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  1. If she is completing 6th grade wouldn't she have already taken the placement test for 7th, or be taking it before the end of the school year?  Do they take it over the summer? I'm confused.

     

    At this school they give it the first week of 7th grade, so what she learns over the summer will affect how she does on the test. I know, it's kind of different.

  2. My oldest is in public school this year, and will continue in ps next year. She is finishing 6th grade, and wants to learn pre-algebra over the summer so when she takes the 7th grade placement test she'll go right into algebra. Her math teacher suggested this as she is at the top of her class. We've gone through all the Singapore elementary books, and they are a great fit for her (which is one reason why I think she's so far ahead of most of her public school peers).

     

    If I was homeschooling her next year I'd use AoPS, but I think it would be too much for just a summer course. What is your favorite solid, but not too rigorous (so it can be finished in just a few months of hard work) pre-algebra program? Is there something very similar to Singapore?

     

    Thanks!

  3. Aren’t ears and brains fascinating? Sometimes our brain will detect a sound wave, but not quite have all the information, so it will fill in the blanks with what it already knows and we will hear something that isn’t there.

     

    For example, once I was sitting in my room and I distinctly heard squirrels in the attic. I had had squirrels in a previous house so I knew exactly what it sounded like. I could follow their movement across the ceiling. But we lived in an area without squirrels when I heard it this time. I figured it must be some other critter up there, maybe bats. We checked the attic and there was no sign. I heard it again another day and KNEW we must have some infestation. But a little later I noticed a cable cord chewed up by the puppy outside the room where I kept hearing squirrels. The next time I heard the noise I could tell it was really the sound of the puppy chewing up the cord, and the cord jiggling in the walls. After another time of hearing it, it sounded barley like critters, and I wondered how I had ever mistaken the sound.

     

    Our brains make mistakes with sound all the time. Here is a cool video that explains it a bit. (I love Vi Hart videos, so I couldn’t resist posting).

     

    So for the OP, and all you others with unexplainable experiences, I second the advice to investigate!

     

    You could find out (most likely) that it was caused by something completely different and your brain interpreted it the only way it knew how from the experience it had.

     

    You could find out that you need to call the police about intruders (less likely, but still possible, and something very necessary if this is the problem).

     

    Or if you manage to prove paranormal existence, I bet these folks would give you a million dollars, so it’s totally worth conquering your fears to find out. (It looks like the rules for the Million Dollar Challenge recently changed, but it's still worth a shot.)

     

    So there is every reason to figure out what the sound is. And no reason (except possible entertainment value if you like a mystery) to not find out.

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  4. I've heard of Yowie eggs, but I've never seen them. 

     

    I can easily get Kinder Eggs because I live on the Canadian border. We eat them before we cross back. I know other people who sneak them across.

     

    It's sort of the principle of the thing. In my mind there is really no good reason to ban them here, and any resources dedicated to the enforcement of this law are resources wasted.

     

    But mainly, I don't want to give my address to a website I'm not sure about, and would like to know if anyone here is familiar with it.

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  5. I just saw a post from a friend on Facebook asking to sign a petition from change.org.

     

    I can fully get behind the cause - to remove the ban on Kinder Surprise Eggs in the USA.

     

    But I don't know if change.org is legit. I hesitate to give my address to an unfamiliar website. A google search came up with mixed opinions. I thought I'd ask here.

     

     

     

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    What church? That can make a big difference. If they belong to one of the mainline Protestant churches that supports gay rights, that's one thing. If they're Southern Baptist or LDS, that's another.

     

    Kids get beaten and kicked out of their homes, or subjected to ineffective and emotionally abusive brainwashing schemes, or grounded into social isolation...by parents who are otherwise good parents but who because of their beliefs cannot or will not handle a GLBT kid in a supportive and compassionate way.

     

    It's less likely than it used to be, but still a very real risk. Having been one of those kids, that's what I think about first. How I would feel in the mom's shoes is secondary.

     

    Just putting this out there - the family's specific religion isn't necessarily an indicator of how they would react. For instance, I'm LDS, and if one of my children came out I would absolutely show them love and compassion and help them through their hurt and vulnerability, rather than causing more. Some religious parents would be abusive, but many would not. And some non-religious parents would be abusive while many would not. I understand the thinking behind using caution with members of specific churches, but I respectfully don't think it's an accurate litmus test.

     

    Ravin, I am truly sorry that you had such a terrible experience.

     

    And to the OP, I tend to be non-confrontational. I don't know if it's the right thing to do, but If I were in your shoes, I'd probably focus on teaching my kids how to deal with this kindly and respectfully, and figure that in a tight-knit group, this boy's mom will find out soon enough, if she doesn't know already. If we were talking and it came up, I wouldn't shy away from the subject, but I don't think I'd make a specific phone call for this. But that's just my personality. Do whatever you think you will not regret. Whatever choice won't keep you up at night is IMO the right choice for you.

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  7. It didn't seem too complicated, but maybe I was just not trying to look deeply. There were many references to the original books, including the death of Moriarty at the falls. John showed up because he's Sherlock's friend, so Sherlock doesn't have to do things alone, so he can beat someone like Moriarty who doesn't have a friend like that.

     

    Didn't he jump at the end just to wake up? I thought John asked him how he was going to wake up, and since you can't die in a dream, jumping off a waterfall seemed like a good way to wake up.

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  8. We did go. It was nice. 30 minutes early was not quite early enough. It looked like everything was full, but an usher led us to a front balcony that I couldn’t even see until we got there. We ended up sitting in front of some friends of ours who were very helpful with our two smallest kids who were a bit loud and squirmy. It was serendipitous. Some children put on a cute nativity and the priest gave a nice message, then continued with Mass. We couldn’t see the program very well from our seats, but the kids loved seeing their piano teacher play the piano and organ. Afterward we all agreed that the music was beautiful, and it was nice to spend Christmas Eve with others who love Jesus. We are considering making it an annual tradition.

     

    Thanks for all your help. It made navigating the experience much easier. My only regret was that we didn’t know they’d pass a donation basket around. We didn’t have any money with us and would have liked to contribute. But we’ll remember that if we go again.

     

    I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas too!

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  9. Thanks again.

     

    I live in a small town (population 4,000), so I doubt I'll be seeing any of you today ;). But I suppose if you live in a small northeastern town with a Christmas Pageant at 4:00 today, you could pm me. That'd be fun to meet a boardie in real life. :)

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  10. Our local Catholic church is having a Christmas pageant for 4:00 mass today. A friend invited us, but then found out she can’t make it. But our church isn’t doing anything today, and a Christmas pageant sounds like a lovely way to spend the afternoon. We’d still like to go, even without the friend. That’s not weird, is it?

     

    We’ve never been inside a Catholic church before. What do we expect? How do we dress? Where do we sit? How early should we arrive? What do we need to know so that we don’t feel completely awkward?

     

    Thanks for your help!

  11. Hello,

     

    OP here. I had no idea this would become a discussion with such strong feelings.

     

    Thanks for all the advice.

     

    Part of the problem was that I was just cranky yesterday. We had been battling illness in our home for about three weeks, so the cleaning had been neglected. Dirty houses put me in a bad mood, and the house was much dirtier than usual. Also I was PMSing a bit.

     

    Another part of the problem I realized from a few of your posts. I hadn’t realized that my kids really have been box deprived the few months. We are currently renting a tiny home, but will be purchasing and moving into a much larger home next spring or summer. Because of that I’ve been hoarding all the boxes instead of letting the kids play in them like we usually do. I think they might be filling their box void with toy bins.

     

    Today I’m feeling more rational, and we got a lot of the neglected cleaning done, so I’m in a much better mood.

     

    I have been fantasizing all day about future toy systems though, because I’m the sort of person who fantasizes about organizing.

     

    So my current fantasies are all for our new house (no room here). And they may or may not happen, because that is the way of fantasies.

     

    But since I bet at least one of you also likes to fantasize about future organization, I’ll share. :)

     

    The Legos are by far the most played with toys. I’d say the kids play Legos 80% of the time. So I think I’ll build a large lego table with a trench in the middle to contain the Legos. (They currently play Legos on a large blanket.) This will stay out all the time. I know the Legos won’t always stay at the table, but for some reason Lego mess doesn’t bother me much as long as it’s not combined with other toy mess.

     

    We’ll also leave out the stuffed animal zoo and the ride-on toys for the littlest ones.

     

    We’ll get a dress up chest that will probably not be locked either, but I want to have a locking option in case I need it for my sanity at some point.

     

    I think everything else will go in a locking cabinet. Probably one like this. If they want something besides those things that are already out, they can ask. I don’t think there will be five bins out at once, as long as the Legos are out. And eventually, when they’re a bit bigger and better trained, we probably won’t have to lock the cabinet and can just leave it open.

     

    But whether or not those fantasies ever become realities, I do know that in a few months after we move my kids will have all the boxes they could possibly play with. :)

     

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  12. Thanks for talking some sense into me. 

     

    Getting extra bins wouldn't work. We actually have extra bins. And they have all sorts of things they've made out of boxes. But they want to use EVERY bin or box or other container they can find. I have to keep up on taking out the recycling because it gets raided often for imaginative supplies.

     

    I've been planning on a toy purge soon. That will probably help a bit. And kids will grow up. Who knows, maybe someday when they're all grown up I'll miss the creative mess.

     

    Off to bed I go. Good night.

     

     

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  13. I need you to tell me how mean my plan is so I don’t inflict it on my children.

     

    I am tired of the mess. The toys are everywhere. Not because children are playing imaginatively with toys, but because they love the toy bins so much that they dump out all the toys in order to play with the bins.

     

    We have purged toys, and will again. But considering that I have five kids, they don’t really have that many toys. But we live in a small house, and 5 kids worth of toys dumped out in a small house means I feel like I can't breathe.

     

    When they do the big dump, they have to clean it up, but it takes a lot of work from me to get them to do it. And then they forget their lesson a few weeks later, and dump it all again. I am tired of repeating this life lesson.

     

    When I was growing up I loved to play inside my toy box and would dump it out so I could. I understand the allure. I’m not upset that they use imaginations or act like children. Just annoyed at the mess and the work required to remedy the situation.

     

    When I was growing up I had one friend whose house was ALWAYS clean. Though I had no concept of keeping a house clean, I loved that hers always was clean. It made playing more fun if we actually had room. One thing her parents did to take care of the toy problem was to keep all the toys way out of reach. When we wanted to play with my friend’s horses or Barbies, we’d have to ask her parents to please get down the crate holding whichever set of toys we wanted. Afterward we would put them all back in the crate. No other toys would be retrieved for us until we had cleaned up the one set. We did this sometimes, especially if the weather was bad. But I remember mostly playing outside and using our imaginations.

     

    Do I dare inflict this on my kids? Not letting them have free access to their toys? Only letting one set of toys out at a time? Probably saying “no†a lot when they want toys and I’m busy cooking or something?

     

    I’m in a sort of irrational grumpy mood right now. It seems like a sound idea, but I need sensible people to tell me the truth.

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  14. This.

     

    Why THIS sin?  Why not the rest?  Would those who make the rules have to look deep within themselves to find that they are sinners, too, and that a blanket rule for sin would apply to themselves, also?

     

     

    Just my opinion. I've been trying to figure this out too. Here is what I think the thinking is.

     

    If heterosexual parents are not married, to repent they can get married. The family stays together. If an alcoholic repents, he stops drinking alcohol. The family still stays together. Repentance for the majority of sins will make a family stronger.

     

    But to repent from a same-sex relationship, the partners would have to break apart. The family would be broken. This is one of the few cases where repentance of a sin would do that. Polygamy is another. I think that's why the policy is in place for this particular sin. The family dynamics are too complicated to expect a child to figure out and commit to one way or the other.

     

    Just my current thoughts on the matter. I'm still trying to work this through. I think time will help. And I am truly sorry for those who are hurt right now. I hope time and understanding will help heal all wounds.

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  15. That's exactly what it means.  It's a seriously irritating habit of some Mormons including this blog author.  If you don't agree with the church leadership (except on immigration and gun control, then the church is wrong, of course), you just didn't pray hard enough.

     

    Agreed that it's an annoying habit of many LDS people (generally well-intentioned though). And just to clarify, earlier I said I've got some thinking and praying to do about this. I hadn't noticed that bit in the article. I really just figure that thinking and praying about stuff that's hard to understand is a good way to get understanding. I'm not saying I'm going to sit down and shut up. ;)

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  16. But they can't live with their parents?  Ever, it sounds like, even if the parents cease any same-sex relationships?  Which is problematic when their parents are elderly or ill or disabled.  (Or when the child is ill or disabled and relies on the parents as a caretaker.)  Most adults are capable of living with a person who has differing views on one thing or another, agreeing to disagree and focusing on their love for each other, warts and all.  That's what functional families do, and do very well.  They embrace, love, and take care of each other, in sickness and in health, parents and children, as long as they each shall live.  The "love the sinner, hate the sin" mantra speaks to this, yes?  

     

    I'm curious how this rule will play out. I have a hard time imagining the church telling someone that they can't care for their elderly parent. There could be extenuating circumstances where the rule is breakable.

     

    I only pictured the rule from the young person's side. Trying to make a clean break from the lifestyle by moving out rather than living in their parents' basement for the next 5-10 years as many people do.

     

    I don't know how it would work when the parents were the ones needing to be cared for. I'm curious to see. And hopeful that compassion wins. It might just be taken case by case as many things in the church are.

  17. I thought the LDS Church was making a big push to re-think its ideas on homosexuality and to have dialogue and reconciliation. 

     

    Was that a misimpression? Is this policy new, or  vestige of the past?

     

    Bill

     

    Sort of. The LDS church has never changed it's stance that homosexual relationships are a sin. 

     

    They have tried to be more open minded about why people have homosexual feelings. They've made it very clear that homosexual feelings are not a sin, and it's only when those feelings are acted upon that one needs to repent.

     

    They've also been vocal about not discriminating against homosexual people in civil matters (housing, jobs, etc.)

     

    They've been vocal about loving all people, regardless of anything (race, religion, or sexual orientation).

     

    They do not want anyone to feel that God does not love them, and have tried to make amends for past policies that have made homosexuals feel hurt.

     

    But they have never come close to changing the affirmation that marriage before God is between a man and a woman, and any other sexual relations outside of that are a sin.

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  18. I'm LDS, and I don't understand everything my church does. I've seen a lot on the internet today, and I'll share my thoughts-in-progress.

     

    I was about to share the blog post Amira shared. It is a good one.

     

    The LDS church is very family oriented. The LDS church says that same-gender relations are wrong. The church does not want to cause contention in families.

     

    If a child of same-gender parents were to be baptized they would always be in conflict. They live at home with parents they love. They go to church and find that their parents' relationship is sinful. Then they are asked if they want to be baptized. A young child should not make a choice like that. Requiring that they wait until they are adults protects them and the families they are in. At least, I think that's the reasoning behind this.

     

    And when they are 18, to be baptized they do not have to disavow their FAMILIES. They have to disavow the PRACTICE of same-gender relations. They still get to keep their parents and love them. 

     

    There are other groups this applies to also, such as children from polygamous families. I don't think it's to penalize the children. I think it is to protect them and their families from conflict. Let them grow up before they have to decide if their parents are right or of the church is right. 

     

    These are just my thoughts-in-progress though. There are probably holes in my thinking. I'm going to wrap my mind around this for a while and pray about it too. There will probably be official press releases from the LDS church at some point too.

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  19. I don't really see racism in Back to the Future. IIRC there are 3 times we see black people in the movies. One is a mayor. One is the grandson of the mayor who owns a successful car business. And one is a decently portrayed family trying to protect themselves in a place where everyone else is shooting guns at each other. All three examples seem to be in positive light. I don't know what the population mix was in that area in the 80s. The only slightly racist thing I could think of is that there weren't more non-white people in the movies, if the true population of that area had more than just a handful of black people and no other races even represented. I agree with others that casting a black family was probably just the easy way to show that Marty's family did not live in that house.

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