I have 4 children, 3 are adopted, 2 adopted as "older" children. So I do know some of the complicated struggles of the heart. However I do not think, barring special circumstances, that an adopted child should be handled differently in most situations. Challenging? Yes! But so are many, many different children for as many reasons as they are varied in their phenotype/genetic makeup.
I agree that you should err on the side of love and find ways (even create ways?) to give positive, individualized attention in a non-conflict situation. The more love and affirmation she finds outside of school will naturally grow in her an increased desire to do well and to please others. She may be the very child that grows into your dearest friend as an adult. These times WILL pass - so it helps to focus on your long term goals for her as a mature little person. It will all be worth it then. :001_smile: Saying a prayer for you today!