Yes, of course I've tried spanking her. It just enrages her even more. It always made everything worse. We really try to use positive parenting, though, I don't like spanking at all. My ped goes to our church and is in my community group, we see each other a lot, she knows the struggle I have with my daughter (if I had to guess she has ADD/ODD) but she just thinks it's a discipline issue and that if I spanked her enough, she'd be normal. She also doesn't "believe" in ODD. It just seems very dismissive. I have 3 other kids, I truly don't believe it's my parenting that's the issue. I'm trying to get her to eat healthier but she sneaks foods, eats things she isn't supposed to at school (we aren't homeschooling right now because it was hell here at home, constant fighting and her tantrums). She has always been difficult but it seems within the last year it has gotten worse. I'm trying to find a new ped but we don't vaccinate anymore so it's hard to find one that will take my kids. At school or at Sunday school, though, she's perfectly fine. Ever since she's been at the classical school her math and reading has improved, she comes home and does her homework willingly. She gets her clothes ready and gets herself up in the morning. And if I ever take her out on a mommy daughter date or just out by ourselves to run errands, she's the perfect kid. No tantrums, fights. But when we come home and she has to communicate with her siblings or I have to divide my time with her at all, she gets angry so easily. Earlier today she stole 4 pieces of her sister's candy she got at an Easter egg hunt yesterday. Of course sister was upset so dad let her pick out one of Charlotte's candies. Well, that just triggered the meltdown of the century. For an hour I am left trying to cool her down, get her mind off of it, etc. I know you can't talk to a kid when they're off the chain like that so I just try to put out the flames. But I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around her (we all do) because we never know what will set her off. I'm going to call other counseling centers tomorrow and see if I can find any cheaper testing. I'm going to start that behavior log, thanks. She does have trouble with transitioning. There are times I've thought ASD with her but then she can be so sweet and compliant sometimes that I don't think that's it. But I just don't know. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using Tapatalk

So I called the school system and have started the paperwork on having her evaluated by it. Not sure how long it will take, though. I also called a children's counseling center and asked about a psychoacademic evaluation (that's what they said she'd need).... and it would be $1400 for a one day test. There's just no way we can afford that. Plus after that I'm sure she'd need counseling and treatment and whatnot. So I'm just really discouraged lately. :( I've read the book The Explosive Child but the issue is that she doesn't want to come up with solutions. She lacks empathy, could care less about getting better, doesn't want strategies to help her. So that's why I just don't know what to do. I need outside help to step in because she just doesn't listen to me. But mostly I just need someone to tell me wth is wrong so I can work on helping her get better but $1400? Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using Tapatalk

My daughter is beyond CVC words (about halfway through AAR 2) but not fluent so I still have to read all the books aloud. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using Tapatalk

Thank you for your reply... So if I call up the local school, what do I ask for? A learning disability evaluation? Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using Tapatalk

Yes we put her in counseling last year and I don't feel it did anything. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using Tapatalk

One of my good friends is my ped. She told me I need to spank her. :( Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using Tapatalk

Look into Nessy.com, it's an online phonics game that has been shown to help with this kinds of thing. My daughter's private Classical school uses it. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using Tapatalk

So we recently put my 8 year old in a private Classical Christian school. We were just having so many issues homeschooling... extreme defiance, she wouldn't pay attention, she was really behind on reading and math (after a year of math facts to 10 she still didn't know them). Lots of behavioral problems, bullying siblings, refusing to do work. It was very stressful here. But now that she's in school, yes I get a break from her during the day and she is doing much better in math and reading, but there are still many behavioral issues and I don't know what to do. I love her to death but she's just so very difficult. I think I should have her evaluated for... something... but I don't know where to go about looking into a LD or ADHD or whatever. I feel like such a failure because I'm not homeschooling her. I don't want to put her in ps and private school is expensive, but I feel that's my only option. I feel that there's something wrong and it's only getting worse, but where can I go to help her? Has anyone else had a child like this?

We just finished The Ology and it's been great. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using Tapatalk

Wow that's.... a lot... Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using Tapatalk

Haven't totally decided yet, but this is what I'm thinking for my second 1st grader... Singapore 1b/2a A Reason For Handwriting A All About Reading 2/3 or PP FLL WWE Artistic Pursuits 1 Geography Songs w/ map work Keep going through our children's catechism and go through a children's Bible And lots of read aloud books from various book lists. We plan on starting history in 2nd grade with the VP self paced courses. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using Tapatalk

We use dadsworksheets.com . I printed off all of the addition and subtraction drill pages A - Z and I set the timer for 1 minute each day. They use a page protector and dry erase marker so they can reuse the sheets. But to move on to the next level they have to get all 40 problems done in 60 seconds. They love it and love to try to beat their previous score. It has worked best for us. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using Tapatalk

We just use the textbook and workbook. There's a thick workbook that's like Singapore on Amazon (just search Singapore Math and it should come up, it's a blue book) that I'll supplement with sometimes. I have the HIG but it's confusing and hard for me to implement. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using Tapatalk

You mean the self paced online ones? Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using Tapatalk

Anyone here have experience with both of these curricula? I am considering just going in full Classical next year with my will be 3rd and 1st graders. My oldest has been using the VP Self Paced Bible class and has really enjoyed it this year. I like the idea of VP "taking over" much of those areas, so to speak. I feel like I have so much on my plate. But I do like how MP has lesson plans all nicely laid out. I see that you can purchase lesson plans from VP but I don't know how they look, the samples aren't very good. My oldest isn't reading very well yet, either, and still needs a lot of hand holding, but so does my younger one. So any advice or experience to share? Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using Tapatalk

Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids by Laura Markham is my all time favorite parenting book.

He's 7... If he has his times tables already memorized, I wouldn't say his math is a mess. Actually, you might want to just pull way back for awhile, sounds like he's doing 2 to 3 levels ahead. Burn out might be on the horizon.

There has been a lot of awesome advice so I'm not gong to add to it, but if it were me and my son, I think I would drop academics altogether for at LEAST a month and ONLY work on our relationship. Go on field trips, go get ice cream, ask thought provoking questions, give lots of hugs and kisses. Read books together. Fun stuff that will get you two together. Always always guard your relationship and that connection above all else. There's a book I've been reading called Discipline That Connects With Your Child's Heart that has been so eye opening to me.

I've seen Vaxxed, loved it. I vaccinated my oldest on schedule until she was 4, then we stopped completely. My second was vaxxed until 18 months, and my last two boys are unvaxxed. My kids are all pretty healthy, except my oldest has signs of learning disability and ADHD. She also has bad eczema that started after her 6 month shots. I know several people who just know their child's autism was caused by vaccines, one even received compensation from the vaccine courts. They all claim that after the MMR their baby had the high fever, horrible high pitch scream, etc, and was never the same after that. Make it it what you want but it's their reality.

We are going on an 8 hour road trip in a couple weeks and I'd like to redeem much of that time with some fun audiobooks. We have listened to all of Roald Dahl (which my girls loved), Ramona, Little Princess. My girls are 8 and 6, and my boys are 4 and 1. Any suggestions? great if I can find on Audible.... thanks

Thank you so so so much for this! It's just what I'm looking for. *all the heart eyes*

I didn't do anything with my kids until they were almost 6, so K age. I just don't feel it's worth it before then. You have all these big plans and then they don't care about them lol. Or they don't retain anything. Better to just let them tag along with you through out your day, read a lot, go outside a lot. That's about it. Both of mine were fine.

Looking for some recs for early readers for my almost 6 year old kindergartener. She flew through AAR 1 and I'm just using Phonics Pathways with her now but I'm having tribute finding readers that mesh well with it. We have the first 3 sets of Bob books but I'd like to branch out from there,

So my last daughter will be turning 8 next month (2nd grade) . I started teaching her to read at about age 5 and she picked up on reading CVC words pretty quickly. We finished OPGTR about 8 months ago and since then I've just been having her read to me daily from a level 1 or 2 reader (occasionally level 3). She never reads on her own even though we have lots of books available, go to the library, I read aloud to her daily. She says it's too hard to read. She reads so slowly, messes up on words she should know by now, has trouble with multisyllable words. Her comprehension and spelling is great, though. I'm just not sure what what else to do to improve her fluency to where she doesn't feel like reading is hard for her. How do I know if there's some underlying issue vs. it just not really clicking for her yet? I've looked at dyslexia symptoms and she has only maybe 1 or 2 signs (difficulty with math and doesn't pay attention to punctuation). I try not to compare but every other 7 year old we know is on chapter books and has been for awhile now.

I don't know but teaching reading has been a real pain in my you know what. I feel like I've been teaching my oldest (almost 8) to read for years and she still isn't very fluent. She CAN read level 3 books, but it isn't really easy for her. And my second is almost 6 and likes learning to read, flew through AAR 1, is doing PP now, but geez... It just takes so long! I hear of allharcharik@umc.edu these kids teaching themselves to read at age 3 and I'm hoping and praying I get just ONE like that. Haha.