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  1. We bought this one for dd a couple of months ago (it was only $70 then though). She absolutely loves it. It's not warm at all (she uses another warm blanket with it), so she thinks it will be fine for summer as well. We will probably end up buying a cover for it since there's no way I'm washing the thing. In the meantime she just puts the blanket on top of her sheet so that it doesn't get dirty.
  2. I think it's really hard to tell. It's helpful if there are quite a few detailed ratings. We've found it to be the least helpful for science & for upper level math courses b/c the student's perception of whether or not the professor is "good" is often dependent upon whether or not the student is naturally gifted in the subject. My kid has also found that some highly rated profs are actually just easy--doesn't really matter if it's some throw away gen ed class, but problematic if the course is foundational to one's major.
  3. No, it's free shipping in the US for orders over $20 I think. The problem is whether or not they'll actually get elderberries back in stock before spring. You might check locally at herb & spice stores, food co-ops, etc. Even if they don't have elderberries in stock, they might be able to order from Frontier & get a better price than Amazon.
  4. iherb is out of stock, but Frontier elderberries are listed at $12-16/#. You can sign up to be notified when they're back in stock, but sometimes it takes a very long time to re-stock, and then they run out right away.
  5. I was just getting ready to say Yoga with Adriene when I saw the other responses. At one point that was all I was doing for exercise & I thought it was just making me more flexible, but when I went hiking up bluffs it turned out that the yoga had actually given me endurance as well!
  6. There's also a Chik-fil-a and a Red Robin. (Chik-fil-a is furthest from the Drury & it's less than a mile away.)
  7. This. Ugh. I cannot believe we were dumb enough to buy a house here. I grew up here. I should have known better. ? I have a relative who lived in NW Arkansas & loved it so much. They're really big city people, but felt like there were enough cultural things with Fayetteville nearby. The houses are so inexpensive there & they have great parks, trails, etc. They only left because of a job situation.
  8. More info re: losing the church here. *Heavy* Christian content. "The reason I lost my church was not specifically because I spoke up. It was because we were advocating for other victims of sexual assault within the evangelical community...When I did come forward as an abuse victim, this part of my past was wielded like a weapon by some of the elders to further discredit my concern...my status as a victim was used against my advocacy." "We have failed abhorrently as Christians when it comes to that test. We are very happy to use sexual assault as a convenient whipping block when it’s outside our community. When the Penn State scandal broke, prominent evangelical leaders were very, very quick to call for accountability, to call for change. But when it was within our own community, the immediate response was to vilify the victims or to say things that were at times blatantly and demonstratively untrue about the organization and the leader of the organization. There was a complete refusal to engage with the evidence. It did not even matter. The ultimate reality that I live with is that if my abuser had been Nathaniel Morales instead of Larry Nassar, if my enabler had been [an SGM pastor] instead of [MSU gymnastics coach] Kathie Klages, if the organization I was speaking out against was Sovereign Grace under the leadership of [Mahaney] instead of MSU under the leadership of Lou Anna Simon, I would not only not have evangelical support, I would be actively vilified and lied about by every single evangelical leader out there. "
  9. Yep. And it becomes even more obvious when you realize that the first reactions to hearing these accusations were suggesting that the women were "ambulance chasers" or "making up a story to get money." Apparently they only see the world through the lens of their own greed?
  10. So then have restrictive parent behavior policies and enforce those even up to banning those specific parents, or do like sk8ermaiden said above & have 2 way mirrors or closed circuit tvs. Banning all the parents because some parents are dreadful is not ok.
  11. That's true, but there are women who are complicit too. The uni president was a women, the gymnastics coach who discouraged reporting Nassar was a women, two of the three lawyers defending Nassar in part by being hateful to his accusers were women, several of the trainers who blew off the women's/girls' stories were women, not to mention Marta Karolyi's special brand of awful. I do get what you're saying, and I'm not denying that the boys club atmosphere at the top is a problem, but there are plenty of horrible women as well.
  12. This I cannot comprehend. For pity's sake, the doors in our church's children's program are open (with gates for toddlers and younger) the whole time kids are in the rooms. Which, frankly, is a pitb as a caregiver because every time someone walks by a kid flips out b/c s/he thinks a parent should be coming, BUT as a parent I thought it was great. I'm sure there are sports parents who are the equivalent of stage parents and don't care what happens as long as the kids "makes it", but I'm guessing that maybe most parents are also groomed? I'm trying to come up with a reasonable, charitable explanation for why you would allow your kid in a program which doesn't allow any parent supervision.
  13. Including MSU's according to the ESPN report from the other day. I think the only way to hit these schools is financially--alumni and donors have got to STOP giving $ to universities until they are willing to actually care for their students because $ raised seem to be all that matters. The comments by the one MSU trustee (Ferguson?) were horrifying. He said they'd never get rid of Simon--look at the basketball arena she built, that those filing charges were "ambulance chasers", and that the board had more important things to discuss than "this Nassar thing." He also laughed when asked if the NCAA would investigate because "This isn't Penn State"--iow this doesn't involve football so why would they care? If these are the people in charge than there's no way anything can change.
  14. USAG making forced changes: https://www.indystar.com/story/news/2018/01/28/whats-next-usa-gymnastics-long-tough-road-best/1064156001/ Nancy Hogshead-Makar, a three-time Olympic gold medalist and prominent advocate for women’s sports, is skeptical of Blackmun [uSOC CEO] getting tough on USA Gymnastics. “My take on Scott Blackmun coming down suddenly is a move to cover his own past inaction,†she said. “He’s finally doing something. But is that actually going to protect children?†The USOC didn’t exert pressure until it felt pressure of its own, just as it had in early 2017 when it called for Penny's resignation as the Nassar story gained attention. When IndyStar first reported in 2016 about USA Gymnastics' handling of sexual abuse complaints, the USOC had said there was no need to investigate.
  15. Someone asked her husband about this on twitter. Of course I can't find his comment now, so here's my best recollection. He said advocating for another survivor was what caused them to lose their church/friends, but that it happened at about the same time as when she began speaking publicly about her own abuse. He said it was complicated. I'm *not* suggesting that losing the church/friends is ok, just that it may not have been directly related to MSU or USAG.
  16. I'm also pretty sure that Twistars at least wouldn't accept doctor's notes to be excused from practice except from Nassar. I don't know where I saw that though, so I can't give a link. edit: added an "also" since it may have sounded like I was disagreeing instead of adding add'l info.
  17. Mattie Larson said something like this when she was speaking on 20/20. That yes the "treatments" were uncomfortable & unpleasant, but that she was used to gymnastics requiring a huge deal of pain and discomfort, so she just went with it. She also purposely injured herself in order to be able to leave Karolyi Ranch and ended up quitting gymnastics a year before the Olympics.
  18. On a twitter thread I was reading, some guy said something like he wished Nassar would receive what he'd dealt out and a woman who was a survivor of child rape reponded to him. She said that while she got what he meant, and understood that he was trying to be supportive of the women, she always cringes when she hears someone say that because it implies that rape can be deserved. He replied with an apology which she accepted. It was probably the kindest twitter exchange between strangers who initialIy disagreed with one another that I've ever seen.
  19. I know the conversation has moved on from a specific discussion to a more general one, but 20/20's episode last night was on the Nassar case and included several of those who gave victim impact statements. Much of what was said can be read elsewhere, but I think it's powerful to hear the words said aloud. I watched on hulu, but you should be able to watch it in a week on abc.com (unless your cable provider is listed--then you can watch now.)
  20. An independent investigation into MSU. Finally: https://www.indystar.com/story/news/nation-now/2018/01/27/special-prosecutor-probe-systemic-issues-sexual-misconduct-michigan-state/1072105001/ Another article about Rachael Denhollander and what it took for her to start the avalanche that took down Nassar: https://www.bostonglobe.com/sports/2018/01/27/rachael-denhollander-was-loudest-bravest-voice-against-larry-nassar/6eNEjp9C3aAKVO2VUqTutO/story.html "It introduced the world to that empowered female army, whose members took the stand day after day after day to bring down Nassar, who finally made the world hear what officials for 20-plus years ignored, obfuscated, and ridiculed, thus allowing Nassar to continue unchecked." "But it is a societal story too, because of the systematic dismissal of so many claims of abuse, because so many girls and young women were ignored, assumed they were at fault for being too sensitive or too suspicious. It’s a lesson to all of us in the dangers of selective outrage, forcing us to analyze why the Jerry Sandusky abuse case at Penn State drew immediate attention in a way this case never did, why it is so easy to dismiss girls, exploiting their vulnerabilities and silencing their voices."
  21. My kid is NOT a pleaser at.all. And that was so so so embarrassing when she was little, but letting her be "rude" and not forcing her to be "nice" has had a huge payoff as she's gotten older. She's starting to sand off some of the rough edges on her own now, but she still has zero issues with confrontation, and I really appreciate and celebrate that about her.
  22. It would be helpful if every school were required to report any accusations of criminal behavior to the local or state police AND if universities and other organizations had to have independent investigators scrutinize their programs' responses to reports of assault. This whole "oh, we can police our own" is just garbage. As far as I can tell, people in charge care about $$$ and power and will actively suppress anything or anyone that threatens either.
  23. This was different though. Thomashow's claims were investigated, and this is the conclusion that the INVESTIGATORS came to. I can see how the girls just thought that whatever he did was appropriate medical treatment since he was lauded as an "expert", but I have no idea how the medical people decided this. Although if IIRC, Nassar was allowed to pick the docs who helped "investigate"
  24. 8 times Larry Nassar could have been stopped: https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/amp/gymnastics-scandal-8-times-larry-nassar-could-have-been-stopped-n841091?__twitter_impression=true 1997: Kathy Klages (MSU gymnastics coach) was told 1999: Running coach (MSU) was told 2000: Trainers (MSU) were told 2000-2001: Trainer (MSU) was told 2001: Psychologist (MSU) was told 2014: Amanda Thomashow told MSU officials. They investigated and found that she didn't understand the difference between treatment and assault. I posted an article from the LSJ earlier in this thread that quoted the conclusion of the report she received from MSU vs. the conclusion of the report circulated internally. 2015: USAG was told And these are just the times listed in the article linked above.
  25. This article is a couple of days old,so it may have already been posted.USAG's culpability is chilling. I tried to find a representative pull quote,but would have ended up quoting the whole thing: https://www.washingtonpost.com/amphtml/sports/olympics/usa-gymnastics-allowed-larry-nassar-to-prey-upon-innocent-victims-congress-must-investigate/2018/01/24/0ff7a7c4-0129-11e8-8acf-ad2991367d9d_story.html?
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