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I ran a fever and I can’t think when that has happened to me before with a flu shot. Started about 4 hours after and continued for about 12 hours, on and off. Low grade. No other issues, other than a lot of fatigue, and then totally normal after that.
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Could it have ended up in the fast food bag and gotten thrown out? Inevitably when I can’t find something it’s in the trash. It’s embarrassing how many times I’ve had to go through the trash. Most significantly…for my wedding ring.
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Got mine today! Very sore arm tonight but thankful to walk into Kroger today (no appointment) and get the shot 5 minutes later.
One son had his flu shot about a month ago—need to get the rest of the family taken care of this weekend.
Thanks for the reminder!
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Now I want several of these that others have posted! What about this?
https://www.mobstub.com/d/Soft-Comfy-Plush-Pea-Coat-12-Colors
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For the AM snack, I’d just do assorted bars (like granola bars, kind bars, etc…) or muffins, plus coffee and bananas/clementines. Quick to grab and go.
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4 hours ago, kbutton said:
Lining up by height first can fix that. You can still have team captains, but count off the other students if there is a need to make sure that the strongest two athletes are split up on different teams.
I think choosing teams is fraught and could go by the wayside.
In my experience as a teacher, lining up by height is fraught with other problems. You have children that are embarrassed that they are short/tall and this draws greater attention to it. A co-teacher had a parent terribly upset with her about doing this very thing (her son was a very late bloomer and sensitive about his height).
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1. You’ve got this.
2. This is happening to you because you’re so strong.Or really any phrase when something bad is happening but the person talking to me MUST find what’s positive about it. No, just mourn with me. That’s enough.
It has helped me learn how to mourn with others. For that, I am grateful.-
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1 minute ago, katilac said:
It's not an entire room full of stuff; OP said that her mom had an entire room full of crafting supplies, and she had received her portion.
I stand corrected. My apologies for misunderstanding.
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I can’t really fathom keeping an entire room full of crafting supplies unless I (or someone in the house) was actively using them. I would keep a nice amount for your daughter, let her have a blast, and then give all the rest to siblings/cousins so everyone could enjoy.
For the record, I don’t keep things that no one in the house uses, so that very much guides my answer.
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This solves nothing but keep in mind most 11th grade students in my school are 16 turning 17. Some of this may simply be an age thing and feelings of overwhelm that she’s possibly not quite ready for what she’s doing.
For my 11th grade child, he struggled with this when he was 14/15 (9th grade). We basically had natural consequences from his teachers/work place plus added consequences from me where appropriate. This was along with some scaffolding provided to help him succeed. This scaffolding looked like: clearing out his room of unused/unwanted things to make it easier to keep clean/not lose things. Regularly cleaning out locker and backpack. Requiring all things for the morning to be fully ready the night before. Sitting down once a week to talk through the week. Making him explain how he was going to get things done, what his plan was (and then discussing holes in it).
Now, at 16 (almost 17), 11th grade, he’s much better but these are things he will likely always struggle with (he’s just like my husband who continues to work on executive function in his 40’s).-
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I absolutely love St. Simon’s Island. I’d pick that for a quieter, scenic place to walk\relax.
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I really prefer a hot, easy lunch so I always bring a thermos to work. Generally it’s just leftovers from dinner the night before. I heat it nice and hot while I grab my coffee, put it in the thermos and…done! I’ve also made something simple I really like (like an easy vegetable soup) over the weekend and just heat a portion each morning. All I have to do is add a napkin and a fork or spoon.
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No, that’s not forgiveness. But it’s also not unforgiving/holding a grudge. To me it’s just…different. It’s being aware of how someone has hurt you and that that person doesn’t feel safe. And so you put up some barriers/guard yourself. And perhaps, it seems, for quite a good reason. If the offender in this, over time, has different behaviors, those barriers start to come down. But that takes a lot of time, many steps down the road, and trust restored. It’s a hard road for sure and one I’m somewhat wrestling with myself.
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1 minute ago, Jean in Newcastle said:
Yikes. I didn’t know that I had to ask people about possible hidden dairy in cooked ground meat.
Same exact thought!! I always consider that a safe one with my allergies. Not after this.
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Differin and proactiv worked very well here for my two kids who struggled somewhat with acne as long as they were used diligently. Both ended up with totally clear skin.
Diet also made a huge difference too as did lots of water.
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6 minutes ago, Ann.without.an.e said:
Because I am deeply an empath who often sees all sides and has empathy for all sides in things like this. I think both are simultaneously true: she is hurt because she didn't get the closure she wanted and our decision created that dynamic. I also think it is equally true that we had no ill intent, did nothing inherently wrong, and she is as someone said here and I loved the phrase "taking a paper cut to the ER". So there will also be a side of me who sees both sides in most reasonable arguments and I will question if peace should be made by acknowledging the pain that is there. And if peace can be made in a way that doesn't cower, what does that hurt. To text and say I am sorry that moving your things took away closure from you. End of story.
I don't think further apology is correct here, even to make peace. And honestly, I think that too much apology has already happened. I totally get feeling bad that your child feels bad. BUT this continued apology is legitimizing her feelings, in what seem to me to be unhealthy ways. Apologizing for not letting her have closure makes this feel like such a bigger deal than it is.
She could have come over any time from when she got engaged and to when she got married. She could have apologized at the wedding for running out of time and ask if she could come over the week after they got back. She can STILL have closure by coming over and getting all the boxes today and lingering over them for weeks! It is so crazily dramatic and she is ensnaring everyone else in the drama. I would stop apologizing completely. Be kind. Be loving. Ask about fun things in her day. But do not apologize when she is in the wrong for her reaction to a simple, small thing.
Her pain is so overblown in this situation that continually pacifying or apologizing for it gives it legitimacy I don't think it should have. And that doesn't give her the space to possibly realize that her feelings are way overblown. It just keeps reinforcing that she is correct. That will not help her future mental health.
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I would NOT send that long text. It feels like pacifying them while throwing your DH under the bus (agreeing with cat woman here). If they want to solve the issue, they can reach out to your DH themselves or he can reach out to them. I’d be inclined to disengage, at least for awhile, and let them think things over for themselves. Basically I would be trying to disentangle myself from all the drama they’re hoisting upon your house. I mean, I wouldn’t be unkind in any way. And if they texted or call or came by, I would be friendly and kind. But it feels like you just keep apologizing again and again first for yourself and now for your husband while they claim no responsibility whatsoever.
Adding an edit: I think the issue I see is as you continually apologize and explain, it creates the impression that you and your husband are the sole offenders here. Which is just not the case. It lets them totally off the hook.
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1 hour ago, maize said:
An audiologist will be able to tell whether a hearing aid in the worse ear is beneficial or not. My husband's hearing impairment in his left ear is so profound that no audiologist has ever recommended a hearing aid for that ear. What he gets is a bi-cross system where he does wear a microphone-only type aid in the left ear that feeds the sound to the hearing aid in his right ear (so he can gear sounds coming from his left side). If she can hear with an aid in the worse ear it is probably better to have it than to just rely on the better ear.
I would have her go to an independent audiologist at least every few years.
This is exactly the same for me. In my bad ear, no amount of amplification will help. I have a cross system that feeds sound from my bad ear into my other ear that is not impaired. My ent said that if anyone ever offered me a hearing aid for my impaired ear to run—that they didn’t know what they were doing.
They do need to be cleaned fairly frequently so I’d also check that.-
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3 hours ago, Lady Florida. said:
I can't wait for my new glasses to arrive, hopefully some time next week. I keep reading "Canada diet folks" and keep wondering why dieting in Canada is different from the rest of the world. 😂
Same. Four times in a row before I finally figured it out!
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23 hours ago, cuckoomamma said:
We know several people who have chosen to brace and use Schroth instead of surgery. Not sure if you’ve already decided you’d prefer to go with surgery or didn’t know it was an option even with advanced curves. Dm me if you’re interested.
We actually braced for 20 months (20-22 hours a day) before my daughters surgery in hopes of it not going the route it went. Sadly, it continued to worsen although others definitely have success with that.
One thing we found out through the process. Generally, the surgery can correct about 50-55% of the curve. So for us, once we knew it was continuing to worsen, we decided to go ahead so as to stop the procession and leave her with a smaller curve now than 50% of what it would be in a few years. Maybe others know that, but I did not. They did manage about 65% on one of her curves and right at 50 for the other.
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4 hours ago, hshibley said:
Momto3innc are you in nc? If so do you mind mentioning who did the surgery? When you say 2 large curve what were the angles of the curves? Where you originally told out of school for 6 weeks? We we’re told 3. Thanks. My 16yo ds is having spinal fusion this May for scoliosis in NC.
I’m no longer in NC—we’re actually in OH now. Her curves were about 55 and 40 if I remember correctly. I’m sure many have bigger but they seem big on the X-ray! 🙂
The surgeon told us ahead of time that he has very occasionally cleared someone at 4 weeks for school but that 6 weeks was more normal. Her note for school actually released her for 8 weeks. While she did go back at 6 weeks, that was part time. Her school is fabulous and worked with her. She was full time by 8 weeks. For her, the challenge was that sitting was her most uncomfortable position particularly as she ended up with a lot of nerve pain in her thighs from the surgery. Once that got better, sitting (and school) were much easier.
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Two more things: we moved her bed downstairs for a couple weeks (she wasn’t restricted from the stairs but it was a lot for her at first). The only two positions that worked for the first couple weeks were in bed with wedge pillows and in a recliner—we borrowed a recliner from a friend since we didn’t have one.
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My daughter had spinal fusion in December (two titanium rods and screws from T3-L3). To be very frank, recovery was worse than we expected but we are glad we did it.
She was in the hospital for 4 days, out of school for 6 weeks. Definitely be on top of pain management. Understanding the pain scale and also being willing to speak up are huge. My daughter would act better for the nurse and break down sobbing when they left. I told her I was not the one giving out meds!!While she had the pain pump and all the IV meds, she was reasonably comfortable. Our worst days were the first couple days home when she was first on oral meds. She really turned a corner at about 4 weeks. Very restricted for first 3 months (no bending, lifting, or twisting), slight restrictions til 6 months.
Things we really needed: shower chair (they gave us one), extra tegaderm, two adjustable wedge pillows for her bed, heated rice things, ice packs (hospital gave us great ones), plus these squishy positioner things the hospital sent home.
When she was in a ton of pain, we distracted with lots and lots of screens…even overnight. She just needed something to think about other than the pain but couldn’t focus on anything else. Once she felt better, she was doing school, crafts, FaceTime with friends, tons of reading, etc…
That got long! Feel free to ask anything. She had two large curves and it was a lot. Your child’s may be much simpler. Despite all I wrote…so glad we did it and it’s behind us.
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There are very few things I would go to social media to complain about. This would be one if they did not make it right. Totally unacceptable.
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How often do you clean your bathtub
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My separate tub in the master bath? Very rarely. We just never use it and it only collects dust. My da who cleans the bathrooms generally wipes the dust down once every week or two. My kids’ bath has a tub/shower combo. That gets cleaned weekly and generally needs a better clean once a month due to my son not being awesome at the weekly clean.
There is a bottle of daily shower cleaner in both bathrooms that is supposed to be sprayed on after the last shower of the day. My family is not super successful at this but when they are, cleaning is extremely minimal.