
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41 minutes ago, fairfarmhand said:
I try to encourage my dds who’ve worked in customer service to compliment older ladies on their “pretty” features, their eyes, their clothing, an interesting piece of jewelry, their smile, because sadly, it’s like older ladies become invisible. Do yo I think I’m steering my girls wrong? I figure any older lady might enjoy a compliment on her appearance. Maybe I’m wrong.
I think there's a difference between a feature or item they're wearing being beautiful and being told generically that they're beautiful or pretty. I think, too, as we age, cultural forces push women to maintain their youthful attractiveness. By acknowledging one area of beauty (physical beauty, mental/emotional beauty, item of clothing), you're allowing the woman to be dignified without the societal expectation of youthful beauty at all costs.
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2 hours ago, KungFuPanda said:
I was today years old when I learned that there is an entire region of people who react this viscerally to being called ma’am or sir. Even if you weren’t raised in a sir/ma’am culture you could certainly come out of the military using it as a catch-all term of formal respect.
I have a funny ma'am story. Dh was in the military and deployed to a stateside location on July 4th. I called to talk to him and spoke with one of his cadets while dh was backing into a parking spot. It took a bit before he was parked, so I tried to make small talk with a student I didn't know and every question I asked ended with "yes, ma'am" or 'no, ma'am". Eventually I spoke with dh.
My sister was visiting and we decided that night to take our kids and drive to watch fireworks. On the way home, the state troopers were doing sobriety checks. He asked me some questions as he shined his flashlight through the van. To one of his questions I answered "yes, ma'am." His immediate follow up question was "Have you been drinking?" The answer of course was no, but I made sure to use the appropriate sir when answering his follow up questions. He let us go. I think I had just had too many ma'am's earlier that day!
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1 hour ago, teachermom2834 said:
But you know what? My boys learned when to use the “ma’am”. This is where we live. Sometimes you have to assimilate.
My dd did this when we moved to Texas. Even though she has graduated and moved north, she still find herself using it. In her line of work, it's not offensive. So I'm thinking the differences are not only geographical, but also could be job sector related.
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1 hour ago, teachermom2834 said:
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However, I get it because I don’t like it when that is the compliment I get about my dd. I guess I don’t mind it so much from strangers but when people that really know her come out with that as their commentary I get irked. Like she is funny and interesting and smart and a good conversationalist and kind and helpful. Pretty? That’s what you’ve got when you are doing to describe her?
Or you are introducing me to someone and saying “oh you would love her daughter…she is so pretty.” What?!?!?
My dd is not that pretty. I always chalked it up to a small town southern thing and that it was the highest compliment bestowed on the females. But it does drive me crazy.
Do you think it sounds strange if I snap back “She is NOT pretty but she does have a great personality! And she is a good cook!” 😂😂😂
This is why my dd doesn't like it. You conveyed it better than I did.
As far as ma'am goes, when I lived in the Midwest, we had a southern military family join our church. The parents very frequently reminded their kids to refer to elders, married or not, as ma'am and sir. It felt very out of place and awkward in a state where ma'am or sir weren't used.
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10 hours ago, easypeasy said:
Something that happens frequently to me and is reallyreally petty, whiny, and weird that I hate it - but I hate when strangers tell me I'm pretty (or some other variation of that adjective). 🥴 I am told this freakishly often and I haaaaaate it.
It's mostly women, but also men. It's never in a crude, crass way - just in a "I just have to tell you... you are soooo pretty" way, which is such a weird thing to tell a stranger, right? But it keeps happening!! 😖
I just want to sink into the ground when this happens. If I'm with my family or a good friend when this happens, they share a look together because they all know I'm about to bolt and run for the hills so they try to block my exits. 😁
(I'm not anywhere near that pretty, btw. 😅 I'm pretty sure that my hair just catches people's attention as something really unusual, and instead of commenting on a ginger's hair, they just tell me I'm pretty and figure I will like it, lol)
One of my kids bought me a shirt that says "Tell Me I'm Pretty" as a joke. 🤪 They are now my least favorite child. 😊
A true first-world problem that I'm embarrassed is even a problem to me, but there it is, since there's a nice thread here for me to vent in about it. 🤷♀️
I'm sure this happens to most other women and I hope you all love the feeling and appreciate it in the way the compliment is intended, lol!!! I'll just sit over here with my socially awkward self, unable to accept a compliment without feeling 🤢.
This happens to my dd, too. She said it makes her feel like all she is is a pretty face, that all of her other qualities are diminished. She has so many other qualities but that's the one that's noticed and commented on. She's also been leered at frequently. She really hates that phrase.
ETA. Dd gets the "compliment" from men as a line to pick her up, usually said with a leer, a request for her phone number, or both. She was uncomfortable getting gas for awhile because that's where she was frequently approached. She's never said anything about a woman telling her she's pretty.
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My dd is able to read and respond to texts on her computer. She has an iPhone, but I had a pop up on my new android telling me I could do it, too.i declined because I share a phone.
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I've received calls for a cardiac patient! with test results from a hospital a couple of times and from an attorney handling a case. Each time, though, they left a message with the name of the person they were trying to reach, so I felt they were legit. I called them back, explained they had the wrong number, and asked that they remove my number from their clients accounts. I never had a problem again.
When we bought this house, we started getting calls and receiving mail for Enid (our last name). I have no idea who Enid is or how she's connected to our house. We're the first owners, so she isn't a previous owner. We assume anything with Enid's name on it is spam and ignore it. (I do wonder, though, who she is. She's now listed in databases as being a member of our family. Maybe she's the (invisible) black sheep of the family. 🤷)
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3 hours ago, Arcadia said:
My husband loves cacti. If I didn’t give him my 😠 look, my patio garden would be nothing but large pots of cacti and aloe vera plants.
My husband doesn't like the spiny cacti,. They have such lovely varieties, the flowers are so pretty, and they're so resilient when we don't get rain for months at a time with 100* temps that I can't help but have some.
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Just now, Laura Corin said:
There are lots of lovely American visitors. He's half American too.
I agree there are lots of lovely Americans. However, it's the rude ones that seem to be noticed because of their behavior.
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2 hours ago, Laura Corin said:
The customer seemed to be North American.
Does the Ugly American strike again? 😞
Looking for a recipe
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I think that's a recipe I would like to have when you find it! It sounds delicious!