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  1. Presbyterian Church (USA) here. Our church has communion (the Lord's Supper and baptism are the only two sacraments we recognize) once a month and on special days (e.g. Christmas Eve), and "all are welcome" to partake. We have both traditional and "contemporary" services at our church; in the traditional service the elements are passed, everyone waits to partake of the bread "as one body" and then we drink of the cup "as the spirit moves us" to symbolize our individual relationship with God. In the contemporary service, communion is "by intention" (we walk forward and dip the bread in the cup). It is up to parents to decide when they want their children to take communion (usually the younger kids leave for Sunday School earlier in the service, it's up to the parents to have them stay for communion is they wish). I don't take communion if I visit a Catholic church or any other church that does not have open communion, out of respect for their beliefs and traditions.
  2. My mother is 1000 miles away, so my husband and kids make it a nice day for me. It usually involves a day trip to a place I pick, kids behaving well, and my husband going along with whatever it is (even shopping at Ikea one year!) with a smile on his face. :D
  3. Since I was a teen, people thought I looked younger - often much younger - than I was (unless I was very dressed up w/heavy makeup). Older women used to tell me I would appreciate it later... They were SO RIGHT! :D
  4. I've had some luck with focusing on the positive - even when it's teeny tiny bits of positive - and completely ignoring the disruptive behavior. Easier said than done, of course, but when I remember to do it, it works wonders. There's a timer you can buy (also an app, but not as effective that way) called a Motiv-aider that you clip on your waistband & it vibrates every x minutes (I currently have mine set for 3). Every time it vibrates, I pick the kid(s) who are doing the right thing and give them a mini M&M. If one kid baits another, and the second doesn't respond, *BOOM* reward for the one who didn't take the bait, ignoring the other completely. Pretty classic behavior modification, totally frustrating for parents, but it really is effective over the long term.
  5. Kids get rambunctious in groups, especially when it's not a rigidly structured activity. Could be a combination of: There are often few, if any, consequences for misbehavior at extracurriculars. Groups won't want to lose participants over discipline, especially if it's a commercial / for-profit program No one wants to deal with parents who get upset over how & why their kid was disciplined Volunteers may not be trained to handle discipline problems effectively, especially if they rotate week to week Kids know it's not school and that the consequences are minimal I am involved in a couple of different extracurriculars with kids ranging from preschool to 5th grade, and the behavior can quickly get out of hand -- things I know that many of these same kids don't get away with at home or at school. I don't imagine it's much different for tweens/teens looking to blow off steam / have fun / get a little extra attention, but perhaps even harder to rein in because they're not as motivated by the promise of a sticker or piece of candy at the end of the class. The kids see it as fun goofing around, and probably don't even realize it causes problems for anyone else.
  6. I deleted the "Bob the Angry Flower" apostrophe comic I posted some time back, left the link to the site (shame on me, I should know better, though I've gotten the impression over the years that the creator doesn't mind as long as it's linked back to the site so they can sell posters & stuff). Please let's be careful about painting a copyright owner as some kind of bad guy(/girl) for trying to protect their work. As others have pointed out, someone taking the results of your hard work, things you or your family depend on to make a living, and distributing it without paying you stinks. The fact that it's so easy and happens so often on the interwebs doesn't make it right. I know I'd get my "panties in a twist" over that (and have, when companies I've done contract programming work for didn't want to pay me). I'm sure many of us would have twisted panties if we ran across a website giving away e-book copies of TWTM without paying SWB. Describing it in derogatory terms like that isn't fair to the people who own the work in question.
  7. This is the impression I have as well. When they finally made the electronic version available on iPad, I had to pay $5 for them to generate a license key for my iPad -- and was told this would be the case for any additional devices. Not that $5 is a huge deal, but when I've spent hundreds with them already, being nickel-and-dimed for something like this turns me off. I have purchased years 1 & 2 already, but am seriously reconsidering buying the rest.
  8. Any plans to offer adult classes, for those of us whose own education may have been a bit lacking? I've just listened (again) to SWB's Educating Ourselves as we Educate Our Children, and I have been toying with the idea of working through WWS myself to better prepare myself for when my kids get to that level. Some experienced guidance, discussion, and feedback along the way would be well worth the time and money. I'm not sure enrolling at my local community college would quite fit the bill.
  9. I don't see anything wring with ads, especially if they're selected carefully. They can even become a benefit all around since they're likely to be for things of interest to many of us. I participate in a hobby forum site that does this, and it seems to work well. They also offer paid membership at a couple of levels (one a nominal $5/year and another quite a bit higher) that come with user profile add-ons, additional private message storage, and access to members-only forum areas. The main content areas are open to all, but people use the members-only chat boards occasionally for topics they want to keep from search engines and casual visitors. I admire your willingness to keep this site free to use. I'm another who would happily pay / donate with or without membership perks.
  10. From : "The most comprehensive review of homeopathic treatments ever conducted was published in the medical journal The Lancet in 2005. The paper analysed every clinical investigation then published into the effects of homeopathy, and concluded that any apparent benefits from homeopathic 'treatments' were simply placebo effects." ETA: That site also has good explanations of why homeopathy cannot possibly do what it claims to do.
  11. Well, I just spent my Christmas gift cards (and then some) thanks to this thread. :p We got a few good games as gifts, Zeus on the Loose and Frog Juice card games (both by Gamewright) have been huge hits. Our Robot Turtles game (from before Christmas) still has their interest -- and mine, with the adult rules. Although they're young, I did drag them through one heavily-coached Settlers of Catan game, which they enjoyed even if they don't yet understand the finer points of strategy. I pulled an old Battleship set out of the garage, which they have fun with but get bored before finishing (same with several other "kid" games) -- they are shaping up to be fine geeks indeed. ;)
  12. Fortunately I am just a bystandaner in this particular situation, but I see a few lessons coming from it (and other past personal experience): 1. If you aren't satisfied with a product, request a refund immediately and dispute the charge with your credit card company (oor use their product guarantee if they have one). If the seller promises it will be fixed, you can always buy again at that time. a "re-stocking" fee for online software may be unreasonable, but if it was disclosed before you purchased you are probably out fo luck (unless you successfully dispute the charge). In their defense, processing and later refunding a credit card purchase usually costs over 5% of the transaction amount, so it's not entirely unreasonable to charge something if they offer no-questions-asked refunds within the 30-day window. 2. "Cloud" or online software / services will always be fraught with peril. Unless there is a way to download your data -- and access it from other software -- your information depends on the success and quality of the business running the service. If they fail to do regular backups, if they have financial difficulty, if there's a technical problem preventing access to their server, if they decide to change their terms, you may lose your data. And there's nothing you can do about it. 3. Developing a large (and this product isn't even very big by software industry standards) software project is HARD. Good ideas are a dime a dozen; successful implementors are few and far between. Domain knowledge is essential, but technical expertise and project management skills are also required. Thinking that a subject matter expert is all that's required to build a successful product is like hiring an interior designer to build your house because they know all about how people use living spaces. Outsourcing development ("hiring a team") is certainly done, but frequently ends badly, even for large projects in big companies with experienced project managers. It's a popular cost-saving measure, vs. hiring in-house developers, but often the failures aren't fully appreciated until it's too late. :(
  13. I bought Atelier in the spring, we got theough one lesson (which I LOVED), and I spent two months avoiding getting out the paints so I am right there with you. They did a co-op arts & crafts class, but that was pretty fluffy. Three weeks of camp at our local fine arts center over the summer, plus a week of performing arts camp (they made set & costumes), and I don't feel nearly as bad. :) We are starting up for real in another week, and I WILL get the Atelier materials out again! I CAN clean up paint, right? Right? They also do a half hour a week of music in our church kids' program / choir, and sing in church once a month. I have the Faber piano books (on recommendation from a professional violinist friend) that we WILL get out this fall as well!
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