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    Done homeschooling but can't bear to leave The Hive.
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  1. When I've seen it, it wasn't a full on smash but rather a bit of cake pushed to the sides of the person's mouth. I agree with the bolded, if both parties really do think it's fun and one doesn't feel pressured. If one person doesn't want it then it should be a no.
  2. Neither of us thought cake smashing was funny and we decided well in advance not to do it. However, I don't think smashing or not smashing is a predictor of marital success. I think some (many?) couples do it because they think it's tradition and they're expected to, not because of some secret meanness and/or desire to embarrass their new spouse. ETA: I've personally known three couples who decided in advance not to smash cake and then one of them ended up "surprising" the other. In two cases it was the husband who did it, in one it was the wife. In all three the other spouse was livid but all three couples are still married 10 - 20 years later. So there's my anecdotal evidence. 😂
  3. As a lifelong pet owner and one time landlord, no. I rented for many years (I didn't marry until I was 38) and always looked for a house or apartment that allowed pets. Yes, I realize how incredibly privileged I was to be able to turn down the places that didn't allow pets but I do still think it's the landlord's choice. It's been 30 years since I rented so I have no idea what it's like now but I would hope a lot of landlords choose to allow them.
  4. Okay, I'm thinking most of your houses are wood frame? That would make sense then to not want stucco. We do have some stucco over wood houses but stucco over block is better. Other types of siding are more of a problem here. Also, since stucco is breathable that makes it desirable in this climate. We build our houses to keep heat out not in. We occasionally hear of a builder getting sued or fined for not applying stucco properly and the homes end up with mold and leaks, but when it's properly (which is the majority of the time) applied it does well here.
  5. We assume we're going to replace the carpet and paint but I'd like it to at least be livable until we can do that. That said, we bought our current house knowing we would completely renovate. The first thing we did was remove the disgusting carpet (we stayed with my mom for a week after closing). I expect an inspection to cover most of what I need to know. Beyond that I'd look for the kitchen layout as well as overall house layout. The kitchen needs to have good counter top space and plenty of cabinets. We're doing the minimum to fix this house and will probably take a hit for the things we don't intend to replace. We have sod being installed in the front yard and part of the back to give it some curb appeal. We'll paint the walls a neutral color. That's pretty much it. At some point as either a buyer or seller you have to draw a line and decide "We won't do anything other than this." or "We won't buy unless this." I'm curious, why no stucco? You'd have a time of it trying to find a house in Central or South Florida. Stucco is the standard here.
  6. For my mother, hate was a strong word that was not allowed in our house. When my brother and I were arguing, hate and stupid were the two words that would get you in trouble if Mom heard you say it. As an adult I just think of it as strong dislike. There's no one in my life I personally hate but there are some public figures (mostly political persons) I hate. Interesting. I was friends with one of Ted Bundy's FSU victims. I thought I would feel something good - relief, closure, even some sort of happiness - when he was executed. I sat in my car the morning he went to the electric chair, and listened to the radio. I was teaching high school but had first period planning and that's how I spent my planning period that day. When it was over I was surprised to feel...nothing. That day started me on examining my belief on the death penalty. Up until then I had been for it, and he was one of the main reasons for my stance. I wanted him dead. When he finally was removed from this world I had none of the feelings I was expecting. Yes, this. Well mostly. Actually I think holding on to anger is worse than holding on to hate. I grew up with someone who held on to anger and it was just as @Mergath said. It harms the person holding it more than the target of their anger.
  7. I live in a swing state but my particular area never swings. We moved here when I was 15 and as many of you know I'm one of the oldest Hive members. In all my time living here I've always been in both the political and religious minority. Yard signs and bumper stickers from the "other" side are plentiful. Those who agree with me either don't bother putting out signs or have had them stolen. I have one friend who had three Obama signs stolen in 2012. Finally she put a note on her fourth sign that said "Each time you steal my sign you're supporting this candidate because I'll just buy another one." That ended the sign thievery. Most of the time I don't even bother to speak up. We almost gave up homeschooling right at the start because the only homeschool group in my city was very religious and very conservative. They had a statement of faith which wasn't required. However, if you didn't sign it you could participate but not be in charge of anything. No classes, no field trips, nothing. Thanks to Yahoogroups (remember those lol) I found a more open and inclusive group but it was based in the southern part of my county. For all of our 10+ hs years I drove 45 minutes to an hour to everything. The friends we made from that group - both ds' old homeschool friends who are now adults and my and dh's old homeschool parent friends - all still live in that area and we have to drive to be able to do anything with them. (If you're wondering why they don't drive up to us. sometimes they do but there are many more choices of things to do where they live. My city in the north end of the county has pretty much nothing to do and few decent restaurants.) As I said, I mostly keep my mouth shut. The friends I mentioned above share my beliefs and when we get together we discuss/vent about politics and the current situation. Yes, it's an echo chamber but the way things are around here there's no point in arguing with those who have strong opposite beliefs. As for neighbors, we just don't discuss politics. While my neighborhood had yard signs no one on my small cul de sac did. I think we're such a small street that we don't want to alienate one another.
  8. My social circle has a wide age range from right at 40 to early 60s, with most in their mid 50s. Sex life isn't discussed. I don't think it's something that's been discussed among my group of friends once I passed my 20s.
  9. I agree with this and you should do it soon. Once he turns 18 you won't be able to do it. I have no other advice, just a lot of virtual hugs.
  10. My roommates and I were very excited to watch the world premiere of the Thriller video on MTV. We also watched a "making of" documentary about We Are The World. I'm old enough to have had roller skates with a key. These With HBO's new Chernobyl miniseries and a book that came out recently dh and I were talking about how it was the Swedes who first detected the radiation and how the Soviet government was first denying it happened, then denying it was serious. I came across this (11 Modern antiques kids today have never seen) when looking for a good picture of the roller skates and key. I remember all except the milk chute. We did however, have a metal milkbox on the front porch. You put your empty bottles in it the night before delivery day and the milkman would replace it with full bottles of milk in the morning. I hated milk. Still hate it.
  11. Everything you said except for the parts about Asia (I've never been there) fits how I feel about flying. It's interesting that many of you who hate it aren't afraid of flying - you just hate the crowded plane, the hassle of airports, etc. None of that bothers me. It's the actual flying and a (mostly) irrational fear of crashing that makes me hate it.
  12. I loved it when I was young now it scares me. Take off and landing are the scariest to me. Rationally I know how safe it is, and I will fly when going somewhere where driving isn't an option due to time restrictions or where we're going. It's one of those things I don't avoid but don't like doing. I'm always relieved when we land and it's over.
  13. I have this Thermos brand bottle and I love it. It keeps water cold for a long time. It's not pretty but it's insulated stainless steel.
  14. I'm 17 years older than you but none of those first 4 quoted experiences were mine. I was raised in a city so no matter how old I am I would not have seen those things. Yes to candy cigarettes (pretending to smoke them first 😲). Also, as others have mentioned, I used to get sent to the store to buy my mom's real cigarettes. I have watched a sitting U.S. president get assassinated and watched his funeral on tv. I was home from school sick that day and remember when my grandmother called my mother to tell her. She told my mom "turn on the radio" because in those days you got breaking news from the radio, not the tv.
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