If I take all the kids out, I don't think I make it more than 10 minutes without a comment of some sort! About half are encouraging or supportive. About 40% are what I think are meant to be funny or just general chat, but come across as kind of rude, like "Are you done?" The last 10% are terrible. I have gotten over it and really don't care anymore.
If it is family, I will say things like: Which one would you give back? Would you really be that surprised to find out we are having another one? Are you saying we are doing a bad job raising them? Would you really not love another one? Is it going to effect your life that much?
I usually ignore rude strangers but sometimes I say: You should be happy since they will be paying for your social security; Children are a huge blessing and I love every second of being with them. One lady was repeatedly so obnoxious to me and my kids that I told the manager of her store. He spoke with witnesses that confirmed what she said and she no longer works with customers. Usually I find that the obnoxious ones have some point they want to make, so I ask them questions. Usually they had a bad homeschool or large family experience. I emphasize with them and explain that we do things differently. Sometimes I thank them for their life experience and say that it is something to watch out for. Sometimes I laugh and say that can be a danger of a large family, but I had the exact opposite problem of being in a small family and didn't like it for x, y, z reason. It usually ends on a cheery note that hopefully gets them thinking about how negative they feel about their children or that every family dynamic will have its plusses and minuses. It truly saddens me how many people tell me how much they dislike their own children and do anything to get away from them so they can't imagine having more. If they have young children I encourage them to get the situation turned around. They way I write that, I probably end up being more annoying and offensive than them and they are probably on some message board writing about me butting into their parenting skills! :laugh: