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  1. If it makes you feel better, I've only bought three gifts, two for me and one for DH. Kids are hard when they are older.
  2. Oh, I loved seeing this post this morning, because...we need a little Christmas!
  3. Pellets are only for pellet style grills. When DH used his Weber Smokey Mountain, he used chunks. You can also get a smaller version, chips.
  4. Yeah. See below. LOL/not Yep. Again, see below. And how these things can't be true of her because she's had other teachers and she's a model pupil. Yep. See below. You just absolutely, positively do not know this. You think you know, because you know your child as any homeschooler/mother knows her child, but you do not know her from the neutral perspective of an expert evaluator and all the tools with which they are equipped. You have too much emotion to see things clearly, and you are assigning motives to her patterns of behavior that are as much (if not more) about your psychological makeup as they are about hers. I've been reading your thread within a thread here as I work through the regrets thread, which is very interesting to me, as I am coming to the final chapters of my homeschooling journey. I have almost posted a response to you 5 times over the past few days and, honestly, the reason I haven't is because you shoot anyone down immediately who says things you don't want to hear. You seem to have a knee-jerk reaction to having your current thinking challenged. But here I am, posting and agreeing that you need to have her evaluated. And, truthfully, because of my own history, it is driving me nuts that you keep saying you know that she doesn't have this or that because you just know it. You are rightfully proud of your PhD in Probability. It conveys a level of expertise. Our evaluator has a PhD in Educational Psychology along with a slew of other qualifications, and those convey a level of expertise as well. She also has decades of experience diagnosing and working with children/teens/young adults. When you keep saying over and over that you know these things just don't fit her but then post and post and post and post about how she is frustrating you beyond reason and you cannot figure her out, why wouldn't you just respect that a PhD neuropsychologist with scads of experience and insight could possibly be a help to you? Why wouldn't you just take your DD for evaluations? The worst case scenario is that something is going on that could be found but you don't take her in to find it. She either has something going on that's diagnosable or she doesn't. And if she does, the best case scenario is that you find it as early as possible. If she doesn't, yeah, it's a relationship thing probably, and school should be a better fit. And maybe counseling. But without evaluations, you are guessing. I have been on these boards since 2008, when my DS18 started Kindergarten. I had struggles, many similar to yours. The kid was/is smart as a whip, but omg, the challenges to get him to do good work... Tears were shed. You want credentials for my misery? Probably around your DD9's age, my DS drew a picture of him and me as fire and ice. Something was wrong. I saw so many people here talk about evaluations and considered it, but I knew my kid. And I had most of the exact same issues you describe having with your DD, right down to being a model student for other teachers. My DS could do perfect work. And you wanna hear the kicker?! I have a Masters in Social Work. I studied the DSM-V. I worked with kids with similar issues. But my kid didn't have anything I couldn't work around because, hey, we're homeschoolers and can be flexible. And I brushed away the idea that he could have ASD a thousand times. But I always had a feeling I was not getting the best out of him. I was right about that. My DS18 was diagnosed with ASD at...18. He was diagnosed with ADHD in 9th grade. (This one I had guessed right on, but didn't want him officially diagnosed and started on meds until high school). It turns out he has a high virtually everything you can evaluate for, but his processing speed—which was the only aspect of testing he scored below "superior" on—is in the basement. And THAT one thing that I—as his homeschooler, his mother, and someone with experience in the field—could never see has been enough to make school a special kind of hell unless (thanks to the ADHD and ASD, lol) it is something he is personally extremely invested in. Being absolutely amazing at masking is what kept him from a diagnosis for so long. Well, I mean obviously it was my complete and utter lack of humility that kept me from getting him evaluated, because I just knew! The neuropsychologist said she'd never seen masking at his level before. Sounds like a compliment, lol, but it's absolutely not. Masking is not good. It's exhausting. He's exhausted. And he broke. I honest to goodness do not want you to respond to this post. I think you have your DD's best interests at heart. Of course you do. Despite being here for so many years, I have never come and posted about the brokenness my DS started experiencing in 11th grade because of my negligence in following the advice to get him evaluated when he was younger. I am very tender about revealing this, especially because I think it's likely that you won't hear it in the spirit it's intended. You are very defensive. I was too, and I regret it. The biggest risk of having him evaluated when he was your DD9's age would have been them finding nothing. But I didn't do it, and I've got a lot of guilt about that. Your DD is different, obviously. And you might be right when I wasn't, obviously. But I'm just posting to tell you that you don't know, and that the kindest thing you can do for you and your DD both is to have her evaluated. And really, I'm begging you not to respond to this post.
  5. DH has been very happy with his Rec-Teq RT-700. He got it after years of using Weber's Smokey Mountain (which he loved, but he grew weary of the constant tending all day when his family craved something smoked). He found it so convenient (wifi ability to turn it on and monitor it from anywhere, big hopper, etc.) that he wanted to make things on it that he had made on his Weber charcoal grills as well. Then the rest of us rebelled, lol, because we like charcoal flavor. Luckily, very recently Royal Oak came out with high quality charcoal pellets, so he bought a Rec-Teq Bullseye. It does not have the wifi, but he keeps the hopper filled exclusively with charcoal pellets and it's quicker to start/come to temp than a regular charcoal grill, and you can get it screaming hot for a great sear.
  6. Thank you so very much for this post, BlsdMama. It is thought-provoking, inspiring, and humbling. And thanks, Stella, for starting this thread. I graduated my DS18 last year. I have DD16 home after trying PS for 9th and 10th grades (and hating it). And I've got DS15 at the beginning of high school. I'm tired. I've been tired for the past few years. I've been following this thread from the beginning, almost posted half a dozen times, but never figured out quite how to describe my complicated feelings. Ultimately, I don't regret homeschooling because the what if I hadn't is too big for me, with my particular kids. Sometimes I (jokingly mostly, to myself) wish I'd never heard of it. LOL I do regret not differentiating more from my role as a homeschool mom. I regret not volunteering as a means of maintaining skills and contacts. But then, ironically, I don't think I want to work in my field anymore anyway, so... Now I'm 49 (and a half, lol), and I don't know what I want to do with the rest of my life. But there is a weird sense of urgency I'm getting now with my youngest in high school, a sense that I need to figure it out to be ready to go. We're lucky not to need my income, and DH will be supportive of whatever I do, but I feel adrift, without conviction in any direction. I had big dreams as a student/teen/young woman that were replaced by my very strong sense of the rightness of being home with my children, which turned into a very strong sense of the rightness of educating my children. Now I have some big dreams of things I could do, and they are smaller than my old big dreams but I don't feel enthusiastic about them, which is not me. I've got some things to figure out.
  7. I would look at the intersection of art and math (origami, aestheometry, etc.) and/or science (patterns/geometry of nature, microscopic/telescopic beauty, etc.).
  8. Making kahlua, very cool! Some of those hot chocolate bombs would be nice with them. I will be making this very classy needlepoint for my front hall, so a gift for my own family. Sadly, my extended family does not really have any love for homemade/handmade.
  9. Yes, DH was helping me with this after I was way too excited to read about this here. LOL He found this from Apple Support. I have an iPhone X, and so when I enabled magnification, the three clicks of the right side button does the trick, but for 8 and earlier, it's the home button. Very cool feature for this old lady's eyes.
  10. So I got the Flexitol today, and it might work well over time, but it is not the same type of product. This actually made me feel better since The Body Shop product is so much more expensive. 🤣 I have only used the Flexitol once, but it was essentially a cream that absorbed into my feet/heels. Over time (a week, applied twice a day according to the instructions), it seems like it will gradually wear down calluses. The Vitamin C peel I linked above is a fast-acting product. When you apply it, instead of absorbing into the skin/callus like a lotion, it dissolves the top layer of callus and balls up into the product to be rinsed/brushed away. In fact, I always apply it with a hand towel under my feet to catch the residue. It is essentially a chemical rasp. Also, I did find the scent of the Flexitol too much. On my feet, it is fine, but I had to wash my hands thoroughly or it would have given me a headache for sure.
  11. I get migraines from strong scents also. I find this almost unscented, slightly citrusy if anything. But now I’m looking at this… It’s way cheaper, so I think I will pick some up to compare! Thanks!
  12. I bought a wooden 3d world map from etsy for our loft/library. I just stand and stare at it. So pretty and different. ❤️ (Pic is from the link, not my house. LOL) I also absolutely adore the product a worker at The Body Shop recommended when I asked for something for callused heels. The Vitamin C Glow Revealing Liquid Peel is for the face, but OMG it does wonders on feet!
  13. Oh my gosh, yes! And I have attached a visual aid. 🤣 I had a day like that last year with all my kids, including my only DD, who used to like pretty notebooks. They haven't been into it in years. I go gaga over pretty notebooks and pens and binders and pretty clips and matching clipboards and... And, ohmygosh, my DD is an actual ARTIST, so why doesn't she get excited about pens and things anymore?! Because she has all the ones she needs, and when they run dry, she replaces them. Yawn. LOL And everyone now just wants black. Black notebooks, binders, everything. Just plain black. So last year I bought the cutest set of kitty notebooks (we are a house of kitty lovers), and no one wanted one. None of them, even the meowmaid one. Y'all, it is a mermaid kitten, and no one wants this notebook? I ended up using it for reconciling accounts all year and when the paper was all used up, I cut out the meowmaid as a decoration for the kitty-bed cupboard next to my desk. Finally, someone else can appreciate the meowmaid with me. 😛
  14. My DD also loves digital illustration and her Wacom. She has the Adobe Creative Cloud student subscription and knows a lot of Adobe programs like the back of her hand just from playing around with them. What programs does your DD use now? Through my library, we have free access to the courses on Lynda, which is now affiliated with Linked In, marketed as Linked In Learning. You could see if your library has it too. The classes are generally good, and some of them are actually pretty expensive without the free access. Some are short, one-time classes and others are longer, multi-part courses. They also have pathways for certain learning goals, with each pathway made up of different courses.
  15. The three I landed on to incorporate Native American history into our American history study are: An Indigenous Peoples' History of the United States Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee: An Indian History of the American West The Heartbeat of Wounded Knee: Native America from 1890 to the Present I personally found the first a little drier than the others, but it is a good overview. Nothing beats Bury My Heart for heartbreaking but necessary detail to balance rah-rah Manifest Destiny stuff. The last book is awesome because it quickly goes through 1890 (one chapter!), then moves forward to what is almost never taught. I mean, it didn't get much nicer as time went on, and this teaches how what was done from the "end of the Indian wars" to now has had a profound effect on the current state of native people and land.
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