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11 minutes ago, gardenmom5 said:
in the rehab centers my mother went to (they were good rehab centers) - employees do NOT lift. they have a "lift" they use to get up a patient who has fallen. it is very easy to injure yourself lifting someone. I've a friend with a seriously disabled son - she had to have shoulder surgery from lifting him.
a friend did return to work several weeks later - but there was a place she could go lay down if needed. and sometimes she needed. (she was in a position she could. most people wouldn't be.).
I agree - granny needs to go to rehab. is it lack of access? or she doens't want to spend the money?
I think she wants to stay in her own house.
When I talked to her on Sunday, she was supposed to call her doctor's office and get details on what to expect after the surgery and what needs to be done and then call me back. I still haven't heard anything.
It's the passive aggressive crap that makes me crazy.
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8 hours ago, kiwik said:
Elective in a medical sense simply means not emergency. It doesn't mean not medically indicated. Usually by the time you get a knee replacement you have been considerable pain and using heavy doses of painkillers and antiinflammatories for some time. If someone could get surgery before Christmas I would never suggest they wait another six months. If she can stay in hospital for three days after I would stay home for Christmas then take one of the girls with you to your mother's until she is able to travel.
I know she's not on painkillers. She said her doctor has wanted her to replace both knees for years.
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12 hours ago, katilac said:
Does your mom realize that January is a week after Christmas Eve, lol? If that's her busiest time at work, then Christmas Eve is a very poor time to schedule this surgery. Most patients can resume normal activities within 6 weeks, which puts her PAST January. People with very sedentary jobs may be able to return in 2-3 weeks, but that's still well into January. Driving is generally three to six weeks, which is mid-January at best and quite possibly past January. This is with no complications, just standard recovery times. Returning to work too soon can cause increased pain and additional complications, which of course leads to needing more time off.
OP, how overweight is your mom? I ask because it can be quite a job to help any person recover from surgery and all the more so if they are overweight or obese. And of course your physical condition matters as well; a stronger person will have an easier time. What you do not want is for both of you to go tumbling to the ground. If she can do rehab for a week or so and get a feel for what she is capable of, I would definitely do that. The hospital will send her home ASAP if they know someone is waiting. One of my relatives had a hard time recovering and needed a bedpan at first and help walking; this was not easy (physically) for her carer to provide.
I would make letting the doctors and rehab people give you information directly a condition of helping her.
The timing surprised me, not only because of Christmas Eve, but because January is so busy for her.
She's about 20 pounds overweight. Her physical condition isn't too bad.
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5 minutes ago, Margaret in CO said:
I so hope this has worked out. You are not being unreasonable, not in any way.
My mil pulled this several times--going on "Hospice" just at the holidays. Nope, not dying, but once again addicted to pain pills. I declined several times to help as I had scheduled c-sections.
Ok, I think you've got me beat. She's never asked me to reschedule giving birth. 😂
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1 minute ago, HeighHo said:
Have you seen what the recovery from this surgery is like? Its not fair to put that on a child who hasn't volunteered in the nursing home or done elder care.
No. My only experience with knee surgery is for a torn meniscus. After reading all of these comments, I'm feeling much better by refusing to send a 17 yo. I think her reasoning was, the 17 yo has fewer responsibilities and would be more available.
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She is supposed to contact her doctor's office and ask if she can fly after the surgery, if she needs a continuous motion machine, and when pt will start. Hopefully, I will hear from her soon and I'll talk to her about a rehabilitation center and me staying for 4-5 days after the surgery or rescheduling for July and I could stay longer.
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2 hours ago, City Mouse said:
do you think this was planned so that she has family with her for Christmas?
I don't think so. She often flies here for Christmas.
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1 hour ago, G5052 said:
My husband and host of friends have had knee replacement. Not one would have been ready to travel three days later. The advice they gave at the hospital when we went to the required seminar before the surgery was to completely block out EVERYTHING for three weeks and to stay home. You are supposed to carefully move around afterwards and to keep the knee up with ice as much as possible. No way can you do that on a plane.
My daughter had surgery for a torn meniscus, so that's my only experience with knee surgeries. How soon after the surgery does pt typically start? Dd was on a continuous motion machine for at least a week before she started pt, so I was envisioning something like that.
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1 minute ago, marbel said:
Who the heck gets surgery for anything other than an emergency on Christmas Eve? I'm surprised the doctor/hospital would even schedule it.
That's exactly what I thought. Who does this?
My mom is very passive aggressive but I'm the only living child and her sister passed away. She has friends who could help her who live nearby, but I'm going to look into rehab places near her.
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Thanks, I do feel better now. I was feeling like such a horrible daughter for not wanting to go. The dd she wants to fly there is a senior in high school and I'm really not comfortable with her driving in a strange city, especially in such a big car.
I didn't even think about complications following the surgery or if grandmother fell. That would definitely freak dd out. I'm not even considering send one of the girls. If anybody goes, it will be me.
I didn't know how likely to would be that she would be able to fly 3 days after the surgery. I'm sure she will have pt afterwards, but I can take her to that here.
I would be really sad if I have to miss two weeks with the girls home from college though.
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My mother lives 13 hours away. She called 3 days ago telling me she is having knee replacement surgery on Dec. 24. She wants my youngest to fly to her house to help her and care for her dogs and cats for 2 weeks over Christmas break. Youngest has only had a driver's licence for a few months and has never driven anything as big as her grandmother's SUV. My older dds will be home from college during this time, so she wouldn't be able to see them as much.
I will probably end up driving there and staying with her for a couple of weeks. But, then I won't be able to see my oldest two as much.
She can stay in the hospital for 3 days after the surgery. I suggested she fly here after the surgery. Then she could spend time with everybody and I would get to see my children.
She could have the surgery in July, but decided on Christmas eve. I knew none of this before last Friday.
She still works and December and July are her least busy times of the year. January is her busiest time. I guess she plans to go back as soon as she is able.
I really wish she had coordinated this with me before hand. Is that unreasonable?
She has to have the other knee replaced at some point. Hopefully, I will have more notice with that one.
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My birthday is Dec. 25th. I would have wanted the big one on my birthday, since I rarely got a birthday present. But, I would ask her which she would prefer.
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I can't wear glasses at night, even with the anti-glare coating. Contacts work much better for me.
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A scary time for sure.?
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The instructor should remove any equipment that doesn't have a person using it before the class starts.
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I expect the same level of rigor as a college level class.
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6 minutes ago, EmseB said:
That's pretty much not what I said, at all. I think you're either deliberately misreading what I'm saying or we're talking past each other. I made several points in my posts and this wasnt one of them, nor does it reflect my thoughts on the matter.
I must not be understanding you then. If you don't want to do anything else while nursing, fine. Don't. But that doesn't mean other women can't or shouldn't be able to do so.
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16 minutes ago, Lady Florida. said:
We're apparently more fragile because we're constantly being told things that work in other countries, including other western countries, just won't work here.
I think this is a wonderful thing and I wish it wasn't limited to Congress. It would be great to see more employers making something like this possible. No, it isn't going to work in every single type of job, but it can work it many different kinds of employee settings.
When I was teaching my classroom was one of the few that had an in-classroom office and the office had blinds allowing privacy. There was a young teacher who was also a new mom. She brought her baby to the child care nursery (this wasn't the one for teen mothers but a course for teens who wanted to go into some kind of child care field. If approved, you paid a very small fee and your child/baby could attend). She would go and nurse (in the child care classroom) during her planning periods and lunch break. Later, she put the baby in private care and then used my office to pump during her breaks. We should be encouraging situations like that and like Sen. Duckworth's, not finding reasons why it can't work or shouldn't be allowed.
Exactly. Why can't we improve working conditions for women? Flexibility doesn't have to mean a less productive workplace.
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Just to be clear, I do draw the line at nursing the baby while flying a helicopter. Even during peace time.
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12 minutes ago, EmseB said:
Taking the baby out of the equation, why is the assumption that someone trying to do two things at one time is just as competent as if they were devoting their full attention to one thing?
I'm sure women can nurse or tend a baby and do other things at the same time because I've done it. It's pretty much a logical and physical reality, though, that one can't be just as competent doing both as if they were devoting their full attention to one thing.
I'm actually sort of tired of this idea that women are supposed to be able to be superhuman and care for a baby while doing almost anything and everything else, both at 100%. I find it demanding and exhausting, not empowering or liberating.
Nursing a baby isn't intellectually demanding. A woman can nurse a baby and think at the same time. The woman flew a helicopter during a war. You're telling me she can't nurse a baby while performing her Senate duties?
Again, realistically speaking, the baby probably will not be on the Senate floor for significant amounts of time. But during those times, I'm sure she can nurse and think.
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1 hour ago, vonfirmath said:
You do realize that some of the ways they manage are not tolerated in America, right?
Children leaving school to stay home and care for younger siblings.
Leaving little kids in the hands of older siblings, cousins (and not necessarily teenagers. Kids that we consider too young to stay home alone)
There may be some "Babies strapped to the mom" work going on. But there's a lot more toddlers left in the hands of slightly older siblings to care for. I write to a 6 year old in rural Uganda. In a recent letter, she let me know her 7 year old (Maybe just turned 8. She was age 7 on April 12 of last year and this was written Feb 10 this year.) sister does most of the cooking for the family.
I don't think having a newborn in the Senate is in any way equivalent to a toddler cared for by a 6 year old.
I really doubt her baby will spend significant amounts of time on the Senate floor.. When the baby is present, I'm sure the Senator is just as competent as she was before.
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32 minutes ago, FuzzyCatz said:
Well, I don't think the decision should be made based on what other people think she can and cannot do. Which is more based on what individuals think THEY cannot do. In many 3rd world countries, the mothers work all day with babies strapped to them in the fields or in the markets. You get used to what you do regularly. She may do just fine with it. At a minimum I trust a mother to find some sort of balance that works for her and her baby and the job at hand without slapping a lot of rules or regulations on it or trying to micromanage how she interacts with a nursing newborn.
No kidding. Women all over the world manage. I'm sure American women are just as capable.
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It's ok for adults to have temper tantrums on the Senate floor, but not babies.
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Well, we work all problems to correctness, so I would definitely do that. I would also give her some more practice problems on those topics and move on if she does reasonably well on those.
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High School diploma ?
in High School and Self-Education Board
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I found a printable high school diploma online. At the bottom, there is a seal and a blank line on each side. Do I type my name on one side and sign the other? Two separate people sign? Does it really matter?
Thanks,
Karen