REI is having a 20% off sale (1 item only) from Nov 10 - Nov 20. I checked their website and they do have that particular tent.

Most definitely. I'm sharing my experience. It might help OP understand DIL's behavior. It might not. But at least I've offered my perspective.

I think it's a very important variable of this equation.

I didn't re-read this thread before making my post. But I'm pretty sure it was suggested by several people to talk to DIL about her facebook postings. To her, that will sound like a lecture. Coming from experience, DIL's relationship with her inlaws will definitely be impacted by the relationship with her DH/OP's DS. Perhaps my experience is not-the-norm, but I suspect that it is.

3 of the 4 people I know who got the J&J had side effects. They were different for each person, but lasting about 24 hours. Side effects ranged from severe headache, muscle aches, to a difficult to describe horribleness. Also, 1 got Covid within 1 month of the vaccine, and 1 got Covid within 3 months of the vaccine. eta: Give the time-frame, presumably Delta. Both fairly light cases. No medical intervention required.

Immediately.

I started reading this thread feeling like most, that DS and DIL were selfish and entitled. When the bit about DS's gaming came up, I changed my mind. I think DIL is incredibly stressed and frustrated with her H. She does need help. It should be coming from DS. I'd guess that OP's DS promised his wife that his family would provide the level of support that her family had provided. OP cannot (and should not) do that. OP, I think that your best strategy is to give DIL as much love, compassion, and (non-physical) support as possible. She needs it as your DS seems to have other priorities. I would not lecture her about social media or anything else. She is going through enough right now. A career, a sick baby, and lack of support. Lecturing her about anything will not go well for you. Moms generally do control the availability of their children to extended family. Plus, given everything on her plate, it's just not the kind thing to do. People DIE from seizures. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but from the information given on this thread DS is the one who most needs to change his attitude. Coming from me, who also had a husband who was more interested in his me time rather than helping with the youngsters... which greatly contributed to the strained relationship with my in-laws... which led to them not seeing the grands much.

I pm'd you.

Please Don't Quote... In my family, yes, there is one who I hate. Growing up, she treated my daughter horribly. My daughter passed away and now her cousin will never be able to make amends. My daughter was high functioning and this same-age, same-town cousin did everything to prevent her from being included socially... even at family-only functions. Please Don't Quote... I understand that kids can go through very selfish stages (though her "stage" never ended) and are often just trying to fit in themselves. I do think this cousin maybe would have, as an adult, treated my daughter with kindness and support. But we will never know. I *hate* the idea of hating someone for what they did as a child (through age 18, when dd passed away), but I just don't think I will ever get over it. ... Please Don't Quote

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We did not use 529's because we like to invest in other areas like real estate. Then it turned out that our son received merit scholarships/stipends/fellowships that covered most of his education expenses, BS through PhD. If I was to set one up though, I would take into account Clark Howard's advice as to which state to use (which is NOT necessarily the state you live in): https://clark.com/education/clarks-529-plan-guide/

Also, there is no longer a 1040EZ or 1040A. Everything goes on the newly designed 1040.

NO. He does not have to file. I worked as a tax preparer this season... Filing Requirements for Dependent Children: If unearned income is over $1,050. If earned income is over $12,000. If gross income is more than the larger of: a. $1,050 or b. earned income (up to $11,650) plus $350.... so max $12,000

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Hmm. I can't deny that this may be true some of the time. But I don't personally see it. Maybe because I am from a 50/50 community (white/Hispanic). Sometimes I see advantages for whites, but just as often I see advantages for Hispanics. The vast majority of the time it does not matter. Whether in the workplace or community leaders, you see a pretty even split of racial backgrounds. In the case of Young Man, his skin tone is darker than most whites, but I doubt anyone would look at him and think that he's Mexican.

I included both scenarios because while I understand that East Asians don't qualify for affirmative action, it seems very arbitrary to me that both men were adopted into very similar SES white families and raised as such. And, the part-Mexican young man was actually raised in a community full of people with similar racial heritage, while the part-Korean was not. Just very arbitrary to me.

Yes, Young Man (1) is the one who will claim racial diversity when it is advantageous to him. I very much agree that the most disadvantaged are from lower socioeconomic backgrounds. This does not fit Young Man at all.

Yes, I can see benefits of company's bringing in different backgrounds and perspectives. But, I see more of what Janeway is describing, at least in my scenario. The young man wants to work at a place that receives significant funding from the government so they are required to hire a certain number of diverse candidates and leave the qualifications as wide open as possible.

Thanks for the perspectives.

We got a similar message during the polar vortex. I did nothing. The package was delivered the next day when the weather was much better.

Yes! We just started watching Corner Gas (Amazon Prime) a couple weeks ago. Love it. Clean, dorky, fun. Neither dh nor I care for the actress who plays the mom, but everything else is great. Other great Canadian finds - Schitt's Creek and Kim's Convenience (clean). Both on Netflix. Schitt's Creek is also on Hulu, including current season. Oh, and Orphan Black. Not a comedy like the others, but WOW. Canadians, what other great shows are you all hiding from us?

Thanks for everyone's input.

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He should definitely try to take anything taught by Dr. English!

I know, right! UA reduced theirs, so it is certainly possible UAH will too. Here's hoping they don't!