We have an Epson XP-7100. It copies, prints, scans well. But man oh man, do I wish I had listened to the reviews that said it doesn’t hold enough paper! I told myself well we don’t really do that much printing, so no big deal. Ugh. I feel like I have to refill the paper every other time I want to print something. Our previous Epson was fine. Held lots of paper.

Have fun! 🚲

I have said almost these exact same words to him many times. It does hurt me. He’s such a wonderful guy otherwise. Maybe it is just a habit. Because he complains about his family too. Sigh. I think I have to change my response to his complaints.

I agree with whoever said West Wing!

OP. Timing to arrive after lunch, or leave before lunch, is part of what makes it seem hostile to me. I feel like dh is specifically trying to avoid having a meal with them. For no good reason.

They are my parents. For some reason my husband doesn’t like them. He recognizes they are GOOD people, did a swell job of raising me and my siblings, but they’re just not his style (think outgoing/talkative/effusive vs taciturn/stoic/no fuss). My feelings are: get over it. He wants to show that he is a good husband by visiting, which is fabulous, but then just visit and stop complaining about them. I’ll complain about them enough if he would just shut up and let me complain. Instead, I get all defensive of them, and then he gets mad that I defend them. They don’t deserve the sweeping dislike of their existence that he constantly voices, only some minor annoyances that I admit they have.

It depends. We’ve done both ways. No matter what we do, we always manage to fight with each other whenever we interact with my parents. 😔 My dh hated it when my parents brought their own food - he found it insulting since making food is something he delights in, and he would say is one of his love languages. So I can’t help but think: well, wouldn’t it be insulting to them to do the same? Maybe not. They are different than him. Much more low key. But I’m afraid his thoughts are: they insulted me, I don’t care if I insult these people. 30 years of marriage - you’d think we’d have this figured out.

I also should mention that this would be a visit with a day’s notice, tops. Like, call and say “we’re thinking of coming tomorrow. Are you free?” And expectations of lunch, if they made it, would likely be sandwiches, not cooking.

What would you do? Imagine you had elderly parents (88,89) and they lived about 2.5 hours away, they are fully functional, cognitively healthy, drive, cook, etc, and you and your husband decide it’s finally safe to visit since everyone is vaccinated. If you leave early in the morning, and would leave shortly after lunch, who provides lunch? The parents because it gives them an opportunity to be the hosts and show generosity? Or the guests to show respect for the elderly? Does it matter who initiates the visit? (Eg. if I call and say I want to visit, should I offer to being lunch? If parents call and suggest a visit, should they offer to serve lunch?)

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Kent State - James Michener Midnight in Chernobyl- Higginbotham Johnstown Flood - David McCullough Into the Wild - Krakauer

I just can’t decide how to vote for this one. My first thought was mostly lyrics. Because c’mon man, is there anything better than listening to beautiful love songs that expressed it better than ever, or heartbreaking lyrics that make you FEEL someone else's life story? But then I thought of all the songs that want to make me MOVE. Dance, clap, tap my fingers along the steering wheel. All without having the vaguest idea of what the lyrics are saying. But I’m not one to listen to music without lyrics...classical, baroque, jazz...not for me. So I guess I *mainly* go for the lyrics, but I enjoy both lyrics and music. Shrug. Ok, off to go listen to PaulSimon’s Obvious Child now... PS. I’m not on the spectrum. I wasn’t clear if you only wanted women on the spectrum to answer this

Very nice! Exciting.

Thanks. I’ve been looking for some good listening material for my plane flight in two days. I’ll take a listen.

Yes. I totally agree. Years ago I remember a visiting priest came to our parish and the take-away from his sermon was “buy less stuff” or “ buy one less thing”. I try. But I’m trying to do better at this.

Yes. Crest whitestrips. They work. I have had many many patients who have super white teeth and I ask if they whiten them and usually say they use crest whitestrips.

Look, I’m not gonna give any spoilers but I can’t guarantee no one else will. Someone at the NYTimes really seemed to like the movie First Cow. Now I don’t generally watch a lot of “western” movies. Actually we don’t watch many American movies. We watch more foreign movies than anything. Dh hates flash/bang/in-your-face/shock-and-awe American movies. He prefers the subtlety of foreign movies. Mostly I do too but I like to know whats out there in the mainstream too. And sometimes we like to watch Oscar contenders. And I had heard First Cow was slower paced. Bboooooooring!!! Oh. My. Goodness! So boring! And, on top of all the boringness, it had NOTHING insightful to say about anything. What?!?! Oscar contender?! You’ve got to be kidding! These two guys do what? Ok, stupid, but ok. What, they do it again and again? Really stupid. Oh. Movie over. Nothing. I got nothing out of this movie. No entertainment. No insight. Blah. Boring. Ugh. I want my money back.

Look, I’m not gonna give any spoilers but I can’t guarantee no one else will. Someone at the NYTimes really seemed to like the movie First Cow. Now I don’t generally watch a lot of “western” movies. Actually we don’t watch many American movies. We watch more foreign movies than anything. Dh hates flash/bang/in-your-face/shock-and-awe American movies. He prefers the subtlety of foreign movies. Mostly I do too but I like to know whats out there in the mainstream too. And sometimes we like to watch Oscar contenders. And I had heard First Cow was slower paced. Bboooooooring!!! Oh. My. Goodness! So boring! And, on top of all the boringness, it had NOTHING insightful to say about anything. What?!?! Oscar contender?! You’ve got to be kidding! These two guys do what? Ok, stupid, but ok. What, they do it again and again? Really stupid. Oh. Movie over. Nothing. I got nothing out of this movie. No entertainment. No insight. Blah. Boring. Ugh. I want my money back.

OP here. We live in suburbs of medium sized city. Oldish suburb (recently had centennial). This used to be “living out in the country”. But within the past 30 years or so new housing has increased. The old timers liked the peace and quiet they used to have and never seeing neighbors. “And now you want to make sidewalks so everybody will be traipsing by in front of my house?!!” So people who do walk, like on Memorial Day to the parade in town where it makes more sense to walk to it, or on game day in the fall where the high school stadium has limited parking, or in the summer when kids are out of school but want to hang with friends but they’re not old enough for cars, those people walk on a road with no sidewalk. Some day, someone will be killed. Maybe then the old-timers will allow sidewalks. But I doubt it.

Oh how I wish we had better public transportation here (and everywhere!). I moved to this small/medium sized city over 40 years ago after growing up in Philadelphia. I thought it was a joke that buses only ran every hour!! And that was 40 years ago. Just last week they announced they’ll probably be stopping Saturday service. 😧 And now we live in the suburbs of this medium sized city and we’ve seen township meetings where people were fighting for sidewalks but more people fighting back and refusing to allow sidewalks. 😭 Maybe some day dh and I will move back to a real city. We toy around with the idea. But more likely to move to the college town where my oldest lives - it’s bikeable and walkable. In the meantime, maybe I’ll try the twice a month Amazon ordering. (Or challenge each other to see how long we can go between orders!)

Ok, I admit it. I have gotten way too comfortable ordering things from Amazon, especially since the pandemic but honestly, even before then. But I have guilt. Every time I’m on the highway, and I complain about the number of trucks on the road, I know that I contribute to it. So in my teeny-tiny-miniscule way, I thought maybe instead of buying things whenever I thought of it, dh and I should choose the Amazon Day option, figuring if they only come to my house once a week, that’s better than 3 or 4 times a week (😞). But now I’m wondering if that option is really meant for people who want to be home when their packages are delivered. Is there a better way to have fewer deliveries? I’m toying around with the idea of dh and I just putting what we want in the shopping cart but not actually buying until, say the 15th and 30th of month (or until there is a NEED, not just a want). Any suggestions? PS. We’re not shopaholics and generally these are not large purchases. Hobby stuff like thread for me. New socks for dh. Stuff like that. Trying to avoid stores as much as possible these days.

This. I just came to post this very thing. I believe a lot of houses are designed this way.

I love the look of upholstered headboards in pictures. But yuck. Over the years, how do you clean that? Even with no pets here, hair oil, fingerprints, etc. What about vomiting? I think I’m past the days of kids coming into my bed sick, but I don’t know about you. So, I understand how beautiful they are, but the practicality is a nonstarter imho.

I got my second Moderna shot on Monday morning (3 days ago). Day of injection - no biggie - just sore injection site. Day after injection - no biggie (maybe some fatigue) until about 4 PM when I started to get mild chills (Is it cold in here, or am I starting to get a fever? Pretty mild.) Took my temp - 100.6. Took some aspirin. An hour later felt fine except for fatigue. Good nights sleep, woke up on feeling perfectly normal. So, all in all, not too bad. Just bad enough to know my immune system is working. 😉

Dental hygiene? Generally 2 years full-time. Most schools encourage the use of loupes so depending on how low liw-vision, it might be possible.