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  1. No, haven't heard of the show. But, I get what you're trying to say.
  2. Thank you for sharing your perspectives. I understand better now.
  3. My response wasn't directed at you, but at pinewarbler. The quote feature messed it up.
  4. wrt: Bolded I found my peers at the age of 25 (approx a decade ago). Most of them were 60+ yr olds then, but they were such interesting people who had lead fascinating lives. I found another group of peers when I went back for my grad degree; this time they were the 25 yr olds. :laugh: Friends are hard to find and keep; especially when one's tribe is statistically non-normative. My DD has been lucky to find a few friends; personality attributes+character compatibility rather than common interests. Its definitely easier that way. ETA: I went back and forth whether to post what I'm about to, but decided to go ahead. The underlined part of the post bothered me deeply. Especially the 'collecting' of people so that one has someone to talk to. Even figuratively speaking, viewing those cognitively average or otherwise as objects to be collected or bus stop people, is....dismissive and depreciative. :sad: Maybe I've misunderstood, if so, I apologise.
  5. This. When we moved for the 5th time in 8 years, we were carrying along 40 large boxes of books. Unpacking, re-shelving took 2 weeks. When my dh threw his back out moving a box filled with books from one room to another, we knew we had a big problem. I donated and sold most (which could be replaced easily) off over a year. Invested in a kindle and now exclusively buy ebooks.
  6. What I'm hoping for is an accelerated/(insert label) kids forum where the next gen from this board can communicate with like minded peers across the world. That would be a game changer in my life. As DD gets older, I find I'm hesitant to discuss her emotional and intellectual phases in great detail online or IRL.
  7. Has he read anything about the Holocaust earlier? My DD read and watched 'The boy in...." but it wasn't her first book on that topic. Her first introduction to it was Judith Kerr trilogy starting with 'When hitler stole pink rabbit'. IMO, I wouldn't recommend 'The boy in.." as a first book on the Holocaust, particularly if the child is sensitive. ymmv
  8. Yes, ever since she was born. But, as DD gets older (almost 12 now), I struggle mightily with *my* role in keeping her busy. As in, I was hoping she would have an internal compass by now that points her to the problem of intellectual stimulation and seek it out *without* my help. Maybe I should include this in her life skill goals to meet, for this year. :p :D
  9. Oh my! That video has achieved the impossible... condescending and offensive on all levels *to both men and women*!!. Girls need to hear that if they choose to marry late, they won't find anyone eligible because all men want younger women? Women are born rich and become poor? men are born poor and become rich? I hope she's speaking in metaphors.. I don't get why the sender of this video is so invested in your daughters future marriage/late marriage? Very bizarre..
  10. You said it better than I did. To add, does a well rounded education mean an education without a strong focus? i.e if one concentrates on all academic and non-academic disciplines equally... I suspect a well rounded education helps the students who have strong interests early in life- the specialists. The teens who are, by temperament and abilities, generalists will by default gravitate towards a well rounded education. What the latter might need is something different from the former. something more focused to help them choose their discipline/field.
  11. A perspective from someone who possibly tried to balance marriage, kids and career: Indra Nooyi, CEO Pepsico on why women can't have it all. However, I'm telling my daughter to prioritize financial independence over waiting to meet the right guy/marriage/kids. The former is within ones control, whereas the latter...
  12. fwiw, my post on that thread was a very high level look at what I considered to be an ideal humanities education. I don't know how it would look on a day-to-day basis in elementary school because I've not yet had an opportunity or necessity to chalk a plan out. Maybe I should at some point.. Having said that, and to give some background on that post; I'm a product of a relatively well rounded 'school' education system. I had history, geography, physics, chem, bio, algebra/pre-cal/cal, geometry/trig, 1st language, 2nd language, 3rd language from 1st- 10th grade. My generation was also expected to achieve equally across all subjects. All of us were streamlined post 10th grade (sciences/humanities/fine arts). Those 10 years of formally studying 3 languages? didn't need them in formal education post 10th grade. :rolleyes: Of course each subject stretched us a little bit, and of course all of them gave us a holistic view of academics; but there are only so many hours in a day/week/month/year, iykwim; and the price we paid for a holistic academic education was sports, performing and fine arts. Can you tell I'm still resentful after all these years? :001_smile: For my DD: My DD who's inclined towards the sciences and accelerated only in math/science. out of a 30 hr 5 day week= (approximations) 3 hours language per week at grade level, 3 hours History/geography per week at grade level. 24 hours per week split between Math (algebra/geom) and sciences (phys, chem, bio) accelerated. She has the exposure to all subjects like a mainstream schooled child in India plus the flexibility to not perform at the same level across all. She has the luxury of time. Time to play a sport and an instrument. Time to read, dream, slack off, brood, chat and do nothing too. So far no regrets.
  13. Great question! After many many many blunders where I expected DD to read my mind in elementary school, I went through a period where I had to determine what I meant by 'quality' how would I measure it, and if its developmentally appropriate for my DD to reach the level that I demand/expect. Due to that introspection, middle school has been simpler than elementary. Expectations and routine is already set on both sides and she usually complies when I ask her to redo a piece of writing because we now have a common understanding of what quality looks like. Hence,she does her best work for me; at home. Quality in Math and sciences is relatively easy to implement. Where my DD has struggled is quality in writing. I suspect this will continue to improve as she matures as a person. Some aspects of academics just need maturity and life experience, iykwim. wrt the bolded: It depends. My DD is an aspiring scientist, so that's where her best is invested. I'm not sure motivation can be taught. IME, I can only create an environment that is likely to keep her motivated or model it. Usually a hit or miss here. :D
  14. I can relate and I don't think you're being ridiculous. He sounds quite like my DD between 7 and 8. Highly verbal. Very high energy. IME, Achievement not meeting teacher/parent expectations means a couple of things: 1- No idea of what the test is testing 2- Anxiety or other issues like ADHD causing a bottleneck 3- Being highly verbal has its drawbacks in written tests.- likely to be developmental. We, rather I, struggled with 1 and 3. I fixed point 1 by having periodic review built into our schedule and making sure DD knew what she was being tested on. Whether she takes it cold or practices for it; its extremely crucial for *all* students to be aware of the test expectations. wrt 3: It will sort out once he is older. Maybe during puberty or after. For instance, My DD is 11-almost-12 now, there's an enormous positive change in her focus, attention and self control from when she was 7/8. 3-4 years of a constant commentary on everything and now (for the past 6 months) I see the movement of young childhood to young adulthood happening. He sounds to be in the right place (home) for his academic and developmental needs. Hang in there!
  15. Me: channeling Mr Miyagi (or Yoda if you prefer), " Either you do this or you don't. There is no try". DD: with a long suffering look, "Mom, very few choices in life are binary. This is not one of them". Me: :blink:
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