That is why we told everyone dd1 was going to be named Shaniqua. We said we hadn't decided on spelling yet, so don't get anything embroidered yet.
They got no input. I made that decision after mentioning our top 5 to co-workers and hearing feedback. I just didn't want it.
They never even asked with dd2.
I would not choose their name for sure if I didn't love it. And even if I did, I might not after being asked.