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  1. That part made me login to agree about missing that aspect. Even the stuff I used back in the day now has an expensive option with some online school that has accreditation because parents don't really want to do the work and no one really thinks homeschoolers get into college or get a job, or know what they want to do. sigh. oops. the oven timer sounded, time to check the banana bread... guess it is kinda symbolic of stick a fork in it, our style is done.
  2. We had a cat that needed prozac. Very thankful for a local compounding pharmacy that gave us a topical version. glad the vet figured out kitty's needs and cat is doing better. yeah!!! happy kitty
  3. didn't see this last week on Palm Sunday, but seeing it on Easter Sunday with the bump. thank you for this. I enjoy new to me songs and reviewing one I knew once upon a time.... Never heard of All Glory, Laud and Honor until this thread. listened on youtube. that's nice. Then someone mentioned Hosanna Loud Hosanna. looked it up and thought "wait, the Methodist church up the street plays that with their Noon chimes/organ thing once in a while, but my brain keeps singing the words I Sing The Mighty Power of God... and then draws a blank". I guess I remember the tune on that one from going to Church of the Brethren as a kid. maybe I heard the Hosanna lyrics with it too. But when I hear the Noon and 6 pm Methodist church ringing out that tune, I recognize it with an opening line. and thanks to this thread, I now have new lyrics to hear. yeah!! good thing!
  4. if it helps anyone, try this site for recorded (and maybe live) webinars on ABLE accounts https://www.ablenrc.org/ Been helpful in a local support group I'm in where we're dealing with ssi and able with adult children.
  5. congratulations and glad it was a good day!
  6. @Faith-manor thanks. I felt something was off on it since only thing I was finding was tabloid in nature. appreciate the help on what to research 🙂
  7. bumping with an update. as of March 17, 2023, some news and other sources are saying his prison time was extended by 2 months due to allegedly having contraband (cell phone) . going from august 2, 2032 to october 2. Other sources earlier this week said it was extended by 10 days from aug 2 to aug 12. But the information changed. (edit to add: some of the online sources say August 12 to 22 (instead of 2 or 12 that other tabloids say. ) Then the october date is the new info.) looking forward to the KNWA source that faith manor mentions below. but the big point remains that it's not august anymore.
  8. hugs. been watching a friend of mine going through very similar thing within last few weeks. It's overwhelming stuff to do at long distance.
  9. store bought dessert pie. spaghetti pizza pie (pioneer woman recipe)
  10. bummer to miss the trip. We had to delay a trip at Christmas/New Years because I still showed faint positive at day 10. cleared on 11th and got in the car. Glad we waited just to be cautious and all that. Hoping the next 7 days of isolating isn't too bad. Glad you contacted your doctor. oh on the how long with dh... my story (not advice, just my story) is that dh was the first in household with symptoms and he tested negative twice in 96 hours. rest of us showed symptoms during that 96 hour and tested positive.
  11. I remember when oldest was college age and on flights, she would update with texting. I can't recall if it was specific times set up or not. Never thought of it as any negative connotation. When I was college age, I'd find pay phone with the at&t calling card and update my parent eventually. It just seemed like manners to me. not invasive. Even now when we travel to visit my elderly mom, we send text updates that we left and got to hotel mid way there.. and then she feels better if we send updates while driving. Doesn't feel to me that she's crossing boundaries, but just caring. If I got play by play texts these days, I'd think my dh or children were bored in the airport and needing interaction. (edit to add: my mom does ask us to check in. I'm ok with that. doesn't seem hovering over a middle age adult child to me. just seems she's nervous with us traveling and needs hear from us) I asked oldest (when was living at home) and dh to provide some check in. I did that from point of view of seems wise that someone has updates when traveling)
  12. thank you for starting this thread. It made me look at our passports and see who needs to deal with renewal this year. oh dear, we have one expiring in a few weeks and another one after that this year. good thing no trips planned soon. but just time to renew. thanks for heads up on timing issues. appreciate it
  13. this part: Again, he does not at all check on her whilst driving and does not stop the vehicle to check on her. He stops the vehicle in order to make a traffic stop, and only notices that she is completely still and unresponsive when he returns to the cruiser. Then he panics (bc he knows he done fucked up), and calls for help. He does not prop her up. I don't think he even tries, but it wouldn't have worked anyway, because she was utterly unconscious and probably already stroking out. I'm the bad person everyone is yelling at. I did not intend to say that all the cops present were good and perfect. I was trying to point out stuff like the "paddy wagon driver", or the officer who tried to instruct her on using the inhaler. (one was mean, one was saying stuff like you have to do that again.) I wasn't expecting to see anyone who was kind but there were some. I hated when they used F word toward her. That is berating. so I stand corrected on that point that there was berating going on by some. Others were using firm "not buying it" voices because they relied on what hospital said. on the cruiser part. What I saw/heard was that he checks by asking her "need help?" after she goes quiet. Now I'm questioning my own notes on when he said that. before traffic stop or not? I don't know and dont' want to watch again. In my thinking that was checking. But now I see how that word choice was mistaken that maybe I was implying he checked her for pulse or other things, or stopped the car just for that. So I can understand the anger toward me since I gave a different impression on "check" when it was more of "asks her Need help?" I didn't make that up as a coping thing to deal with watching the video, right? he does asks that. right? That last 16 minutes of the video in the cruiser is just so hard to watch. She goes downhill so quickly and it's so sad. I really thought he props her up just before he pulls her hair. She doesn't sit herself up to suddenly appear in the camera view. So I don't know how else to describe that he did something that took her from out of view while laying down into camera view in a more vertical position for a short time before she falls again out of camera view for rest of video. But you seem adamant he did NOT do anything like that. I guess prop is wrong word. yet another example that i'll have to tell my doctor that this really is early onset demetia with my language issues in the last months. anyway... I'll admit that the cruiser part was so hard for me to watch that I couldn't write about how much I cried as her noises changes (stroke I guess is what everyone is saying. I'm not in know on that while it was happening. I would have thought heart attack. I really do not know what a stroke looks like even though everyone else on this forum does. I cried also when I realized that there was nothing the car driver could do. When she is quiet it is the hardest part of the whole thing. I paused crying when I heard him ask the dispatch something to the effect of are you sure there isn't ...." from what I heard my mind made me think that he was asking for ambulance to get there quicker and it was important. That to me was that he realized and knew. I'm not a good writer or talker anymore and was just trying to share some commentary I had while watching the video. I watched it and thought "this is not what I was expecting from the descriptions". I was expecting something else. maybe that's my point. The Lord's day comment that I made was in context of me wishing that even if he was calling Sunday that (for any reason, legit or mocking), why didn't he think of a Chaplain when she asked for "the preacher". I'm not sure how that was taken wrongly but it was. I'm sorry. As someone who is struggling with language and talking in the last few months, I often say the wrong word and wish people could guess the context like I think she meant. No, I didn't give a play by play. and I think in my original post I must have said enough that at least one person knew I saw bad stuff that I mentioned. The video is long. and no they weren't kindly gently telling her to step up. But they weren't dragging her either even if they asked about it. I think farrar's comment way above helps to explain what I was seeing: "That's so terrible. So many people failing this woman on so many levels. I feel like people put god-like trust in healthcare workers. When the healthcare workers say, hey, she's fine, she's faking it, it encourages cops -- who are already trained to treat people like a threat and not a person most of the time -- to ignore any common sense about a person who is literally in their death throes. " That is what I was trying to explain in my posts. In addition to the stuff others mentioned..... Here are some other bad things I noticed: In the first part of the video, while talking to the first officer, security calls her a PITA or says something that she being one. I don't think she was in ear shot of that comment. There's the weird thing with the Lysol can. I don't know if others have mentioned that already. That was one of the first clips I saw and out of context I thought oh my goodness they didn't spray her with that did they. No. But even in context I barely understand it. The one cop sprayed the other to help clean him..? maybe? what? no that's not all of the bad stuff. just a few. I know this will not be popular to hear, but I was glad to see the first officer walk away for a moment at the beginning when he was losing his temper and they were still in the covered section of the parking area. She had said something stupid to him about him "not hurting me again". He hadn't done anything to her at that point except get her side of the story and the security side of the story and come back to talk with her. I can't remember exactly what he said, and don't want to watch again, but I do think he made a good choice to walk away from it until later. He didn't get verbally mean with her but stepped away from that comment. I was surprised and saddened at how quickly she went from holding more of a conservation at the very beginning (able to tell what was going on, stating name, asking to call the preacher, stating that she wasn't like that) into suddenly not able to do that. and on a side note: I completely agree with poster who brought up bias against overweight and disability. I see that often in the community (I'm part of disability groups).
  14. agreeing. that's how I felt too. Not so much the individual doctors and medical people in this case at 3 locations (nursing home, and two hospitals). But overall everyone is at their limit and couldnt' do it. My own recent emergency visits with chest pains showed me the system is overwhelmed. and people left during covid, etc..... that's the sad, heartbreaking side of all of this topic.
  15. I kept asking around in the local disability support groups to find out who everyone else locally was using. well, ok the first one I tried was actually recommended by the psychologist who did the SSI eval. Person told me "I can see clearly she needs the help. and you have years of documentation. But the damn rules are there.. so I have to be Scrooge on this.... but wink wink I didn't give you this name, but wink wink...." however that lawyer was not able to take another case at the time. I just had to ask the other moms "who has a good lawyer to help me" and kept calling... and am still calling. someone will return my inquiry. I'm sure that will happen. I hope that will happen. and for things like conservatorships, the local ARC chapter hosted some workshops and everyone in the room got business cards. and with vocational rehab, I just called. We're in progress on that. maybe my dd can work 15 hours a week with job coach on site.
  16. echoing to look into SNT (special needs trusts) and ABLE accounts. on the ABLE accounts, double check in your state about the amount limits in that account. Where I live, it's 17,000/year that can be placed in ABLE account (so if the will and insurance leave more... hmmmmm, better have that SNT). If the amount in ABLE goes above 100,000 person can lose SSI, but not necessarily lose medicaid, and there's the medicaid payback rules with it. Still worth looking into, but good to know to ask those things. make the trust the beneficiary not the person because it impacts how much assets the person has and impacts benefits. I don't know if those things are state specific on dollar amounts. but just attended a workshop on that a few weeks ago here. and be prepared to get legal help for SSI. still working on that with my 20 y.o. (she wasn't eligible for ssi until she turns 18 due to our income, but it was not automatic and we're still in the appeal process. things were very slow with covid ) eye roll at the process. as far as I understand the legal help gets paid a set percentage from back payments and the gov't controls that percentage or something. and yes, I have paper trail copies of all those records going back to when my youngest was 1 year old. lovely. and been preparing well before she turned 18 just to be clear on that.. A friend is almost about to become his younger brother's caregiver and is looking into group home situations. Nothing wrong if you don't/can't be full time caregiver. Several at my church's disability ministry group have decided to be "family member" and hire out caregiver and living arrangements. no shame in that.
  17. Does being a "college kid" count. Didn't hear of homeschooling until I was in my second year of college (late 80s). It was a church with modern clothing and women with degrees, and non traditional music style. There was a paper flyer on the bulletin board at the church I attended. It announced when they were meeting for arts and music class together. I asked someone standing next to me who was getting the info "what is this?" She explained it and I thought it sounded interesting. I didn't know much more about it or hear more for at least ten years and two cities later and gave it a try.
  18. and a review of 1980s music... 99 red balloons.
  19. yes on the ones listed. I've lived in several cities over my life so meeting people at work, or at "mommy and me" programs helped with that. I went to university in large city and lived in dorms. So more opportunity. (eta: oh wait, I don't know many JW as friends. there are the two ladies who visit my house with literature and I chat with them for a few minutes. but I wouldn't say we're friends) I'll add on the list: yes, I do know many of the priestly staff of the Neo-pagan (that's how they self identify) congregation across the river. That's definitely a minority group in our area. Fun story with my oldest and knowing others in other faiths. When she was in college (attended a local one), she took a World Religions class (Gen Ed thing). part of the course was to go on field trips to churches/congregations in town. For the field trip to the larger Jewish synagogue (reformed) in town, the professor had to cancel due to schedule conflicts. Oldest asked out loud "Can I call my friend from the Orthodox synagogue and see if we can visit there?" professor looked her and said, " you have friends there? Oh I've always wanted to visit the Orthodox synagogue but didn't have a connection to call and it just seemed awkward to ask." "Oh yes, we met at the game room at the comic book store. On Saturday nights we wait for him to end Sabbath so he can drive to the store. " And sure enough, oldest was able to ask him to ask the rabbi for field trip and got it set up. Rabbi was glad to be asked and Professor made a new academic contact that day. Oldest was homeschooled and grew up in church/youth group stuff. currently part of the neo-pagan church mentioned earlier.
  20. yep another one over here, (well, dh and youngest doing the work...)
  21. (spit take.. giggle. LOL) especially since Fiji Island Restaurant closed. That motel was my landmark as a kid to know that we were near the restaurant. I knew I remembered the motel for something. giggle. Mill Mountain Star. yeah that qualifies as historical landmark of weird stuff. It's an awesome landmark for final approach to the airport. my dad was a small plane pilot. Mill Mountain overlook with the Star. yep, date night for high schoolers. yep. yep fun place to look at the valley.
  22. yep while googling, I saw the story in richmond and did not want to link to that. would need serious warning labels because of the nature. That's cool with the statue. thumbs up. and you mean to tell me you don't have a flood of '85 story. LOL. Where I currently live, I don't have an ice storm of 94 story. LOL it's all good. (and for those wondering on my reference ,Andrew Lewis was a revolutionary war general, and there are road sign markers where his mansion and fort were)
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