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  1. I wouldn't hold my breath for that ruling to hold up on appeal, in light of recent Supreme Court rulings that hold up arbitration as acceptable in other contracts of adhesion under the Arbitration Act.
  2. Given all you posted, I'm going to throw a grain of salt into any assumption that how you acted when you were young and not a parent has much bearing on how you conduct yourself now. People do grow up. But, what you said about driving while fatigued, etc., does suggest that having a safety plan on extended outings with the kids would be a good move. But, see my previous post about cell phone and radio. Adding a firearm to the mix would not be helpful in any way. I also feel like I live in a completely different world when people come up with stuff about it not being appropriate for a mother with her kids to go on the same campout with a married couple and their kids. But, jealousy is a foreign concept to me that I've always found baffling and irrational. Likewise the idea that a heterosexual person can't have platonic friends of the opposite sex.
  3. Going to add a vote for the awesomeness of Fortunately, The Milk by Neil Gaiman. On this rec I got it from Audible for DS, and we listened to it, and then the next night he listened to it again. Big hit!
  4. Some people just naturally have circadian rhythms that run to being "night owls" and no amount of forced rescheduling will change it. It does sound like your son gets enough sleep, just not on a convenient schedule. This type of cycle is more common in adolescents and young adults, from what I have read, but I know people who have struggled with the expectation that they be awake when their body is screaming "sleep time" their entire lives, or at least since puberty and they are mature adults. I agree with some other posters that how to cope with it is something your son needs to research and learn for himself. Behavioral adaptation in order to meet his own goals is more likely to be successful than something imposed from outside. It's nice when one can find a niche or adapt one's life to one's natural rhythm's, but when that isn't practical, he needs to find ways to cope. It could mean going without sleep when necessary on some weekdays and catching up on weekends or other days (ex: if he HAS to have an early morning class, he might be better off only having such a class Tu/Th and being able to sleep in on W/F to catch up).
  5. There is alcohol in some OTC meds. Nyquil, for instance. One of the issues that may be informing the end result here is that the natural plant and the chemical substance of most concern (THC) have been treated as all one thing for decades, while for other plant-derived substances which have entered pharmaceutical use, often they are divorced and the compound in the plant found to be pharmaceutically useful substance often synthetically produced. For example: Asprin was originally derived from willow bark, and aspirin is regulated by the FDA as a pharmaceutical substance, but willow trees, willow bark, and even willow bark tea are not.
  6. The statements I've seen from his lawyers (given to AP; example of how they're quoted here: https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2019/01/17/jayme-closs-case-patterson-lawyers-motive-killings-kidnapping/2601592002/ ) were all very appropriate. I suspect what stephanier.1765 may have seen is some random defense attorney the network consulted who isn't actually representing Patterson.
  7. Yesterday, I cleared all the clutter off the top of one of the filing cabinets in my office at work. Things have been slow here... My goals for this weekend: 1. Get the Craft Room at least halfway picked up. Right now, it's a disaster. Boxes of stuff thrown up there when cleaning other parts of the house, months of clutter from DD not cleaning up after herself properly when doing craft projects... and so on. 2. Spend at least an hour working on DS's room. It is so far beyond him even knowing where to start on his own, I want to get it into order and then start working with him on keeping it that way. I'm hoping if I can declutter and organize things he will like the space more and actually remember he has toys.
  8. If I read the same thing with DS repeatedly, even though it's short, can it count? In particular, we listened to Fortunately, the Milk twice last weekend. Once at my suggestion (he was reluctant), and then he asked for it the next night!
  9. My overall reading goals are to take in a mix of fiction and nonfiction, spiritually enriching, informative, and fun selections; to keep up with the Druid book discussion/study group I'm in, to put eyes on words not related directly to work more often than last year, and to read books that I bought ages ago and still haven't read. My currently reading list: The Stand (unabridged) by Stephen King (on audiobook; it's over 48 hours long, so this will definitely take me more than a week, as I listen to audiobooks on my commute and when driving for work, about 6-10 hours a week). Update: I'm now on Chapter 45, 35 hours, 34 minutes to go to finish it! The Táin translated by Ciaran Carson (have to read this one on paper, it's not available on audiobook, more's the pity since I'd like to hear the Irish names and such pronounced correctly!) Update: I've read the introduction/foreward etc. and the first chapter. This fits the Something Old challenge! Odin: Ecstasy, Runes & Norse Magic by Diana L. Paxson (this is one of those "bought ages ago and still haven't read" books) Kindle says I have read 21% of the book. The Stone Sky by N.K. Jemisin (third book in the Broken Earth series) I'm 8:07 in, with 6:11 left on audiobook. American Like Me by America Ferrera. I checked this one out for a car ride with a co-worker. 2:56 read with 6:36 left. I'm going to finish it as soon as I'm done with The Stone Sky and before I go back to The Stand. Books I've read for the 52 books in 52 weeks challenge this year: The Sky-Blue Wolves by S. M. Stirling Next Up: Akata Warrior by Nnedi Okorafor (I checked it out from the library on e-book, haven't started it yet). My 10x10 challenge categories: 1. humor 2. science (nonfiction) 3. fantasy & science fiction by new-to-me authors 4. LGBT 5. classic fiction 6. folklore (The Táin will satisfy this) 7. religion (nonfiction) (Odin: Ecstasy, Runes & Norse Magic by Diana L. Paxson will satisfy this) 8. law (nonfiction) 9. modern fiction in translation (i.e., originally published in a language other than English) 10. books by women of color (Stone Sky and Akata Warrior will both work for this) The books must of course all be separate selections, though they may fit into more than one category, they cannot be used for more than one, so that I read 10 books for it.
  10. Since we were on medicaid when DD's problems started, we didn't get much say in who her therapist was. We were referred to a mental health provider that works with medicaid in our state, and assigned to someone. In our case, she was good, and we were fortunate that I got employer insurance in time to follow her when she left the agency she'd worked for and went private. DD trusts her, has a good rapport with her, and she has been very helpful.
  11. Which lawyer was this? All I've found are a few quotes from his public defenders, and no such statement like that.
  12. Using a spell checker doesn't mean he didn't write the article himself. It mentioned his emotional intelligence is also very high. I find it baffling that the primary reactions to this article are to bash his parents. Good grief.
  13. These work by one person sending the other a text or message with a location tag included. My DD knows she is expected to keep us informed of where she is going. Another thing you can do is turn on the timeline feature on Google Maps. It gives Maps permission to keep track of your location, so that you can go in and look at the history of where the phone (and therefore, presumably, the person it belongs to) has been. It also gives you your live location if you look at "now." All you need for that is to have timeline turned on in your DD's Maps app, and access to her Google account on a computer at home. No separate app required.
  14. To take a different tack: You might look through the Andre Norton Award for Young Adult Science Fiction and Fantasy winners and nominees: https://nebulas.sfwa.org/search-awards/?sa=1&award[12]=on&statusfilter=both&start_year=1965&end_year=2019&search=
  15. Forgot about that part. I wouldn't have defined it as "graphic." I mean, thinking back, there is talk about having sex, but it's not there as an erotic scene, which is what I think of as "explicit sexual content." It's just a brief mention in the course of explaining how the characters' relationships develop. Different peoples' bar is in different places. And I did warn that there's a lot of violence! I think science fiction is an excellent way to process concepts like dehumanization of other people, slavery, etc., it puts it at a "safe" remove from things that have happened in the real world. It's also a great way to provoke thinking about things like consent. Referencing the Pern books, most of the nonconsensual sex mentioned is in the context of the dragons (who are telepathically linked to their riders) mating, and how that affects both the riders and those around them. It's imposed on the humans from outside themselves, and finding ways to cope with it is part of what forms the culture of the weyrs (the homes of the dragon riders and their families and support staff), especially aspects of it that are distinct from those of the holders (the the non-dragon-riding majority of people on Pern). Based on the OP's signature, I have been using the bar of "if my 15 year old was interested in science fiction, would I think these were appropriate for her to read?" plus "the OP said no sex, so if there are scenes that read like erotica, that's a no-go."
  16. Nor Crystal Tears by Alan Dean Foster is fantastic. No explicit sexual content, either.
  17. We don't actually have a kitchen table. The "dining area" in our townhouse has DH's and GF's computers on desks along one wall, and the kids (and me when I decide to eat in there and everyone is there at once so no one else's spot is free) sit at folding chairs in front of TV trays behind DH's and GF's chairs to eat. The kitchen tables we used to have live on the patio and have gotten very weather-beaten, but still get covered and used for big get-togethers. One is about ready for the dumpster, though (one leg is splitting vertically and it's gotten quite wobbly). If we had bulk pick up here, we'd have gotten rid of it by now.
  18. Yes, forensic interviews are usually done by experts in a clinical setting. They still may have asked her for a general statement about what happened, and would have listened to/recorded/taken notes as appropriate in the jurisdiction, on any information she volunteered.
  19. From a safety standpoint, a well-charged cell phone and a GMRS radio & license would probably be much more useful than a firearm or even pepper spray.
  20. We usually just use Glympse added to a text, or FB Messenger now lets you share location.
  21. The news article indicated that she had given a statement already.
  22. The defendant's attorneys are playing it pretty close to the cuff at this point. Other than a statement that he is reacting emotionally in a normal way, which I'd guess is probably calculated to discourage the public (and possible future jurors) viewing him as an emotionless sociopath, they have said nothing, so we really don't know much about what he was thinking. He apparently made some kind of statement to police, though.
  23. Some other possibilities: she could train to be an emergency dispatcher (related to her previous goal of EMT). It sounds like she really wanted a more physically active career and that's foreclosed now? As far as researching private cosmetology schools in your area, I would start with researching the local industry. Have her work up an inquiry interview for managers of local salons and barber shops, discount, mid-range, and high-end, as well as a few niche-market possibilities such as retirement homes, resorts, and hospitals that may have in-house cosmetologists for patients/residents. She should ask what starting pay is at their establishment, what experience they look for in new hires, whether they hire straight out of cosmetology school, and if so, if there are any in the area they prefer hiring graduates from, where they were trained themselves, and any they particularly would recommend avoiding based on what they have seen in their own and their employees' experiences, and if there are any particular certifications they look for (ex: in my state, barber licenses are much less common than cosmetology licenses, and a fully-trained barber who can do straight razor shaves can command a higher salary, but there is also extra training involved).
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