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LisaK in VA is in IT

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About LisaK in VA is in IT

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    Napoli, Italia
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    Public Policy, Debate, Scrapbooking, caking and some other crafts, Reading, Swimming, and helping my kids become the best version of themselves I can.

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    Wife of one, mother of five
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    Napoli, Italia
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    Scrapbooking, decorative painting
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    Head Coach, Naples Tiger Sharks,wife & mother, and free-lance writer

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  1. First Aid/CPR Course (me) -- online portion today Laundry & School Work Swimming (me & kids) More work on Pony Girl's college list Start Athlete Protection Re certification Course Pick a spot, clean/pack it up.
  2. Calm, honest, frank. I have always encouraged my children to write down their feelings, thoughts, etc. -- as a safe method to fully express themselves. I have informed them that these are "safe places" I will not go, unless I feel their life is somehow in danger (I've given examples). I have also told them, that if they want to tell me about something, but aren't sure how, they can write it down and leave me a note to open the conversation. Thus far, I haven't had to read or explore any of my children's books of thought. However, as they go back and look at their younger selves, it really gives THEM perspective 😉 (Pokeman, now almost 16, has reviewed his thoughts/feelings/etc. from the past few years -- in much the same way LegoManiac did -- and was appalled. He apologized to me and his dad, and said he didn't know how we put up with him). **For clarification** I have had the experience of (a) having my older brother read my diary to a group of his friends as a young teen and (b) have my older brother get out my diary and LEAVE IT OUT IN THE OPEN IN THE KITCHEN for my parents to read as an older teen (16/17). The first time, it was highly embarrassing (we moved away not too long afterwards). The second time, I had written down things similar to those mentioned by the OP. In my case, I was saying and thinking things I never had done -- just writing down thoughts. But that was enough to trigger a battle royal. I have never written anything down again. This situation damaged the relationship between my parents and myself terribly. I didn't get past it for years. It breaks a HUGE amount of trust/faith, and the ability of someone to develop their sense of self in what they feel is a safe manner. Talk in a diary is often just that -- talk. Your friend needs to have private chats with her daughter. Open up about her teenage insecurities -- things she wishes she had known at the time, done differently and why. These conversations are not easy. They can be gut wrenchingly difficult. I have to wear my "just the facts" face. They are uncomfortable. But, if I can't share my teenage indiscretions and the consequences (whether because I was found out, or how I felt afterwards), how can I expect my kids to feel safe around me? Build a relationship. Become the person for her daughter that she (mom) needed to be able to open up to at that age. This also requires her to be calm, accepting, and to speak the truth in love. All decisions have consequences, but they are NOT the mom's consequences. They are her daughter's. Remember, we are raising kids to be adults. They don't magically acquire the knowledge, understanding and maturity to deal with things when they reach 18 (or 16 or 22). They need the benefit of what we experienced, what we learned, and why we made decisions (regrets or not), to help them learn. This also (for us) anyhow has led to a feeling of safety in the knowledge that we are a haven. We will always love them -- we can't always protect them from the consequences that result from bad choices, but we will still love them. I don't know how to answer the dealing with the diary part -- part of me says don't bring it up, and part of me says be hugely apologetic. Just be aware, if she uses details from the diary when talking to her DD, her DD will probably suspect it... much of this depends upon the relationship they have built up to this point.
  3. There are -- we started with a couple of MOOCs through Edx/Coursera type classes, DD used MIT Opencourseware (scholars), but found the best work on Khan Academy. I have a Larson text and she has used that with Khan, going to Educator.Com to prep for the AP CalcBC exam in May. She is back to MIT Open Courseware Scholars for MV Calc. Keep in mind, we've never had much $$$ for homeschooling, so I try to find ways around big dollar classes when I can. It doesn't always work out -- but my daughter is doing pretty well on the AP exam prep thus far 😄
  4. I've been down this path three times -- once I used an older edition of Campell's and Hippocampus (now is a UCScout course). That went okay. The second time, we still used that edition of Campell's, but paired with a MOOC. The third time was actually the best one -- BJU. (FWIW, Pony Girl -- who took course #2 -- also took AP Bio at a local school and used a slightly newer older edition of Campell's). Should PokeMan decide to do AP Bio in 11th or 12th, I will be doing Campbell's with Clutch Prep and then to prepare for the AP Exam. The lectures over at Clutch Prep are great, they align their lectures to the text you are using, and also have worksheets to assist with note taking. Campell's has a series of study guides, and AP has a bunch of practice tests/FRQ to use for practice. The site is a good review course that also works through an entire AP exam and explains the answers to key concepts. My child who took BJU (with the DVDs) has a much better grasp of Biology than either of my kids after their first pass (after DD's second course she has essentially only a slightly better grasp of Bio than her brother that is 2 years younger). Anyhow, just my 2 cents.
  5. Blondie will be in the 8th grade next year -- we'll see how this goes. Had a long planning, goal setting meeting with her, as I'm trying to get her to take ownership of her education. Bible -- Dust to Glory English -- Abeka 8 Grammar & Vocabulary & Poetry; Writing with Skill 1 (WWS2 will be done over the summer of 2020); Killgallon for MS; Mosdos Press Gold + Audio Books and other reading Math -- Algebra 1 (Foersters or Chalkdust with AoPS). She actually starts this in April, so will move to Jacob's Geometry (with AoPS Intro to Algebra on Fridays) around December or January 2020. HIstory -- Human Odyssey II and Geography (Abeka) Science -- Earth Science w/DVD (BJU) Foreign Language -- Spanish 2 (CLE) I may sign her up for something online instead. Music -- we may be attempting to get her into the local school for Flute, but I don't know. PE/Health - Abeka
  6. My baby is going into the 5th grade! We'll be living back in VA somewhere in the Tidewater area -- so some things might change (cost of housing, possible promotion for my dh, and a job for me all kinda pending at the moment). But, here's where I am: Reading: CLE 5 + Audio Books English: CLE Language Arts 5; Killgallon for Elementary School; Abeka Cursive 5 Math: CLE 5 & Life of Fred & Science: Apologia Human Anatomy & Zoology 1 History: World Geography; Virginia History (I have to find something for this) Foreign Language: Either LFC1 or Spanish 1 (I may find something live or online) Music & Drawing
  7. Thank you -- and thank you to everyone for just letting me get this off my chest. As the head coach of a swim team in a fishbowl community, I don't often get to vent my feelings with anyone other than my husband (poor guy). She's currently working on an application to USCGA (AIM). In a bit we will be updating her college list (all of the swimming contacts, what she's done with whom, and culling out most of the safety schools. Trying to get the list down to 10 to really focus upon. She needs to up her communication to the coaches she's interested in swimming for (calls, emails). Unfortunately, they changed the recruiting rules this year, so she will miss out on a lot of opportunities other recruits will have. It's time to be ruthless about this college list mess!
  8. I'm signing in late -- but I was up way early (about 3am) I swam for 2 hours. I am so sore. I overdid it (this is my first week back in the pool (I haven't really trained in swimming for 35 years -- haven't really exercised consistently for 6), and today I tried to stay with my 10yo to keep her motivated). My husband may have to peel me off the couch tonight. On the upside, I swam for 2 hours. Working on college stuff with PonyGirl. Laundry At some point... I'll make it to the shower.
  9. I'm grateful this year has no agonizing decisions. LegoManiac received his acceptance to Old Dominion University, and paid his deposit the next day. He is so happy. I'm dreading next year, though. If figuring out which colleges to even apply to is this hard -- I don't want to imagine the decision making process!
  10. She's been on their recruiting list for USMMA since she was a freshman, but they do not have a math major and dd does not want to go engineering. She would very likely get a nomination and be admitted there easily. Her father graduated from USMMA, so it's a school on every child's "consider this school" list. We visited in 2017, and even though she likes small schools, this felt small and sad to her. But, we'll take a look at TAMU, as she has had interest in Marine Biology and Marine Science -
  11. Thank you, I will. We have also looked at the Maritime Academies -- not applying to USMMA, because no major and she has zero desire to become a ship engineer, but Maine Maritime has a bit more flexibility with majors... looks like Norwich is a swim school 😉
  12. Here's my take -- do what is best for your child each year. The grade level only matters minimally to the state -- and may matter for certain educational opportunities. Talk to your child as they start to mature about opportunities based upon age-grade or other grade, what their goals are, what they would like to achieve. The grade level (for us) becomes permanent only IF the PSAT/NMSQT is an issue. Otherwise, it will not matter. I made the decision to hold my oldest back in the 6th grade (extended 6th for 2 years). I did submit my NOI to VA, for two years with the same grade level - I did not get any blow back from the state. Gave him an option at the end of 8th to count his 8th grade year as high school, or start high school the following year -- and what each choice would look like/could mean. He wound up graduating at 18 vs. 17. He also took a gap year -- so will not begin college until he is nearly 20. But, he is very happy with how these decisions have worked for him. There wasn't a single question about his academic record from any of the 6 schools he applied to. And no issues with the college he begins in the fall. DD#1 (PonyGirl) was given an option to accelerate and graduate early in 7th, 8th, 9th and 10th --declined every time. She was offered early admission to a university and also declined. She is very happy with her decision. She will be commended, we won't know about NMQST until the fall (she is actually on the bubble for our state -- if the state has the high end cut off of 222, she misses it, if it goes to the low end of 221, she's in like flynn). She was born in January. DS #2 (PokeMan) was also given a similar choice at 8th grade, and has zero complaints about his options. He is very excited about the extra opportunities he has as a high schooler because of it. He is excited about the opportunity to test out of multiple courses through AP and dual enroll in high school. He is now motivated to try for National Merit. He is excited about the possibility of graduating college with no debt and a dual degree (or more). He has clear goals and works toward them. This was not the case 12 months ago (he is a rising sophomore, as opposed to a rising junior and will turn 16 about 2 weeks before the beginning of his junior year) DD#2 (Blondie) will be given an opportunity to decide her path next year -- she's not my most motivated student, and I do feel she can benefit from another high school year, but will ultimately leave that in her hands. She's my last summer child. She is far more capable than what she shows academically. But social situations matter much more to her than my older three. Regardless of her decision, she still has to complete the same general requirements as her college-bound siblings (4 years of math, 4 years of English, 3 years of Science -- Bio, Chem and Physics, 3 years of foreign language, Western Civ, USH, Govt, Econ, Geography & World Cultures, Philosphy & World Religions, typing, Microsoft Products, health/PE, cooking, and art.) DD#3 (Boo) I currently have zero plans to do anything different with -- but it will depend upon how these next few years go. My gut feeling is that she will graduate with her age-grade cohort (and she has a January birthday). She has some delays due to a major speech issue, but is at grade level. I do feel she will continue to progress beyond grade level in the coming years and "catch up" to her older siblings. It is very important to me that my kids start developing their own sense of who they are and what they want as part of their graduation process. I feel no need to rush it, but will push them to do the most difficult work they can handle -- but not *every* course needs to be the same level. My oldest daughter's history course is not the same level of intensity as her math and science courses, and that is by design and her choice. She could handle more -- but I don't believe in doing more for the sake of doing more -- there needs to be purpose behind it.
  13. For the most part, our hours off are just that hours off. I've never received much credit for putting in 10-12 hour days, when 8 were required (aside from government work). I did arrange to alter my hours a bit 2 days a week in order to leave a bit earlier when my brother, father and I ride-shared -- and it was my dad's day to drive (meaning he was waiting on me). But, that was with the consent of my boss. On those days, I started work at 7am, so I could leave at 4pm. If there were a project that required later hours that day -- I didn't leave. Working for the government has been a bit more flexible -- but dh gets overtime, and has a ton of leave. If he works a half day, the rest of the day is counted as leave. Very rarely will he be allowed to leave early and have it not count against him (but then we're talking an hour or two, and he skips lunch kind of thing). He now has telework -- which allows him to use even less leave -- and actually get more overtime (especially when he's on duty over the weekend). There were two days he was home "on leave" that he wound up teleworking (he truly wound up spending about 6-8 hours each day WORKING on his days off -- he put in that he worked and kept the leave.
  14. My husband doesn't normally do that kind of stuff, but if he did it would be because he knew I was busy and was trying to help. I would also know to double check *everything.* Like many things I do, and dh "helps" -- it's not always helpful (Honey -- I washed clothes while you were gone! And there is a mountain of washed, dried, wrinkled clothing on top of the dryer kind of help -- honey! I made dinner -- and he somehow managed to use 5 mixing bowls, 3 pyrex pans, 3 cutting boards and 3 knives, which are on every counter, the stove and the table) In these cases, I often say, "thank you -- I appreciate the effort -- but it would work better IF..." but in 20+ years of marriage he still doesn't understand the "work better IF" part. I also don't send him shopping if I can help it for the same reasons (I list dishwasher detergent -- he comes home with dishwasher detergent, dish soap, and salt...just in case. I have 3 unopened boxes of dish salt, and 2 bottles of dish soap). He buys olives (because he wants them), at one point, I had THREE open bottles of green olives in the fridge and 2 on the shelves. I say one loaf of bread, so he buys 3 loaves of bread, 2 packages of English muffins and 2 packages of bagles). So, no, I wouldn't be upset about that trying to help part -- the interjecting at the DMV part (when I can speak for myself), I probably would have clobbered him on, though.
  15. I'm on my 3rd 10th grader. This is so exciting and sad at the same time. I knew once I graduated the first, it wouldn't take long and it would just be a steady stream of my kids leaving 😞 Pokeman will be in 10th. Bible: Dust to Glory English: Textword Press, World Lit selections, SAT English Prep (Blue Book of Grammar and Reading), Killgallon for High School, weekly essays based upon literature; finishing up the Logic series (Argument Builder) Math: PreCalculus (Chalkdust & AoPS), with SAT Review (Khan Academy) History: Western Civilization (with CLEP) Science: Chemistry (either AP or Honors level -- deciding between the Seilberg book and Clutch Prep with AP review, or BJU w/DVD -- this is his decision. Chinese: Not certain yet, he's continuing with Udemy and his daily on-line gaming on the Asian Server for speaking practice -- am looking for opportunities when we move to Norfolk -- but since I don't know where I'm living, it's all kind of pointless atm. I looked into some online courses (from the FL pinned post), but most (if not all) Chinese are no longer available 😞 Electives: These will be drawing/computer programming based -- I expect through Udemy/Edx/ or something similar. He'll have 2-4, depending upon what they wind up being. I have two more years until my next 10th grader -- unless we decide she needs one more year in high school. I vacillate with that one a lot.
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