My BIl is career military, and they do qualify for EFMP due to one of their son’s diagnosis. However they’ve chosen not to utilize it because they feel it can affect my BIL’s career. So they just live apart some years.

Yes. My oldest no longer qualifies for a diagnosis of autism, but they’ve changed it to generalized anxiety disorder and mood dysregulation disorder. He needs Mom home every single night and not worrying about me and where I am and what I’m doing. My husband is taking a new job as well, but he will be doing flight EMS with a better schedule too. DS gets his anxiety from me. Change is hard.

Back in social work. Which is what I did a long time ago. And I’m freaking out because I hate change. Tell me it’s all good. (It’s much better for my family)

I’d skip this year. The flu is a particularly nasty strain and while the vaccination will help, it’s not as effective as years gone by. What I really wish is that places would enforce their sick child policy. If you’re sick, even mildly, you go home. A mild cold for you is likely to turn into something that will hospitalize my toddler for a week.

Check the taxes. My grandmother(in upstate NY) pay the per gallon charge, then taxes per gallon, then a fuel delivery fee(that’s a flat fee).The taxes on fuel in New York are ridiculous. http://resources.heatingoilexpress.com/heating-oil-prices/residential-tax-rates-for-heating-oil-fuel-oil-coal-and-wood-in-new-york/

Mine this year was going to be $22 a week and covered basically nothing. It’s probably better for me just to put the money in savings and use it for dental bills. My health insurance is supposed to cover pediatric dental visits, but they always find some reason to reject the claims.

I see this as well. My parents spent most of my childhood and early teen years as poverty level/lower middle class. When I was in college, my dad started a company that catered to the gas and oil industry and it was right time right place. They are now, income wise, upper middle class at the lowest. I am seventeen years older than my youngest sibling, and the differences between the oldest three and the youngest three in my family are vast. It is really interesting to me, sociologically, the effect of growing up poor vs growing up wealthy has had on full siblings. My youngest sisters can not fathom a world where they can’t just go into the kitchen and eat everything in sight, order a pizza whenever they want, or go to the movies just because they want to.

I don’t have much to offer—but I have a child who is also extremely hard to parent with mental health issues. My husband had great role modeling in parenting growing up, and he still does the same thing(shame, over punish). It sounds like bio dad does truly want to be a part of her life, and I think family counseling for them would be good. Are there any parent to parent or peer parent groups that might have someone with difficult parenting experience who can come along side him and help a bit?

Always. Last call I had before going on light duty was one of those. Altered mental status on the dementia unit of the local cr$ppy nursing home(not all of them here are bad. This one is.) Me: How long as he been acting differently? Staff: I don’t know. Me: What’s his baseline behavior? Staff: I don’t know. Me: Ok, so what is he doing that makes you think he’s acting more confused than normal? Staff: I didn’t call you, so I don’t know. Ten years of EMS; 6 of them in an urban, high call volume setting, and I can count the bad, horrendous calls that stand out on my two hands. The every day, never ending exchanges like the one above? That’s why they’ll never make a realistic TV show about us. We’re just boring material. (PS I am certainly not bashing skilled nursing facilities. My grandfather just entered rehab at one and they are fantastic with him. But trust me, there were three places I went toe to toe with the hospital social worker over NOT sending him there.)

I start tomorrow. I really have 40 pounds to lose and I need to get on it. I gained it nine years ago while on steroids for a really bad asthma flare up(turned out to be mold in the apartment we’d moved into). Even through fertility treatments and three kids, I seem to easily come back to this set point of 40 pounds heavier than I should be. I think my body thinks it’s normal and I need to change that.

I tend to like emergency service shows, but I don’t expect them to have any basis in reality. I majored in creative writing and I get it—to hook viewers it has to be sensational. If someone actually made a realistic show about EMS, people would turn it off after thirty minutes of watching Grandma in the nursing home being taken to the hospital at 4 am for a fever she’s had for 72 hours and running lights and sirens for “chest pain†that turns out to be “back pain since a car accident 12 years ago and I’m out of pain meds.†Nobody would watch it.

I saw the first one. It is a dramedy(NOT anything like the William Shatner series that i loved as a kid and undoubtably affected my career choices) that has very little basis in real life emergency services. I enjoyed it for entertainment’s sake, but it’s so far from reality that most of my firefighter/EMS/police officer friends thought it was ridiculous and refused to watch it after the pilot episode. That’s too bad, because the emergency services community in many Facebook groups I’m a part of thought it would be good, based on the previews. Nobody in real life is driving a fire truck around town lights and sirens to find their Tinder date.

I don’t check my email because no one ever emails me other than junk. Even my kids public school teachers and counselors Facebook message me.

It is the same here. For those of us who don’t want to do CC, there is absolutely nothing else. I was homeschooled and had not expected this—I still thought there were park days and informal gym classes and support groups. Nope. Ds7 is very lonely. He’s going back to public school next week, and the obsession with CC is a big part of why.

One of the supervisors at work only had a flip phone. He could not receive the group texts sent from the company, though he could receive individual texts. It also cut off the texts at a certain point. The company recently bought him an iPhone specifically because of this.

My job is morphing into solely communicating on a private Facebook page; things like “the schedule has changed, check to see which station you should go to†or “ X is looking for coverage for Saturday night shift.†I have it set to automatically alert me when there is a posting on that private page so I don’t miss anything in my feed. I understand it’s frustrating, but just like the change to email, I think this is simply where communication is at now.

Clover buds is the younger group of 4-H; she probably changed the time so it would work for parents with kids in both groups. Facebook is pretty much the only way to communicate for many people under 40. Several of the groups my kids are in don’t use email at all(and the younger 20-something patients don’t use email, only Facebook messenger), and not using Facebook is, frankly, akin to refusing to use email in 2007 and expecting people to call you. I understand the frustrations, but if you aren’t going to use Facebook when it is the sole source of communication for many groups, it’s up to you to figure out how to communicate. I do think calling six families, or even one, is too much to ask when one can spend thirty seconds typing a message onto a Facebook group from their phone while making dinner.

I really prefer wantable to stitch fix.

Yes. In a heartbeat. My husband would have the same reaction as yours. But I am the oldest of 8 children, with the youngest being born when i was almost 17. My husband is the youngest of 2 and was almost never around young kids. We came into marriage with some completely different ideas of how messy children can be.(both literally and figuratively)

You can show how you do use it in regular pictures(like posting a picture of all your luggage on the way to a vacation and mentioning it’s all 31 product, but you can’t say “buy it!â€) but you aren’t supposed to say you sell it or post any sales/asking for sales on your personal Facebook. You have to start a private group that people can join and post away in that. I do suspect people start a private group and then add everyone they know to it.

Most of the police officers I know have, at minimum, a two year degree. Many have a bachelor’s in criminal justice. Hiring can be competitive and they’ll hire the degreed people over the non degreed people. Paramedic is not a good job for someone who doesn’t like school and doesn’t want long term manual labor. The coursework is 18-24 months of very demanding study plus clinical time, and most of us at ten years in have hurt our backs or shoulders and are looking for other employment. The paramedic class is an associate’s degree at the program I went through, and it was far harder than anything I’ve done for my bachelor’s degree. And frankly the money I’m making isn’t worth the annoyances of the job anymore.

$12 here. I’d love the job but I can’t take the pay cut. I would look at something like radiology tech. There isn’t a huge amount of physical work but it still pays well.

By the kit, enjoy the products, and sell a little here and there if you want. I’m waiting for the next kit to come out(I don’t really like their current one) and then will probably re sign up. But I only do it because I like the products for cheap.

I don’t even know what I need. I need something that will help me track: Homeschooling My own school work(pursuing an M.Ed in special education) My client base(I am working per diem as a social worker while I transition out of EMS) and the ever present meetings/appointments/sessions with them My kids’ appointments My regular daily stuff My regular job as a paramedic is on a permanent schedule(I work the same days on a two week rotation) so I don’t need anything special for that. I don’t have the patience to bullet journal. I’m willing to pay up to $60-75 if I can find something that will help track everything in one place. I prefer paper but am open to a good app. I have an iPhone. Ideas? Suggestions?

Actually it’s against 31 Gifts rules to post on social media. You can have a private group but not spam people or post it on your personal page. I join every couple years when they have a nice kit. I don’t actually sell it and let them deactivate me eventually, and then buy another kit a year or so later when it has things I want in it. For $99 I get some nice 31 things and then just let it deactivate when I don’t sell anything. I do buy myself during that time using my 25% discount.