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  1. I agree with this in some ways and yet it bothers me. It's not really a fair characterization at all. Some people are like this anywhere.

    Sure, and it's not like that for everything or everyone, but Switzerland is pretty well known for being somewhat rigid and rule-oriented. That doesn't mean it's a bad place to live, but that these are a few of the "cons" while living there (for me). I lived there for several years and there were things I loved and things I didn't like so much. 

     

     

     I actually found it just the opposite (German-speaking Swiss were friendly, helpful, welcoming, etc., more so than the French speaking), but then I don't speak French.   :001_smile: 

     

    I speak fluent French and don't speak much German at all, so that might be part of it. I am glad the German Swiss you knew were helpful and welcoming. I don't think the Swiss are rude or unhelpful though.  I don't mean that they are unfriendly. It's not that. It's more that they aren't all that open, and it can be hard to break in. 

  2. My friend was like that. Don't get me wrong, I did some dangerous stuff too, but I wasn't as self-destructive as she was. She made it through it, got better like you did and has a good life now. I would never hold anything she did back then against her. She was hurting and though her parents were alive, they weren't there for her. I wish I had been a better friend.  I'm glad you made it through all that--it sounds very tough for anyone, but even more so for a young person with no parents. 

  3. For the kids who have to stay at lunch, it makes for a long day.

     

    In France the day goes from 9 - 5 or from 8:30 to 4:30 (depending on the school) with Wednesdays off in elementary school and a half day on Saturdays. I never thought of that as a short day, especially since so many of the kids had to stay during the 2-hour lunch break.  

     

    I used to teach English in an elementary school in France from 5 - 6pm. The kids had been in school since 9 a.m. and some had a very hard time with the class--they were spent by then. They also start Kindergarten at age 3 there--they do three years of it on the same schedule as the elementary school. When my son was turning 3 I did not send him and it was really difficult for awhile. Everyone had an opinion on it that they needed to share with me.

     

    I know you are talking about Italy, but I thought they started them pretty young there too. Maybe it was just the people I knew.

  4. Ok :-) I thought since you were posting now, you might be in the same time zone.

     

    I got more curious and typed the text into Google translate and saw that it says you have to follow the curriculum of the public school - that is concerning too. It all depends on how the officials are reading it...

     

    They might be very lax and say, as long as they can pass a test at the end of the year they're fine...or they might want more...

     

    But also they might be lax with foreigners who are just there for a short time. It would be impossible for foreign kids to take tests in German. And then they might accept testing results from a US test, or the results of a correspondence school...All things to find out...

     

    J.

     

    That was a reasonable thought, but no, I was just up too late.

     

    snickerplum, do you know how long you would stay in Switzerland if you decide to go? 

  5. Sorry, I forgot to answer about health care in the previous post..

     

    I think it's ok - but don't have experience with your type of situation.....and it's hard for me to speak about the German speaking part of CH as I have so little experience. In some ways it's like another country :-)...

     

    Joan

     

    I agree. It's why I said I didn't know if I could live in the German speaking part, though I liked a lot about living in the French-speaking part. It seems like all the things I didn't like about living in CH are worse in the German part--rigidity/strictness, rules, fussy people, mild dislike or distrust of outsiders...

  6. Plus, the law as listed on the cruxmove site for Schaffhausen does not sound good to me. It sounds like you would need to get permission, which isn't a good sign. I hope bildung zu hause can help clarify this for you. 

     

    Expats living in the area would be able to help a lot, I would think. Not with homeschooling info, perhaps, but with your other questions and concerns. You could try englishforum.ch if you haven't already. It's really too bad that they want an answer from you so quickly! Good luck with everything.

  7. I homeschooled in the Vaud canton for awhile--it's supposed to be the easy canton to homeschool in. In Vaud, you need to send a letter of intent each year and there is an annual home visit. I know homeschooling is very difficult in some of the German-speaking cantons so you would want to really research it. There is a homeschooling CH yahoo group.

     

    The cost of living is high, but your husband's pay should be higher too, so it might even out, especially if there is expat pay/housing allowance involved. 

     

    TBH, I don't think I could live in the German-speaking part of Switzerland. 

  8. The only movie I can think of where a young person hangs themselves is Harold and Maude, but his hanging isn't real.

    The movie Class had a fake (prank) hanging as well. I don't think it was on the back of a door though, but in the middle of the room.

     

    I think in the movie Soul Man a Cabbage Patch Kid is hanged. I'm sure that's not what the OP is thinking of!

  9. Pinterest Fail

     

    I pin everything I might need or want to do later so I don't ever lose it, but I feel no pressure to do everything I pin. Maybe that's a personality thing? I do have a board for the things I've done that I saw on Pinterest just because it feels like an accomplishment. I gave up on being super crafty a long time ago. It's my go-to for book lists, educational movies, SOTW projects, healthy recipes, and clever organizational tips that I never would have thought of. I don't have the time or money to buy a bunch of cooking, decorating, or family magazines so this has filled that slot nicely and it's all things that I like.

     

    Thanks for the link. It's similar to the Pinstrosity page and equally good. The eggs were pretty awesome--I can only imagine what her oven looked like after that.

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    Has anyone seen this? Warning, every pin has the F word on it. But it is a pinterest board making fun of pinterest. 

     

    Thanks for that! I had not seen it. As Homer Simpson would say, "It's funny because it's true".

     

    I don't have a Pinterest account but I have seen my sister's page so I get the gist of what it is. A year or so ago someone here posted the link to the Pintrosity site which was rather hilarious.

  11. I dunno.  Now that I am older, I would seriously consider his criticism.  Before, I would have been vindictive, nasty and downright immature withholding all kinds of things (cleaning, attention, etc) after any negative comment about me.

     

    Maybe age helps season some things?  I actually want my dh's input now.  I want to please him and do well in his eyes.  I think when I was younger I was lacking confidence and instead of receiving criticism felt I needed to defend myself.  My dh thinks I do amazing things here at home and values that job highly.  That doesn't mean he doesn't see room for improvement.  Thank God, he graciously knows how to talk to me about those things now. 

    After 20 years that is the sweet fruit of our intimacy, I think.

     

    I think it's a sign of a healthy marriage to talk about things like that, even if after a period of time has gone by.  Seems like the dh in the OP is comfortable sharing his feelings.  I see that as awesome.

    Maybe I'm just weird.

     

    It could be age. It could also be that over time one person has worn down the other (I mean in general; I am not commenting specifically on your marriage).

  12. I'm not saying that it is supposed to take place at all. I accept that teens are autonomous human beings with strong sexual urges and that they do not always choose to delay intercourse until their 18th birthdays or marriage or whatever.

     

    That doesn't mean that I'm allowing 14 year olds to have co-ed sleepovers. That does mean that I will provide my teens with contraception if they ask me for it. It means that my teenager does not spend his every waking hour under my direct supervision. He is allowed to go swimming, to the movies, to sleepovers with friends, etc. He is allowed to take the shuttle around base to go to the library or exchange when he wants to.

     

    If he decided to enter into a sexual relationship he would find a way, I'm sure. I know that I did. I would not be angry if I found out that he had. I would be reasonably concerned. His physical and emotional health is important to me. I just would not be surprised or angry that it had happened.

     

    Well, let's not go overboard; I wasn't talking about hosting co-ed sleepovers. I was wondering where the couple would have sex (if they so chose) if they had to keep the door open at all times. Now I know: somewhere out there. That was my question and I thank you and Joanne for answering it.

     

     

  13. as a PS to my post: I thought I'd better make it clear that the LOL wasn't laughing at the people who replied, but at the replies themselves. I did find them amusing, and I agree--those are exactly the sorts of places "it" happens when the bedroom is off limits.

     

    I also agree that waiting until one is an adult is great, but it doesn't always happen and it's not really the parent's call.

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