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About Heathermomster

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    Happily married mom of two.
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  1. You know that my DS started working with the CBT at the end of 10th grade and worked with him for about 12 months. DS also met with the same CBT over the summer. I say this to agree that ages 16-18 are hard and ages 19-20 are not without their challenges. There has to be some way to make the situation a win-win. Like, he needs to understand that you will give him more freedoms if he exercises maturity and completes the tasks that you assign to him on time and without complaining. Your reward is a walked dog, some clean laundry, and clean dishes. You both are rewarded by a moderately clean home and a mutually respectful relationship. The fact is that you are his mother and are responsible for loving him, providing him a home with food, and raising him into a responsible adult. You didn’t choose to be chronically ill. You love him and require his help around the house. Just tell him straight up that you love him and that you are playing on the same team. You want to help him and you’d like to see him be successful. Give him a specific list with the chores. He needs to demonstrate that he is completing his school work and studying well enough to pass school. If he does as you ask, all the better. If not, there are consequences. Be careful not to nag, lose your temper, or make excuses for him. If he’s hungry, he can feed himself. I’m assuming that everything was spelled out nice and neat and that nothing prevented him from doing what needed to be done. If he knew he had to complete the chores to hang with his friends and he failed to complete the chores, he has no one to blame but himself. You are only guilty of loving him so much that you are willing to hold him accountable for his actions. If there is an obstacle that prevents him from completing the chores, he needs to tell you. Did he forget? Does he need electronic reminders? What can be done to improve motivation? Ask him how he wants to be reminded so you don’t nag and then build in the reminders as a team. In 11th and 12th grades, DS benefitted from heavy exercise. He emptied the dishwasher, rotated laundry, took out the trash, watched his sister, and cleaned/mowed the yard. I expected dirty laundry to go in a basket. We folded laundry as a family. DS now gets up on time, does his own laundry, studies, and feeds himself. He keeps his dorm room surprisingly clean. Things do get better. Just remind your boy that you love him and that you want what he wants. BTW, the reminders, set-backs, and successes are not a one off. You will be cycling back and forth for awhile, but the instances will decrease. As an aside, what prevents you from getting a dishwasher? Sister, I would be very unhappy without one of those.
  2. The cables on these knitting needles are soft and good for using the magic loop method when circular knitting. The needle tips are pointy too which is nice.
  3. DH pays for everything, cooks meals, takes care of the yard and cars, and whatever I ask. He has no clue how much he makes, or how much money I spend on curriculum. AFA homeschool, he has occasionally taught Bible, he takes the kids to sports or music, and completes projects with them. For example, the kids and he constructed and hung a bat house. Another time, DD designed a swing set, so he sat down with her and developed a parts list. They went to the store together to pick out wood, lag bolts, and swing parts, and then spent an afternoon building it. DD tightened every lag bolt that she could reach. He’s game to pretty much whatever we can think up.
  4. That is what I thought. How long are you going to have to wait for the counselor? Did they give you any indication? You are doing a great job.
  5. What is he diagnosed with? For some reason I thought his diagnosis had changed?
  6. He dropped a class and will take it during the interim semester. He has to take 27 hours and maintain a 3.25 gpa for scholarship. He’s well above the gpa min but keeping up 27 hours will be a challenge. The writing for the classes seems intimidating to me. I have no clue how he will do, but he’s loving the subjects so far. Off hand, he’s taking early US History, OT, Ancient Lit, and Art appreciation. The irony is that for the lit class, he read the big boy version of Gilgamesh. He loves the prof and has requested I make her a scarf.
  7. She has worked with OT/PT for 8 weeks. DD is low tone and abdominal surgery has had an affect. The ILLs are loaded with motor issues, so I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s got something clinical. She’s borderline whatever the case. I’m going to scream if her ped suggests squeezing theraputty one more time.
  8. I thought that finger tapping test (NEPSY maybe) was used to identify NVLD. I don’t know whether NVLD is or was ever recognized by the DSM. As I understand things, there are two types of SLDs for handwriting: the DCD SLD and the SLD of written expression. On the WISC IV IQ test, a subtest on the processing speed portion can help identify the SLD of written expression. It seems like a good NP should be able to parse the NP testing results ( looking at something like retrieval scores and writing fluency) to make an effective argument for the keyboarding accommodation, especially if you can demonstrate that all class work is typed. Testing that is less than 3 years old and taking outside classes with the keyboard accommodation would be a plus.
  9. DS is living the dream on campus. He’s taking 12 semester hours, serving on SGA, and acting as the IFC rep. In his spare time he’s playing flag football and softball. He loves all of his classes and is using a new SmartPen called a NEO N2 because his Mac laptop software is no longer supported by Livescribe, the makers of his Echo SmartPen. So far, the N2 seems to be working. Three of the four classes seem to involve a ton of essay and large papers. Reading assignments have increased, so he’s incorporating more audio books. DS worked over the summer and met with the CBT 3 times. DD started playing violin in a higher level orchestra. Her hand continues to hurt whenever she handwrites, so I’m allowing her to type some of her work. I guess we need to start saving for a NP evaluation. We ditched her HOE timeline on day 3 of school and replaced it with an iPad timeline app. We started Apples and Pears for spelling last year and are currently on level D. A&P Spelling is awesome and made a huge difference with DD. Otherwise, she reads very well. I noted something immediately different this year. DD is easier to teach than DS, but I don’t know whether that was due to DS, DD, or me. There are certain curriculums that simply don’t bother me anymore. It does help that DD will basically read any book I hand her. She knocked out the child version of the Epic of Gilgamesh where DS hated it. It occurred to me as well that after this year, I will have taught grades pre-k through grade 12, and that fact feels crazy.
  10. The book Overcoming Difficulty with Number by Ronit Bird lays out all of the multiplication pre-skills, and I used that info to teach DS his math facts.
  11. And I didn’t use Barton, but if the writing is holding you back, letter tiles might help instead. I’m curious to know how others managed that.
  12. None of the unis we looked at required the written essay scores for ACT/SAT, so we didn’t apply for the keyboard accommodation. College Board irritates me on multiple levels, and I know people on the board have had success with them. I still hate them. Anyhoo...We sought and received extended test taking accommodations with ACT. They were awesome and responded within two weeks. I’m not against penmanship practice, but there comes a time when you have to analyze your goals. I had to really push my son with typing. He was 11 yo and starting to be against it. That all changed afterwards, but it was hard at the time. He had dyslexic peers in 10th grade that hadn’t learned to type as they were so oppositional. Hormones maybe? Who can say, but DS wanted independence from me. I write all this to say, OP, you are doing a great job. Typing may be easier at aged 10-11 yo so don’t despair if she’s not ready in a years time.
  13. OP, your weekly schedule looks good. LOE sells a lined dry erase board that might help with spelling and sentence writing. Eta: The Target dollar bins may have lined dry erase boards for sale. My DS was diagnosed with the written expression SLD and learned to type by late 5th grade. Typing is difficult for him, and he's never moved beyond 30 wpm. By 7th grade, he typed all of his school work with the exception of math. We quit handwriting practice by about 8th grade. I was more concerned about content subject output and organization, and he required explicit writing instruct. DS worked with an OG and IEW certified writing instructor for two years. He worked with an OT for 4 weeks and a ped PT for about 5 weeks to address developmental motor issues and core/pincer strength, not letter formation. His dysgraphia diagnosis was re-confirmed one month prior to high school graduation. As a college sophomore, his accommodations include extra time, keyboard, and use of a SmartPen. We would have preferred a notetaker, but the school prefers the SmartPen. Anyways, the irony is that after no handwriting practice for over 4 years, his handwriting is now legible. ETA: Dealing with the underlying motor issue while sorting the spelling and learning how to organize/express his thoughts on paper helped him way more than handwriting practice.
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