My parents use to constantly tell me that my oldest son was fine and that I just spoiled him. They are both special ed teachers, which was really frustrating because they always acted like they knew better. Then my oldest was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome, they suddenly hushed up and starting back peddling. They felt really bad because they didn't recognize his learning problems as being caused by a disability. They just wanted to try to justify the fact that they disagreed with us homeschooling. Now, thankfully, they see how well he has done, we just graduated him :)