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  1. I’m wondering about religious rules specific to Yael’s religious community. my understanding is that in some situations conversion out of faith or other actions may require family to consider the child to have died, or forms of “shunning” required, or no longer allowed into family fold I may be incorrect that this is ever true, and even if it is, it may not be true for the situation in this thread but trying to understand it from outside, Ds behavior may be less extreme if renunciation of faith carried a shunning type of response as part of the community expectations
  2. Above makes me wonder: can this Ds leave the religion and still be part of the family?
  3. Yes. CPS type approach could be an excellent fit! Even if there were an organic brain problem CPS might make everything easier to deal with. especially if a foundation for the problems was the Ds not wanting to follow parental religion.
  4. So, say, like Christians from the country of India? Lots of arranged marriages in India, but not a religious requirement?
  5. Also, has he already been betrothed to someone else?
  6. If you’d gotten him a 12” sandwich do you think he would have eaten that? I stepped back a lot from what, where, and when I thought my Ds “should” eat to accept what, where, when he will eat. Currently In practice this seems to mean a lot of pizza and Blt sandwiches and tacos and quesadillas eaten out of hand, standing up, or while watching a movie. Plates and tables seem to cause loss of appetite. Also i too find handing a piece of likely tolerable food to dc works better than asking “are you hungry”
  7. If you’d gotten him a 12” sandwich do you think he would have eaten that? I stepped back a lot from what, where, and when I thought my Ds “should” eat to accept what, where, when he will eat. Currently In practice this seems to mean a lot of pizza and Blt sandwiches and tacos and quesadillas eaten out of hand, standing up, or while watching a movie. Plates and tables seem to cause loss of appetite.
  8. It depends hugely on the cultures and people involved. With range of reaction ultimately possible from happy acceptance to murder.
  9. I was asking not from a polite ceremonial reason, but because I cannot get right tea taste (or feeling or something ? Maybe air in the water?) in USA.
  10. Probably a dumb question, but does the teapot have to be a separate ceramic teapot (my recollection of England was separate pottery teapots and this seems to fit with your instructions)— can’t put the tea into the same stainless steel kettle where the water is boiled?
  11. Has thisctrip already happened? I’m wondering in part with regard to the teen boy troubles thread
  12. That’s true. It is possible that he doesn’t have a mental health history that would make military service a problem. It is possible That “several therapists” and now the current school authorities have correctly concluded that there isn’t as much of a problem as this thread makes it sound like. It’s also possible that there’s a very serious problem. True. And telling the truth to military recruiters is important because lying in the recruitment process is a serious problem itself. However, it is not necessarily the case that what he has done, even if fully and honestly disclosed to recruiters, will disqualify him. We have a tiny picture of this youth based on our own images as evoked by OP and other posts. And probably also shaped to some degree by recent school shootings and other images that are called up as we read the OP. It is also not clear to me that it would turn out that he has a genuine interest in joining military versus is saying that: perhaps saying he wants to do whatever is likely to disturb and get a rise out of his mom. So, She wants him to be religious and a scholar—he wants, or says he wants, to do pretty much the opposite. And military or trade or whatever may be genuinely what he wants . Or it may be that he needs to differentiate himself from the family goals for him.
  13. Sundown is probably shortly after 8 pm Eastern time at this time of year. Maybe 9 PM or a little later to check in on here, I’d guess, if they have a close of Sabbath service.
  14. Again, I agree that number one thing he needs is competent in person assessment of his mental and brain health. He’s one month away from being able to walk into a military recruitment office and sign up without parents. He has already expressed that military is something he Is interested in. If I understood correctly.
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