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NPR's "Fresh Air" played a bit of an old interview from the 80s (I think) with him. Then they played "Every Sperm is Sacred" as the closing music. I was laughing and crying at the same time.
Saw this too: 😄
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32 minutes ago, Pen said:
I think you said right thing. I assume it is clear that “likes” means feeling a sexual attraction? Rather than regular friendship? If not clear that might be worth clarifying. If his religion teaches that being gay is bad, he might have concerns even about non attraction “liking” as regular just plain friends with a boy his faith regards as bad.
I think for the mom to tell him that hormones and feelings may change a lot as he’s going through puberty and he may or may not feel the same now as he will in a few years — and that however his sexual orientation is and turns out as he matures - she loves him as her son just the same.
There could also also be a crisis of faith over something like that and he may need a safe person to talk with about his faith as well as sexual orientation
Yeah....I guess I wasn't clear. The son said he was gay. I didn't know if I should at all suggest that liking a boy doesn't necessarily mean romantic or what not...as I'm pretty sure this kid knows what being gay means. He's not isolated at the Islamic school or anything.
I guess I'll mention PFLAG but also kind of leave it alone?? No idea.
Thanks everybody.
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3 hours ago, moonflower said:
you can pretend you're canadian
no one will know the difference unless you're quite southern of accent or brash of character, and they'll be prejudiced in your favor instead of being prejudiced against you
When I was in Europe in the late 80s as an exchange student, we did this all the time. 😄 When asked where we were from Windsor, Ontario (across the river from where I grew up).
Do opinions of Americans differ based on opinions of whomever our current President is?
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43 minutes ago, StellaM said:
Ah, Noah, the guy who made a racist, sexist joke about Aboriginal women.
No thanks.
A joke he made in 2013, and acknowledged was wrong. Very few comedians do the same about their old work, FWIW.
I'll just add as that somebody who has been a fat woman her entire life...I don't think I've heard many comedians apologize for all of the fat jokes. In fact, many people
justify them or bully fat people as a way to help them (strangely). Because obviously, we have no idea that we're fat.
https://www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-44919853
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He has previously said that he regretted telling some jokes in the past.
"You show me half my jokes from even two years ago, three years ago - I hate them," he said in a GQ interview in 2015.
"You're like, 'Why would you say that? You idiot! Or, 'Ahh, I can't believe I said that about a woman'.""
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I totally agree with him. We need to have these conversations and be able to talk about it. Not to assess blame, but to move forward.
Also...the chickens. 😄
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We have an almost three year old female golden doodle, and we're looking at getting her a sister. But nearly everybody has suggested we get a brother due to two girls fighting a lot. She's the sweetest girl who gets along with everybody. Still, it adding a brother is likely to be easier on them both, I'm fine with that.
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So, based on some family experience, I found out that our school's counselor has an "in" with the local pediatric counseling center and can often get kids seen immediately if needed. You may want to reach out for that, as well as just to be aware. Although we don't have a formal IEP, our school counselor really helped during a period of spiraling anxiety for one of our kids--as did the teachers. I would, at minimum, ask to be put on the cancellation list of whomever you have that appointment with. Another thing to consider is seeing if being a cash pay patient can get you to see somebody sooner (if that is an option.) Sadly, due to the high demand, some therapists have gone to only cash pay or prioritize cash pay. We got lucky with one of our kids and found a therapist who works out of a church and who was 1/2 the price of many I spoke to.
It does sound like OCD, and there are a variety of things that can help. One thing that helped with a family member was setting some non-negotiables regarding hygiene, but also asking how can I make this easier/more comfortable for you?
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I switched to using egg roll wrappers as my noodles. It's just like homemade pasta.
My next up grade was to go traditional Italian and use a bechamel.
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We'd eat them. Yum cookies!
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I've only had the main kit which included both. While I did put my data in Promthese (which emailed me recently about something, need to check)...it was much easier to read via 23andme. There was one main thing I was alerted to about me and a few of my kids which was later verified by our PCPs, so for that, I am grateful. (I'm adopted and don't have the family health history that most people have.)
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3 hours ago, WendyAndMilo said:
It also made me think of the "what if" - what difference could I make if I took $1000 that I spent at big/online stores and instead bought from locally-owned stores/stands? Because we are coming from a completely opposite economic base than that of Kenya, does it still matter, or is it just a drop in the bucket?
I think it does matter. Not too long ago somebody posted thank you to whoever placed that order in my shop. It means my child will get new shoes tonight (or something like that). A small purchase (or even a big one) can really be a make or break thing for a locally owned store, Etsy shop, etc.. Yet if I don't buy something at Walmart, they will do just fine. I try and remember that more and more. I will try to buy stuff at the local Indo/Pakistani store or Arabic store, because they are owned by a family vs. buying the same thing cheaper at the big box store or through Amazon. I buy my pita bread from a local bakery vs. the national brand at Walmart, etc. I don't always do this, because (to be honest) of convenience. But ever since seeing that, I really do try and make the effort more and more.
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We went to Ikea a few weeks ago and did a shark scavenger hunt in the store. DS3 got a free ice cream cone for completing it. It was hilarious.
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My daughters wants art supplies, a Polaroid camera and film, and holographic nail polish. I'm sure her grandma will get her one of those. (Yes, my kids get Christmas gifts from their Christian relatives, and we give them Eid gifts.)
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I thought this was really interesting. Yes, the impact of $1,000 in a poor African community will e different than in the U.S. Still, for those who wonder about giving money directly--this may put their minds at ease. I saw something on Facebook where a group of friends gather for breakfast each Christmas...and everybody contributes $100 to breakfast. The breakfast for all 17 costs $200, then they give the rest as a tip to the waitress.
Note: This was a five year, randomized study involving 10,000 families.
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Their findings are significant: Cash transfers benefited the entire local economy, not just direct recipients. As money made its way through the area, both families who did and did not receive cash ended up substantially better off.
Just as importantly, they could find little in the way of adverse effects from the experiment, either in villages that got the cash or in those that didn’t. Spending on temptation goods — such as cigarettes, alcohol and gambling — did not increase. People didn’t work less. Rates of domestic violence didn’t change, nor did more children drop out of school. Local income inequality levels did not change. And contrary to a common fear, the program had minimal effect on prices: Inflation increased less than 1 percent over and above Kenya’s overall rate.
What made the study really path-breaking, though, is that it was huge: The money handed out amounted to more than 15 percent of the GDP in the treatment area, reaching 10,500 of the 65,385 households there. Dump that much cash into a local economy, and you would certainly expect it to grow. But by how much?...."
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My Mom's neighbors always bring a plate of Christmas cookies. Our favorites are the Oreo truffles and the decorated Santa cookies (with a red hot cinnamon on the tip of Santa's hat). :)
One of my good friends makes strawberry-cranberry jam to give out each Christmas. I look forward to that. :)
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My Mom was given a standing rib roast as a gift (one of those mail order steak type places), so we cooked it on New Year's Day. It was actually quite lovely. I had never cooked one before, but googled and it turned out well. We served it with scalloped potatoes (my Mom's favorite), and green beans almondine.
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Buy the Pillsbury refrigerated pie crusts near the cookie dough. (Comes in a red box...you unroll the crust.) Use the recipe on the back of the Libby's pumpkin. (I prefer the plain pumpkin one...where you add your own spices.)
Serve with whipped cream and vanilla ice cream. :)
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Just saw this and so happy that she's doing better. Even if you don't go up this weekend, I'd try and visit her in the near future. I think you'll feel much better if you see her and hug her in person.
Will keep her in my prayers.
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A friend posted this, and I really enjoyed it. He's such a fluid dancer. I love how he made a deal to teach ballet dancers hip hop and he learned ballet.
Anyway, I see that it's three years old, but it was new to me. :)
Descrption: "To mark the current exhibition at Foundation Louis Vuitton in Paris, Icons Of Modern Art: The Shchukin Collection, London-based director Andrew Margetson follows Memphis-born jookin’ dancer Lil Buck as he twists and turns past masterpieces by the likes of Picasso and Matisse. Read more on NOWNESS - http://bit.ly/2gFf8j3"
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I signed up for an Overcoming Clutter course with Joshua Becker who wrote Becoming Minimalist. I highly recommend it. It's a 12 week class with online webinars, articles, a Facebook group, etc. I am no where near a minimalist, but it has helped a lot. You can repeat it forever for no additional cost. Google for codes to save some $$$.
https://my.becomingminimalist.com/
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I liked Plated the best, too. 😞
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Interesting about the blood clots...I already know I have Prothrombin II gene mutation.
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22 hours ago, kbutton said:
I think it's definitely worth asking about the bolded--I'd want to know how they determine it's related to rheumatic fever or not related to it and how reliable that determination is. There were heart issues missed in my extended family that should've been detected a long time ago with a good family history. Some cardiologists are not up on their genetics AT ALL. It doesn't hurt to get multiple opinions and to look for a cardiologist that is interested in genetics (and even get a second opinion).
So, I had a great-grandparent with rheumatic heart damage, and she ended up with a pace maker. A family friend has valve issues and has had surgery with no complications. She does get a-fib, which makes her really uncomfortable. I don't know if that is related or separate from the valve issue. One of her valve surgeries was open, but I think the other one was (or will be--not sure of the status) done via cardiac catheter.
If it turns out to be not rheumatic, one possible thing to consider is autoimmune stuff, such as antiphospholipid antibody syndrome (with or without lupus). It causes valve problems.
Hmm...that's interesting because one of my kids just came back with an high ANA test.
So, I picked up a copy of the full report and images to send to a family friend whose an interventional cardiologist. It says I have both mitral and tricuspid valve regurgitation...and from the measurements, may also have pulmonary hypertension.
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Give me any and all tips for improving lymph drainage
in The Chat Board
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Back when I was a massage therapist, we learned something specific called lymphatic drainage massage. I'm not sure how easy it is to do on one's self though. If there are LMTs in your area, they may be able to split a session... half in treating you, half in helping you with your technique.
Dry brushing might help. It's an ayurvedic technique. It was big back then (30 years ago). It's best if you can feel the brush before you buy IMHO...but you can buy brushes on Amazon. Some Indian grocery stores may carry them as well.