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That’s a possibility but honestly the psychiatrist is totally jumping the gun here. At 6yo there is no way to predict this. Re: different therapy that wasn’t successful - it won’t be successful if it’s not ERP. Dealing with OCD in a way that doesn’t encourage it is very counter-intuitive. It’s different even than how you would coach someone with anxiety. I’m saying this to encourage you to keep trying until you find a great ERP therapist.

I would not necessarily jump to that conclusion. The gold standard of treatment for OCD is ERP therapy. It is more successful than medication alone and often has better and quicker outcomes in combination with medication. This does not mean your daughter needs medication for life. She is only 6yo. I would start working with a therapist who is very skilled with ERP. Learn about how you as a parent can avoid accommodating her OCD and get her on the path to crushing it. Check out Natasha Daniels on YouTube - she has a lot of free videos and resources that are excellent.

In the past few weeks, I have heard of one young person die of colon cancer that was missed and another one diagnosed stage three. I’m 44 and considering getting screened. I would definitely go in your case.

This is what I’m thinking. Adding erythritol to every drink, dessert, bowl of oatmeal, etc is extreme compared to brushing teeth and chewing gum with xylitol. I’m not throwing out the toothpaste, but I’ll probably toss the Truvia and go back to plain stevia. It’s annoying because my favorite ones are from Trader Joe’s (not local to me) and Trim Healthy Mama (requires shipping.)

You’re doing great. Go easy on yourself! All of this is really hard. I do recommend that you try to find a therapist that you click with. It might be the best thing you can do for yourself and the kids.

I voted other because I’ve never heard it and it just sounds weird to me. My dad’s parents always threw change under the seat of a new car for good luck and he continued that tradition with us any time we got a new car.

I highly recommend Natasha Daniels. She has a youtube channel with free videos and resources, classes that you can buy (worth every penny), a paid online support community (I think the doors just closed and will open again in a few months), and a free facebook support group for parents.

If I could do it over, I would not have registered for it for my wedding. But I did and it’s gorgeous so we use it at holidays.

My experience was the same and I had two kids vaginally. It was so horrible. I can’t even fathom scheduling my daughter for an IUD. No way.

@SKL what about the depo shot? I hear you on the pills. My DD is on BCP for her periods and meds for OCD. I set it up every week in a daily pill case. We both have reminders on our phones and I look at the pill case every night to make sure she has taken her meds. I know I can't do this forever, but for now I'm still managing it.

This exactly

What does "no bright colors" mean? I would ask. I'm also curious as to the reasoning. Are there a lot of video/virtual calls? What is the job description? As an ASL interpreter, I definitely can't wear bright colors. It's pretty much black all the time. But there is good reason for it in this profession. I'm curious why that is part of the dress code for this job.

Unreasonable. You are working, just not being paid. You need to speak up. Do any of the siblings live near the hospital? She can stay with them during the week and they can transport her. This should not be on you, the DIL who homeschools her children. Otherwise, maybe they can hire farm help and your DH can bring drive his mom.

I would never recommend an IUD for a teen. I had a horribly painful experience with insertion of my first one. With my second, my m/w prescribed me something to dilate my cervix and gave me pain meds and it was a much less painful experience. FWIW I do love having an IUD. I just can't fathom a teen going through the insertion process. As far as effectiveness for BC, I don't know. I have it to control my awful periods. DH had a vasectomy years ago so the BC aspect is irrelevant for me. DD is on Lo Loestrine for her periods. It's not a mini-pill, but has the lowest estrogen of any regular BCP. Might be something to consider if you want to do a pill but a lower dose.

DS has sold things on Mercari without issue.

My good friend has two Australian shepherds that are siblings and were adopted together. She has had no issues with them. They are around 5-6yo now maybe? They do live on a farm and the dogs have pretty free reign of the property. They are great with people and other dogs, do not fight each other, and do not show signs of anxiety or have any issues eating. Just an anecdotal positive outcome.

I would not invite anyone to your home. People will not want to mask inside. Even aside from covid and other illness spread potential, it is a huge undertaking to host everyone after the funeral and reception. I don't think that anyone would expect it. I think meeting up at a rooftop restaurant is an excellent idea AND you should take the kids home whenever you need to.

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No. Just…no. This is pure desecration of a cannoli. Find a quality Italian bakery…says the Jersey Girl

Well I am really late to this thread and stopped reading around page three. @Scarlett I hope she reaches out to you. I would definitely want to meet her if I were in your shoes! I am super interested in this stuff but kind of don't want my DNA in a database. My parents have already done it, though. They connected with relatives in Ireland and even visited them! I know that I have cousins that we were estranged from on my paternal grandfather's side and I have always wondered about them. Growing up in a super large Italian and Irish family, there were always so.many.cousins. but I still did wonder about the ones I never got to meet.

You've never heard of a cannoli? Where do you live? It's my favorite dessert.

The only way I would tell the children is if the uncle was already gone and somehow I found out that the children were searching for answers. Like they already knew something was up and they wanted more info. Otherwise, no. What good would it do? I would never want to be the one responsible for the uncle finding out info that would devastate him at the end of his life.

Fondu?

I agree with you. I don’t expect her, if/when DS gets married, to be as close to me as her mom or to call me Mom. Probably also reflective of my relationship with my MIL. I think it’s weird to call my ILs Mom/Dad because they’re not my parents. But a lot of people do. I would welcome it if she wanted that but I certainly don’t expect it.