Fun thoughts all:
Regarding our in loco parentis statement. It is not so much driven by needing to let the students know where the limits are, but rather by the need to make clear that the source of our authority is the parents and not the institution of "school".
Regarding text books in NY: It certainly is a very peculiar situation. The law is rooted in a notion that government schools ("publicly funded schools") should provide for all of the students who live in the district. They provide text books and bussing for the independent school students. My persistent questions related to this are:
Why does NY embrace this and reject vouchers for independently educated students (schooled, homeschooled, or otherwise)?
How can the schools reject some text books because of "religious" content when any thinking person knows that there is no such thing as a book without a worldview. Choosing one worldview over another amounts to the establishment of that worldview by the state and that dear friends is a direct violation of the 1st amendment.
Regarding our uniforms for the girls: They really like them. The skirts are all gray and come in three different styles, the blouses are pretty standard. The only signature item are the ties which the girls asked for. The boys have a custom silk tie (stripes for rhetoric, dots for dialectic) that they have wear in three styles of long, and three styles of bow (their choice). The girls felt left out and worked with the tie maker for the feminine version for the girls. Not all were sold, but they have caught on and certainly any uniform will have its detractors.
Finally regarding homeschoolers having access to textbooks. At the center of this is the popular notion that homeschooling = no-schooling. I have coached a team of homeschool rowers who compete entirely against other scholastic teams. We have an annual go round with these school folks explaining to them that homeschooling is called "homeschooling" because it is well....school. It is my opinion that homeschooling is no more different from corporate schooling than independent schools are different from government schools.