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  1. finished school with DS - he only needed to review 2 (minor) things for the chem test! Yay! We got his economics done as well since we didn't spend as much time on Chem as I thought we would have a small load of laundry in the dryer, for halloween costuming things need to check my list....
  2. Headache here too, @ScoutTN. I am 90% sure mine is a combo of weather & hormones. :sigh: Took some meds (no real help) and a nap (not there either); drinking a coke, eating a snack, and checking in with DS -- he did his practice chem test so now time to check over it/help him with the parts he didn't understand. then we'll be done with school for today.
  3. Dude didn't come, so that was easy 🙂 I really don't think he'll cause problems at fencing, and with enough time before he comes again, I think it will be less awkward/easier to just ignore (I'm pretty good at needing to go refill my water bottle, etc., in order to avoid someone, LOL!). Thanks for checking!
  4. Oh, how cool!!! Happy Birthday to you!
  5. @SKL, are there online practice ones? I'm not sure....(sorry!) The library though may have the books, or the SAT website may have practice questions, but not sure about a whole practice test.....if @mom31257 pops on, maybe she'll know..... Good luck with it! And sorry about the bad sleep and the boss/housemate coming home early. @hjffkj that is a cool pumpkin! Wow! My day today: ...coffee ...lots of school prep - K/1st for Monday ...school with DS -- check his practice chem test, help him w/anything he missed, take a look at his economics stuff ...call Grandma, pick a day to go visit (probably Thurs) ...work on prep ahead for the next couple of weeks ...DH is in charge of dinner (I think he's doing veggie spaghetti) ...movie night with the family I think? Hocus Pocus 2 probably..... ...veg out/go to bed
  6. Finished decluttering -- took three bags of clothes from my closet/dresser to Goodwill, then went in and shopped -- found a gorgeous gray cashmere sweater/poncho, and a lovely embroidered/dressy top that's black/sheer with lovely blues, that will work amazingly well dressing up a few outfits I have, to take them from "nice" to "wear to the various weddings coming up" (cousins, etc.) -- $13 total for both, so, score! Also got athletic socks at Target, which I needed. DH just texted, we leave early for fencing tonight b/c he has a private lesson, so gotta start cooking - white chili, so just plop on the stove and simmer.
  7. Took a nap, ate lunch, got Middle and DH sent off to their day, starting DS on his stuff and then finally heading into my room to declutter. I feel like I'm either allergy-y, catching a cold, or something. It could be hormonal as well, maybe. I need to pull something out for dinner too.....
  8. Okay, looked at DS's school list and have a plan: ...have him watch the video his chem teacher sent ...have him/help him work on the practice test for chem ...have him find the worksheets for econ that he is "missing" so he can turn those in That will be enough for today, and then I can do my decluttering, some sewing, etc. which I desperately need to do. I'm feeling a little blech (headache/cold kind of thing? probably from the weather change) so am pushing my school prep till later/tomorrow. I really need a restful/"mental health" day today.
  9. Good morning! I am not sure what I will do today. I really wanted to go see my Grandma, but not sure that will work. Bah. Maybe on Saturday. So, if I stay home, then today is: ...coffee ...school with DS ...some closet decluttering ...maybe some school prep? I actually have a LOT to do, b/c I have reached the end of my summer pre-prep (waaah!) but I am very not in the mood, and do have all weekend, so.....we shall see ...figure out dinner (check w/DH, maybe do his veggie spaghetti, or pick something else if that's what he wants to make tomorrow) ...fencing tonight (if you saw my other thread, this is the night the other dude goes, so...) ...come home, go to bed At some point also I need to figure out if/what we are passing out for Halloween this year, and take care of that....I have no motivation for it at all this year. And it's on a Monday, which is my long/tired day. But I do *love* seeing the kiddos. We'll see. Have a great time on your trip, Amy!
  10. Thanks very much; I appreciate it. I may well take you up on it someday. And re: the world view thing....I definitely feel like on most things/a lot of things, differing views help expand your thinking - much of why I do post here, when I do, is for exactly that. On some things, though, a similar world view can help. (ex: I'm surely not going to tell my "essential oils solve everything, and mental health is just made up" friend about my kiddos' mental health struggles, ya know? Or my "homeschool is ridiculous, should be illegal, can't possibly be done properly" friend about my day-to-day struggles with balancing homeschool, home life, etc. -- because in either case, their advice would be counterproductive to what my actual goals are).
  11. I just wanted to come back and say thank you -- yesterday, when I first added the details, and some had reacted that well, that isn't all that bad, I then left to (ironically) go fencing and such, and never got back to this thread. And so today, I was worried I'd come back and find a lot more "yea, I mean, it was really not a big deal, get over it" kind of stuff. But you guys acknowledged, hey, it made you feel uncomfortable, and that's enough. And he should still stop it. And following up with a Facebook request is weird. And if he's giving you creep vibes, then, he is, and that's fine, and so yes, avoid him, and it wasn't your fault. So, thank you all for that. I needed it.
  12. re: the first part, it was more the cumulation of all the things just creeped me out. re: the last/bolded, I did, and we discussed it sufficiently, and he knows better now 🙂
  13. Schoolwork takes for.ev.er. We have my least favorite stupid assignment of all time. I hate it. DH is cooking dinner.
  14. Oh, gosh, no. I did not mean to imply or give the impression it had happened at the club or at a sanctioned event. Had it done so, yea, that would fall under Safe Sport, and I'd go to the coaches w/o hesitation. No, this was all during socializing time, in New Orleans, etc. and really the culmination of all the various comments throughout the evening were probably what made the red jumpsuit comment so uncomfortable (it had started off with a reference to Aerosmith/"Love in an Elevator" when we all got in an elevator together, then a comment asking whether I was a morning person or not, with a wink/nod sort of comment after that suggested he was really asking whether I was up for certain activities in the mornings, or not, then trying to walk with me as we walked place to place, between me/my husband (or dropping back to walk with me if my husband pulled ahead), then the piano bar, then the red jumpsuit comment....so, all together, it was...uncomfortable. But I didn't meant to misrepresent.
  15. Aww, thank you! I posted it this afternoon - "let's call this being The Reader's friend" and am getting some good feedback.
  16. Got my haircut Did some of DS's school, heading up to do more Did the grocery store run, got the stuff needed for science tomorrow Posted all the things here, Ha.
  17. I'd love if you would read the follow-up I posted later on/up thread and see if you still think this all applies. Your response makes me wonder if I'm mislabeling what happened, or misrepresenting it, or overreacting b/c of my DH's reaction, or......anyway, now that I've described it, I'd love to hear your take again, whether it changes or not.
  18. This guy is....hmmm....the kind of guy who's pretty boasty, if that makes sense. So it actually does fit with his personality that he'd do this as a sort of flex or something, trying to get to my DH (which he definitely did). Ha! Yes we do. It's a lot of fun; I highly recommend it. I like your advice, and appreciate the back-up in case it happens again 😉 Okay, this is helpful too. I really can't imagine it happening again, just due to the setting and all. this is helpful as well. I appreciate the scripted replies, just in case. I added the stuff about my dh upthread. He is of the opinion we just ignore the guy, but in talking through the....emotions? feelings? ick-ness? of the event, he'd really rather I not keep bringing it up, so, you guys.
  19. Oh, yes, we fence together; I'm not ever at the club w/o DH, and I mean, we're pretty obviously a pair. And this guy is not always there. And I'm not looking for a new club. I can't imagine that, in the absence of alcohol, bars, New Orleans, etc. it will ever happen again. I just am not sure how to relax and be cordial to him again. We used to, at the weekly social thing, sit with him, chat about vacations we've taken, talk about our kids, trips we want to take, etc. I cannot picture talking to him like that anymore, and am just not sure if he will call me out on it at some point -- "hey, you never sit with me anymore? what's up?" (ummm, dude, you made me wildly uncomfortable, remember...?) I am definitely in the camp of -- this really doesn't need to be dragged out in public/cause drama. Not unless it repeats or something. Which I doubt.
  20. see below/above for the thing about telling his wife - I've never met her, so that would be weird. Dh....so, the thing that happened was this: We were in New Orleans for a tournament. After the tournament, everyone from our club went out to dinner together. Then after dinner, all the grown-ups without kids present all went out to various piano bars, etc. together. In the course of the evening, a couple of comments were made that could have been innocent, or not. Then at the piano bar, we're all singing along to songs together (the whole group) (I was the only female) and at one point, the guy points at me in the course of the song. I, being clueless, point back at him, thinking we're just goofing off. Apparently he was not just goofing off. So, DH at that point was pretty upset with me, for encouraging this flirting that I as of yet did not realize was happening. Up to that point, I just thought "group of friends, all being goofy, hanging out, etc." As we left that place and walked to the next place, we passed a person wearing a skin tight red body suit. Guy says "Oooh, Reader, you should get an outfit like that!" which was the overt comment I mentioned. So, not down right "hey, let's go back to my place" or anything like that, but a definite vibe of "I'm completely envisioning you in that right now..." which made me uncomfortable. So I replied, "ummm, I think you should tell *your wife* to get an outfit like that if you like it, and I will let *my husband* pick out what he wants to see *me* in....." Dude followed up with, "Oh, sure; Reader's Husband, what color do you pick?? Blue...? Purple?" (still with a very "but I'm totally envisioning her in it either way" kind of vibe). DH ignored him and did not respond. I kept my distance the rest of the night, realized that the earlier "could have been innocent or not" comments probably weren't, pondered the fact that the dude I thought was an upstanding family man, wasn't, but the dude I thought was a massive drunk and not someone I'd want to be around while he is drinking turned out to be a bigger gentleman than the so-called family guy, and isn't it fascinating what alcohol shows you about people. DH and I sorted out the whole thing about him being annoyed with *me* for this guys behavior, (I mean, he also was/is mad at the guy, more than at me, but the song bit annoyed him with me as well as the dude), and all of that is fine now. And I thought ignoring the guy was good, but then got the Facebook friend request from him yesterday, so now I'm wondering.....
  21. oh, the fencing coaches would absolutely shut this down if it happened at the club or at a club sanctioned event or anything like that. All of them, not just the female coach. I really don't think this is this guy's normal MO although, of course, I could be wrong. I have honestly never even met his wife, so while I do see your point, I have no idea how on earth to even go about that, should I want to. He comes and fences at our club, but his wife has never come. I suppose I might meet her if we go to a tournament at his club, although not sure. I'd feel very weird seeking her out just to say "so, when we were all out of town, this happened...." when she's probably never even heard of me.
  22. ****all done --- thanks, everyone, for the input! I really appreciate it!***** Okay, so.... cutting out a zillion tiny details that are maybe irrelevant Recently, while out with some friends from our fencing club, it became apparent that one of the guys (also married) was flirting with me/making comments of a mildly s-xual nature towards me. This was very likely alcohol fueled, but still made me feel uncomfortable (and once the really overt comment was made, I realized several seemingly innocent comments earlier in the evening likely weren't as innocent as I'd thought). DH was present for all of this and actually caught on to the guy's intent sooner than I did. Anyway, the part that I'm struggling with -- this guy comes to our same fencing club, and so I'll continue to interact with him on a pretty regular basis. We will have to fence each other, our fencing club has a weekly hang-out time that he often attends (and DH & I do as well, and are not giving that up), and just in general be around him. Last week he avoided us/we avoided him.....but then yesterday he sent me a friend request on FB (which I denied). So now I'm stumped. Do I just chalk it up to "he was drunk and didn't know what he was saying/doing" (he has always before this come across as quite a family guy)? Do I keep my distance (which he and probably others will likely notice)? Do I stay cordial and keep it at that? If any of the folks who notice a shift in my demeanor towards him, ask, what on earth do I answer? (I mean, can you just say, "well, when we were in NO, he was hitting on me...."?) Or, do I convince myself I'm overreacting, he was just kidding around, it meant nothing, just let things go back to normal...? And *who* do you guys process this kind of stuff with??? because I'd love to sit down with a friend over coffee and hash out all of the specifics of it, this is what was said, is that how you'd take it, what could I have done differently, how would you have responded when.......etc....but I don't think any of my current friends (well, the one who moved out of state) would be good for this. And then there's also the whole other issue of how DH responded to all of this, but I think he and I have mostly sorted that out now. But this whole thing made me realize....I need more friends. (my fencing coach is becoming a good friend, but for obvious reasons, I didn't feel she's a good choice here....). Thoughts????
  23. Yes, I definitely find that for some topics, you need that shared world view.
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