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  1. I did! Lots of cream and sugar at first, and then dial it back over time. I didn't start drinking coffee until was around 30 (I think).
  2. DD has an armoire (just shelves and drawers; no hanging space), and DH and I share a 5-drawer chest (actually, mine from childhood, lol). The boys have bins in their closet that are n-e-v-e-r organized. Ever. I KonMari my and DH's clothes, so I don't mind drawers anymore. 🙂
  3. I guess that's why store employees tell me my kids are so good when I'm sternly trying to break up a wrestling match in the middle of an aisle?? Not only would we have bought the paint, but the kid(s) would be footing the bill. And I typically offer to clean up accidental messes we've made in stores, but so far we haven't been taken up on that one. I'm like, "If you'll just give me the mop..." 😋 I'm sure there's policy, protocol, and liability behind all of that.
  4. Nope. No receipt. No itemized deductions. Too much trouble. 🙂
  5. I'm with everyone else; get a hotel, go alone, camp...whatever it takes to nooooot stay in that house. That sounds like a total family meltdown waiting to happen.
  6. No I wouldn't pay. I told my kids they had to practice 3x/week for a set amount of time to earn the next week's lesson, they go 3 strikes within a 4 month period, and if they "struck out," they lost lessons for six months. This was ages 9-11. To me, it's extracurricular, and wasn't my idea to begin with, so they need to do their bit. One has stuck with it, one didn't, and that's ok.
  7. I guess so, lol. Large, slow, and presumably unintelligent. Yeah that's sort of how it is, and there are a few other people in my life that do something similar on pet subjects. Maybe I'm doing something wrong? Edited for a rogue comma.
  8. I would interpret that as opinion, too. And an interesting topic for exploratory discussion, actually. But if the other side(s) was/were responding the way you describe, I know I'd either feel cowed or frustrated depending on who the other person was.
  9. Well unless you have other options, I guess it's "jerk." 😞
  10. I'm sorry you have to deal with that, Farrar. 😞
  11. Yeah I've thought about that. I've lacked guts to just exit an encounter like that until very, very recently.
  12. Me: I love this song. Them: That sucks, listen to this. This is never about data and facts, but whatever for it takes, it's that sort of black/white phrasing. (Ok, rarely about facts.)
  13. It is a specific unnamed person. I've expressed how I hear the different phrasings and what I feel the differences between a conversation and a debate are, and during that exchange is when they said I should know their intent regardless of the words coming out of their mouth. ETA: I could definitely use skill-honing; I don't see that and my question as mutually exclusive. I'm more than happy to assume it's just me, but I've tried that and been left with the "something's not quite right" feeling, and it's tiring.
  14. Oh my gosh I'm so sorry about my dumb editing! lol
  15. Actually I would love a more generalized, "I know this is obvious and I don't want to talk (to you) about it" response that's still kind.
  16. I do donate to a local ecumenical outreach, because I feel like they have a more immediate impact on the local community at the direst of times. However, I'll send to Goodwill whatever isn't accepted at the first place, and think donating anywhere is awesome! It's not a hill I die on.
  17. The "convince me I'm wrong" jumped out at me. For the record, this is definitely over issues of opinion or belief. Anything from musical tastes to faith. And I guess my whole stance in general isn't ever one bent on convincing anyone of anything, but sharing me. "I love this song, I think this social issue has merit in XYZ way (centrist here), or here's what I find amazing about my faith tradition." And then enters in any flavor of positive statements. I've been at a loss how to continue the exchange without refuting them. And yes, I should know their intent regardless of the words coming out of their mouth. Person B said that not too long ago. That just doesn't compute for me, but I'm trying to sort out whether it's just a style mismatch or I'm expecting too much/too little, or any number of other mitigating factors. I could (should??) learn to sidestep it like katilac suggests. I'm not looking for crowd sourcing to beat them over the head with! I'm the sort that will read the book, then apply it on my end and hope it helps.
  18. Am I nuts to feel like positive statements invite debate? As in, I say, "Blah blah blah." And Person B says, "That's wrong," vs. "I think that's wrong." Am I being too picky? I mean, I realize this is a habit many of us might have. I've done it, quite a lot in the past, but have been trying to work on that and will adjust if I'm called out in the moment. But I talked with Person B about this recently and they don't see how "That's wrong" vs. "I think that's wrong" are any different in regard to the tone of a conversation. Am I expecting too much to want some adjustment there? Or do I just "translate" the intent in my mind and respond accordingly?
  19. Sleepy day, until I took a nap around 3:30. Then I was fine. 😄 Nah it was nice; I talked a good bit with SIL, which I really enjoyed and hopefully she did as well.
  20. This psychologist sees low self-esteem as its own struggle: http://getesteem.com/ Her book helped me a good bit, but my faith has helped me the most. I've been piecing myself (being pieced?) together over the last several years; I'm not sure whether it's "again" or "for the first time," honestly. Not comfortable, but worthwhile. 🙂
  21. Yep. <Insert boring info about the formation of the biblical canon here>.
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