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  1. :lol: Love it! I used to keep a list of the funny things kids said to me when I was testing them. Unfortunately, my hard drive crashed and I lost the list. This would have definitely made my list! One I do remember: Me: What does mimic mean? Kid: What does mimic mean? (smiling)
  2. This is where we are now, unfortunately. She's become so negative lately, and I hate for her to feel that way. I'm glad to hear you found some answers, and I will definitely check out the book you mentioned. We're in the process of getting an evaluation, but in the meantime I'm just trying to read and research as much as I can. Thanks for all the responses--I know each kid is different, but it helps to know that we're not alone in our struggles!
  3. Thanks for the feedback. It definitely is confusing. The funny (ironic, not ha ha funny) thing is that I am a psychologist and I have diagnosed many, many kids in my career. I actually have the criteria memorized! But when it's your own kid, it's so difficult to be objective. On the one hand, I don't want to over-analyze or see problems where there are none, but on the other hand I don't want to be in denial just because my kid doesn't seem as "bad" as the kids who tear my office apart! I had a very naive idea before I had children that my knowledge might somehow give me more insight into parenting. I think in a way the opposite has happened. Being a parent has helped me be much more understanding of the parents and kids I work with...and I am much more humble now:001_smile:.
  4. For those of you who have gifted kids diagnosed with ADHD(or ADD), how does it manifest itself? Do you think the giftedness makes it harder to recognize? I am trying to sort out whether my dd7 has an attention disorder or something else, but the giftedness confuses things a bit. She can sit and read (or listen to me reading) for hours, but asking her to do something she is not interested in is a different matter. I know this might be true to some degree for all children, but it seems extreme in her. I have done some reading about this (Misdiagnosis and the Gifted Child, for example) but am curious to hear about others' experiences. Thanks!
  5. :iagree: This is very well put. And to the OP, maybe some people will take it as bragging, but in my book worrying about your kid is worry, even if it's about something others view as desirable.:grouphug:
  6. Most test companies won't send back completed tests because it affects test security (i.e., people try to steal the questions so they can cheat or sell to others who want to cheat). Also, people might try to "coach" to the test which then affects the scoring and standardization. I know that doesn't help, but at least it's good to know there's a reason! I would do what the other posters suggested...
  7. Glad to know I'm not the only one...and I wasn't really worried, exactly, just curious whether it was typical, especially for kids exposed to lots and lots of mythology. Oddly enough, my dd can't handle watching even slightly scary movies, but she loves the scary stories!
  8. I had a mom tell me today that her ds' first grade teacher wants to hold him back next year. The mom told the teacher how well he is doing in after-school tutoring, where they describe him as the "star" of the group. The teacher's response? "Well, he's the best of the worst." This just about made me scream!! I know most teachers are not this thoughtless, but it seems that when they are, parents are so powerless to protect their children. Just had to vent a little...
  9. This would irritate me, too. I'm the only allowed to annoy and quiz my kids!;) But I have to smile at your dd's response. She's got a great sense of humor...
  10. My dd7 used to draw lovely pictures of unicorns, fairies, and ponies. Now she draws child-eating dragons! I'm not really worried about this, but just curious if this is a typical phase for kids raised in a mythology-rich environment? In one of her pictures, a dragon is making child-stew. Fortunately, the children band together and make "explosion pills" which they trick the dragon into eating. In the attached picture, you can actually see a child going down the dragon's esophagus...eek!:tongue_smilie:
  11. :party:That's wonderful! And thanks for making me smile!
  12. :grouphug: Prayers sent your way...and you absolutely did not overreact. I think moms have a 6th sense about these things! My son had a nasty fall off his bike last summer and a passerby seemed surprised when I asked her to call 911. But the ER doc said I did the right thing. He had a small bruise on his liver and lungs--nothing serious, but could have been had I not had him checked out.
  13. So glad to know I'm not alone! And to answer the various questions re: note-taking, etc. I am absolutely positive they were not taking notes about the workshop. At times, they were texting each other and then laughing about their "conversation." It was a continuing education seminar which I found reasonably interesting. I guess my feeling is that if you don't want to be there, at least try to sit at the back of the room and not disturb everyone around you. The presenter either didn't notice or chose not to notice. So scary to think about all those people texting while driving--my kids are going to hate me when they are old enough for phones and I won't pay for them (at least not the smart ones with all the bells and whistles). Oh well.:001_smile:
  14. I went to a workshop today for various professionals (almost all women). I was sitting at a table with three very friendly women whom I did not know. The presenter was about 15 feet away throughout the day. The three women around me frequently texted on their phones, sometimes in full view of the presenter. One woman even accepted two phone calls (although she whispered and left the room), and later she set up her Ipad and did some work. This behavior shocked and surprised me so much that I just wasn't sure what to say. We were told at the beginning to shut off our phones. These women were not particularly young, so I can't use that as an excuse. I just tried to ignore them and focus on the presentation (which ironically was about ADHD), but it was quite distracting. Is this behavior typical these days? Am I just really old-fashioned to find this rude and disrespectful? :confused:
  15. I agree with the pp who said that this psychologist is personalizing things a bit too much. I also agree with most of what Ester Maria has said (except about avoiding psychologists, but only because I am one:001_smile:). Telling children that what they are doing is "abnormal" seems like a recipe for disaster. If the child wanted an explanation for why he/she feels different, I might say something like what other posters have said (everyone's brain works differently, etc.). I think humans in general focus too much on what separates us rather than what we have in common. It's much easier to do the former than the latter, IMHO.
  16. I hate to say it, but I think this might be true. I've done quite a bit of testing of adults over the years (all with at least a high school education) and I'm always a little shocked by how many of them have no idea how to add or subtract fractions or decimals, calculate a percentage, etc. They sometimes confess that they have forgotten how to do it and rely on calculators. I am by no means a math whiz, but I feel like those basics were drummed into me. I can't remember much about algebra and beyond, but I can at least work with fractions and decimals! I think a lot of adults memorized the methods as kids, but didn't really learn the concepts. Another reason to homeschool...
  17. There are lots of reasons I love homeschooling, but the biggest thing for me is that I get to participate much more actively in my dc's learning--seeing their eyes light up when they get excited about something or finally "get" a concept, for example. Wouldn't trade it for the world! (at least not today;))
  18. This example may not exactly fit this thread, but here goes: Last October, my ds4 said to his preschool teacher, "Guess what? 'Boo' has two O's in it. Just like Hooters!" In my defense, we drive by Hooters on the way to his school, and the sign is awfully eye-catching!
  19. Asynchrony is a common thing in our house, too. I remember when my dd was 2 or so, a friend told me that if my dd could tell me a paragraph about her diaper, she was probably ready to be toilet-trained. Unfortunately, this was not the case. My dd could read full-length books before she was toilet-trained (she has some sensory issues). She can reason and negotiate like a much a older child, but sometimes acts younger than her 4-year-old brother. It does make it feel a little like I'm walking in sand all the time, and it's constantly shifting! But it makes life interesting, too, so I'm not complaining (much).:D
  20. These are hilarious. We have a hotel near us with a missing letter in its sign: Full itchens Which makes me wonder if bedbugs are included? :tongue_smilie:
  21. I originally posted the link on the Accelerated Learner blog, and I just want to say thanks to everyone who has posted here! I'm glad people are thinking about these issues (not just giftedness, but parenting, bragging, etc.) and I think a forum like this can help open minds and keep us all thinking and learning. :001_smile:
  22. So yesterday my ds4 says to me, "Mommy, you're a cutie-patootie." I feel all warm and fuzzy and say, "Aw, you're a cutie-patootie, too!" He grins and says, "Tootie is what comes out of your b*tt." Warm and fuzzy feeling evaporated quickly...:D
  23. It sounds like you have a very interesting kiddo! (I'm a sucker for the sensitive types...) I don't think there is one way to determine if he is gifted. Yes, you could get an evaluation and you would most likely get some useful information from it. But it's not absolutely necessary. I've learned as much about giftedness from reading and my own research than I ever learned from looking at a set of test scores (and I do testing for a living!). However, if you suspect dyslexia in your older son, I would recommend an evaluation because it would give you a clearer picture of his strengths and weaknesses, along with maybe qualifying for special services (some of which might be useful even if you homeschool). Oh, and keep reading this forum. You'll find lots of useful info, links, etc. Good luck!
  24. We have almost daily struggles with this issue, too. Sometimes I think my dd would like for me to be able to directly insert knowledge into her brain! I'm curious, for those who mention learning musical instruments--how do you get them to make the connection between the practice it takes for that and the practice for math (or other academic subjects)? My dd is a bit of a perfectionist and at first with music we had a lot of meltdowns, but finally she seems to be maturing a little bit in this area. But it's not improving in the academics! Maybe she's just not making the connections between practice leading to mastery leading to enjoyment? Maybe I need to make math more rewarding for her somehow?
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