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Renee in NC

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  1. Yes...and for this reason I will be reading this book.
  2. I like her, too. I believe there are plenty of things that we can learn from other cultural groups.
  3. My son sent a text meant for his girlfriend to me. I messaged back, "We're close and all, but this ain't WV!" He said I made his night LOL
  4. I don't think so. My brother and his wife are ultra-conservative (dresses, coverings, lots of kids...like what you described) but not anything like patriarchy.
  5. Does it really matter in the grand scheme of things? It seems like they did a lot of other things, too. If your daughter didn't like it, then she can choose not to invite them again.
  6. I got my Masters in Accounting, graduated in May 2012, and started my current job a month later.
  7. As someone who works closely with CPS/DSS and foster children as a volunteer - poverty is never neglect. Regardless of how anyone feels about the parents and their choices, it isn't the fault of the children. Our school PTA works to collect food that is sent home with children for the weekends.
  8. I agree. My 15yo has other things to keep him occupied, too. He spends almost no time playing video games, on FB, or texting anymore. Most of his non-work time is spent on the 65 Mustang he is restoring.
  9. My 15yo works for my Dad and others sporadically doing construction/grading type work. He makes $10 an hour doing this. In addition, he does mechanic work sporadically, which pays significantly more. He has no interest in a minimum wage PT job because he can make a lot more doing the other things he does. He doesn't have a drivers' license, so when he does construction work someone picks him up. For mechanic work he has a shop 3.5 miles down the road. He generally pays friends to give him rides, but he could walk if necessary.
  10. I said this earlier in the thread, but this is no longer allowed in NC. The NC State Supreme Court ruled it unconstitutional. However, read this: http://nccriminallaw.sog.unc.edu/?p=276 The US Supreme Court allows it.
  11. “Each person has the right to resist an unlawful arrest. In such a case, the person attempting the arrest stands in the position of a wrongdoer and may be resisted by the use of force, as in self- defense.†(State v. Mobley, 240 N.C. 476, 83 S.E. 2d 100). http://www.constitution.org/uslaw/defunlaw.htm The original case Mobley case was in 1954, so I can't find the actual opinion online. I did find a recent case where it was cited and that is did NOT apply (and it explains why.) Maybe someone with access to case law can post the opinion?
  12. Yes, but they still always try to get consent. If they don't, they have to be able to articulate WHY they think they have probable cause. The driver refusing a search is not probable cause. Driving without headlights in not probable cause. A cop can't just say, "Probable cause" and it makes the evidence admissable. ETA: I see I didn't give the total answer he gave when I fist responded. I went back and looked at the email, and he did talk about probable cause. Sorry.
  13. I think that is obvious. He is answering the question as it was asked. In this scenario, as it was written here, he says the cop was wrong. It is, of course, only his opinion. He'll tell you he isn't a lawyer, and he doesn't give legal advice. I think we all realize that we are only getting one side of the story.
  14. DISCLAIMER: This is not legal advice, just someone's opinion about the facts as given here. Asked a cop friend, and he said: Cannot search vehicle in NC without consent or warrant, even if "incident to arrest." Says that used to be true, but the NC Supreme Court ruled it unconstitutional. Said the cop could easily have just run the VIN to see if it matched registration and insurance info through DMV. Said cop created an arrest by being pushy. I consider him a good cop. He says that almost all situations can be resolved through talking, without the need for an arrest or force. He thinks there are a lot of cops who really shouldn't be cops. He said he would NOT have handled it this way. ETA: He said you can always ask the cop to call his supervisor. He also said that in NC you have the right to resist if you know in fact that you are innocent of the crime you are being accused of. He said that generally getting tazed is not worth it. In the end, though, you COULD sue the agency, the cop, and his supervisor. But he is pretty adamant that the cop in question was wrong.
  15. I don't do crafts - EVER. That just doesn't fit who I am. I have two hobbies - obstacle course mud racing and Vietnam reenacting. Very non-crafty.
  16. Haha...my coworkers joke that I come to work to catch a break. It is definitely quieter, and less demanding. I am an accountant working on corporate finance. It is not work, and it requires little to no effort. That isn't a good thing, trust me! (As soon as the state gives me my license number, I'll be looking for another job.) BUT, my life would be easier if I were a SAHM again, especially now that they are all in school. I would take them to school, go to the gym, do some volunteer work, clean my house, grocery shop, etc. When I was a homeschooling mother to 7 with 5 of those being 7 and under? That was HARD!
  17. I ended up helping someone locally with her car. My 15yo bought the parts to fix it, but she also needed tires, and he didn't have enough for that. Since I helped locally, I won't be able to help a board member this year.
  18. This morning ours was fishing for gold fish in the kitchen sink!
  19. That is what I plan to do once I have a better job. I want someone 10-15 hours a week or so. It will cost me roughly $120-210 a week or more, plus taxes. (Most ads I have seen are looking for $12-14 an hour.) I have to find summer help, too, for more hours (my 12yo will be 13, but that is a lot to ask of him.) I kee telling myself that it will all work out.
  20. Just to be clear - there has never been any physical DV (lots of control and inymidation though.) However, the mental illness has put me in danger in the past, and since he is de-stabilizing a bit, the fear is that big changes will put me in danger again. I don't want to say anymore than that on a public forum. I need a better job, and I plan to have one before the school year is out. First on the agenda is the nanny and/or housekeeper. Even someone 10 hours a week would make a HUGE difference!
  21. Oh I do now. We eat TONS of things that he didn't like and wouldn't eat. Casseroles, crock pot meals, and soups are the biggies. Rice is another. Meal planning a 1/2 month in advance is important because that is how I get paid, and I do one big shopping trip twice a month. No matter how well I plan, though, I still have to cook it!
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