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  1. I think it is good to part of the tide of change and to have been on the side of progress. We can look back to the past and see that there were people who were against things like civil rights and who fought against interracial marriage and people who stood up against it in both big ways and small. There were people who wanted to keep slavery and people against it. There were people who fought against child labor and people who wanted to keep the status quo. By being for marriage equality it did help the tides change over time. It would be cool if future generations of decedents know that their ancestors were but even if they do not they will be living with the effects of it. Grass right movements work sometimes and can change history for the better. When I am old in my rocking chair on the porch I want to look back on the past and know I was for the side of progress. My grandkids may or may not know but they hopefully will be reading books on the past discussing this topic one day.
  2. Thanks for sharing! My dd does not have ASD but she does struggle with comprehension but has no issues with decoding and spelling. I am trying to work through VV with her on my own. I do not think I am very good with working with the material but this inspires me to keep it up and muddle through. I would have loved the opportunity to get free sessions but we live nowhere near a center. Even if we lived near a center the cost is not something we come lose to being able to afford.
  3. I never had a weird guess. When I first moved in my early 20s people asked if I was from NY which was pretty close. Nobody guesses where I am from anymore. I lost my accent and live in an area without a strong accent. I still use the terms and pronounce a handful of words in a way that is unique to the area I grew up in and those online quizzes peg me but in every day conversation I do not have a strong accent anymore. I hear the accent as soon as we are visiting where we came from and it is interesting to think I used to have that accent. There are still traces I am sure but it is not obvious.
  4. I am so sorry for your loss. It really sucks he us gone. :(
  5. There are heterosexual individuals who raise a child with one parent both by choice and because of circumstances beyond their control. Children raised by homosexual couples are found to be well adjusted individuals. There is actually less child abuse with lesbian couples.
  6. There are plenty of heterosexual couples who have children in ways other then sexual intercourse nowadays or families who do not follow rigid gender roles from history. I know families where fathers stay home with children and mothers work out of the home. Most people limit their family sizes now. There are lots of families built through adoption or fertility treatments. Same sex couples do have families even if they are not created from intercourse from the couple themselves. Having two mothers or fathers is not harmful in itself.
  7. I am actually directing that to people who want it to be called a civil union rather then a marriage not the other way around. I have no problem with it being called a marriage and was wondering how changing the term to civil union really makes a difference. I do not think we should change it to a civil union. I edited a little to clarify.
  8. I do not get why it is important whether it is called a marriage or a civil union. It means the same thing legally. Who cares that the term marriage is used. Churches do not own the term marriage. A church should not be forced to perform marriages but calling it a civil instead of a marriage does not really make a difference. It is just semantics. No one owns the term marriage and people don't say I just got civil unioned. Society changes over time. Homosexuality has always been around. If two people are in love with each other allowing them to marry does not hurt other people. It has been allowed in other countries and those societies have not falling into disrepair. Our neighbors to the north in Canada have allowed it for a decade now. People are not looking for special rights they just want the protections marriage provides for the partners they love. Two females or two males marrying does not harm anyone else. They lived together and were in relationships before. You cannot shelter people from reality if you really want to teach your beliefs. I am not religious but if you are and are against the act of homosexuality then you are free to teach it is bad and against what God wants but not everyone follows the same belief. A lot of things are against church teachings but being hateful and showing intolerance towards people who believe differently does not make the world a better place. How is it harmful and degenerate for people who love each other and who are in committed long term relationships already be able to marry? Their family life is no different because it is two females or males rather then a male and female. Many of these couples already have children and live together. They want their spouses to make decisions if they get sick, have the right to their children and to be able it protect each other if one spouse passes away. How does allowing those protections for relationships that already exist harm society?
  9. Yeah!! We are on the right side of history with this! I was not expecting this so soon!
  10. One of mine does not mind it being on the face but the hands or anywhere else on the body they cannot stand having anything dirty or sticky, one is pretty neat and one is a complete mess all over and does not care.
  11. He has had on OT from the school look at him when he was 5. They noted issues like not wanting to color or draw, he could not write letters back then, he had an immature fist grip and did not use his arm for stabilization. They could not get him help because he had no labels or other delays beside articulation which improved. In my area OT is not a stand alone service. He improved a lot with me doing lots of pre writing stuff the school year before kindergarten and he finally was able to form letters the summer before kindergarten. He has a better grip but he still struggles with speed and sloppiness. Dd might get OT next year because she has an overall motor delay that affects self help skills but she will only get a limited amount. Ds had a vision exam last year with a COVD. They did not find any vision issues but they showed me some things to do with him and said he does have retained primary reflexes. I have not done much about that.
  12. The place only ran reading tests not IQ. I will be begging the school to run an IQ in the fall. He has his IEP meeting then. He seems to be 2E. He is extremely passionate and intense. He loves history and science and can understand documentaries not made for kids. He understands and likes books like Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings, Mrs. Frisby and the Rata of Nimh, The Mostly True Adventures of Homer Figg etc. The science and history books he likes are at that level too. He can narrate long chapters and remember tons of detail in order. He built an engine out of k-nex and it did not look amazing but when he described how it worked he understood how engines work and what the parts are and how they work together. His teacher said he was brilliant but that he was up here but his skills are down here. His writing is an even bigger struggle then reading. His is slow and sloppy and still does not have a dominant hand. I am paying for tutoring. It is partially covered by insurance but because it is done by a speech therapist and that tutoring cost a lot more then a regular tutor it still is expensive. I will have them do level 1 and 2 though because since he is going through that fast and there are less lessons it will cost about what buying it will cost. I still haven't decided whether to continue with Barton or not for him.
  13. The child I am talking about will be 5 in the fall. I know what it can be but at this point there is nothing I can do but work with her. My insurance has a high deductible and then a copay once that is reached. Each indiviudual has their own deductible. I have gotten some testing done and tutoring started for my boy who is 2 year older then her. The place said he had dyslexia but it was very subjective. His scores on the CTOPP were fine but he had a few quirks and he struggles with reading and especially writing. His phonemic awareness is not bad. I cannot do anything for my youngest dd right now because I had to pay for stuff for him. I have thought of LIPs in the future for her. She has no speech delay though just trouble with learning letters and sounds and rhyming. She does have some down but it has been a lot of work. I have posted about my ds in LC before but I am just starting with younger dd.
  14. Lack of rhyming could be an indicator that the child will struggle with other phonemic awareness activities. My youngest cannot rhyme yet and is having trouble learning all the letters and numbers. It is something I am keeping am eye on because it could mean she will struggle with reading. My ds learned to rhyme early and how to do simple blending early too but it has not lead to early reading and he in fact is struggling with learning to read. It is good to hear different anecdotal stories where the lack of rhyming was an indication of a problem and stories where it was not indication of an issue. I know it can be a sign of an issue but it is good to hear that if she does not get it down we can still move on to other reading skills.
  15. I would love to have more children and really wish I could have more but it will not happen for a variety of reasons. I still do wish I could have more but it gets easier to accept with time.
  16. I was wondering this too. I do not know if ds will need something like Barton or not or if something else will work and what that something else is. He is struggling to learn to read but has good phonemic awareness.
  17. I was a vegetarian for years. When I started out I was like that but over time I got rid of the fake meat and found a way to eat vegetables especially as the kids came. I was not a healthy vegetarian at first but that is not why I became a vegetarian. I did not eat vegetables before becoming a vegetarian though. I still like to do the sneaky stuff like making smoothies and throwing in some spinach, kale, carrot or swiss chard. Or I often shred vegetables or blend them and add them to stuff.
  18. Just send them outside and you won't feel as invaded. Playing outside is good for kids. I also do not feed them and if we need to go somewhere we just go.
  19. Oh yea definitely have them play outside. That is much less invading. The kids do not come in my house. They all play outside.
  20. Having neighbor kids is mostly positive but there are definitely times when I feel like I am taking on extra kids and I do not like that at all as someone who is as introverted as you can be and who never gets a break from kids. It is not too bad now because there are a few families I trust my kids to play at their houses that I can see and hear from my house and the neighborhood kids go to more houses now so it balanced out the one extended family in the neighborhood where the parents are not involved and has kids with annoying habits. Can you get know the families to see if you can trust your child to play there so it can balance put a little? If the kids are at your house and they start causing issues or needing discipline send them home. The older neighbor kids in the 10 year old range usually are fine.
  21. A friend of mine had to have supervised visits with her kids for a short time.They questioned her kids without parents present and used leading questions to really young children. The kids claimed things happen that never occurred. I do see your point ibnib. It is hard in these situations because if you ask questions a certain way kids can describe things that did not really happen.
  22. I am on a local pay it forward group where people cannot ask for money. So many people cannot pay bills and call all the numbers available locally for help but nothing is available. There are people who have no rides to the food banks or cannot get there on the limited hours. Your income has to be really low to get full food stamp benefits and if it is that low there is now way to afford housing. The housing programs all have huge lists and the rents are lower but still quite a bit if you are really poor.
  23. I met some agenda 21 conspiracy people before. A plan for sustainability that is similar in lots of places is this big conspiracy to turn everyone into a bunch of godless, gay, liberal Muslims and tell them how to live. I guess the plan now includes kidnapping children of parents who are not cogs in the machine now. I am sure the book by the Glen Beck follower is totes reasonable and it will happen just like that. It has nothing to do with the fact we live on a planet with limited resources and if we make good use of those resources they are there for people in all countries and future generations. It has nothing at all to do with dwindling resources and real environmental concerns. This plan has nothing to do with coming up with a plan for sustainability for the future. Nope it is just a plot to take over the world and control people.
  24. I plan on teaching to wait until they can completely trust the person and they had plenty of time to know them because the hormones and emotions can cause them to not make good decisions about relationships after they have had sex. It takes a while for red flags to be evident in a relationship and if you have sex early in a relationship judgement can be clouded. I hope they are comfortable with who they are and able to completely trust the person and to be able to handle the potential child even if they are taking precautions. I plan on being strict about things like coed sleepovers, parties and so on.
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